It was exciting and a little dangerous
Dangerous? How so?It was exciting and a little dangerous
I agree with Macnfries. Everyone is getting used. I like it. Some of these cucks and hotwives may be a bit more selfish but Jess has always been there for me and we wouldn't still be together if we were kidding ourselves. If your in a hotwife relationship you must enjoy something about it or you would leave. As far as the fucking or making love, who cares? I know at the end of the day she loves me and that's all I care about.
I don't know, it sounds a lot like you love him because you control him and get everything you want from him.
Fair question! I like to think its all part of the sex mind games me and hubby are playing. Dont forget it was hubby who wanted me to have sex with black guys, it turns him on amazingly. And the 'chastity' and the teasing turns him on more! Ive told him my ass is BBC only and im considering going all the way BBC only but this just excites him more. Its a big, sexy game and we play it ok as we both know how far we can push each other!
But i love hubby, he loves me. Will i let him have sex with me in the future, probably but he likes the 'mistress domination' and chastity at the moment! X
Interesting. Its a little bit late for therapy now as weve been doing this for last couple of years!Well if he got the ball rolling by asking you to fulfill this fantasy for him, then he let the genie out of the bottle and he should expect anything to happen. And if he's further encouraging you to do this, then it really isn't your fault, lol!
But I would actually recommend seeing a therapist, just to ensure that this is a real desire, and not something caused by some childhood trauma.
I don't know, it sounds a lot like you love him because you control him and get everything you want from him.
Well if he got the ball rolling by asking you to fulfill this fantasy for him, then he let the genie out of the bottle and he should expect anything to happen. And if he's further encouraging you to do this, then it really isn't your fault, lol!
I would actually recommend seeing a therapist, just to ensure that this is a real desire, and not something caused by some childhood trauma.
This is a beautiful way of thinking. Thank you for postingI think Im very lucky Im allowed to engage in what ever kind of sex I want. My view on IR sex is. You love apples you have the biggest reddest juiciest one but if today you want a orange all the apples in the world wont satisfy your hunger. They are both fruit, neither superior. Even if you cant make a pie out of a orange.
He is truly in love with you and your where I'm at in terms of motivation. I'm not just doing this for my own sexual enjoyment, I'm doing this for Stephen as wellMy husband and I did go to a therapist. My biggest problem with my husband was, and still is, that he is too "Charlie Brown" for me. He believes that no women are attracted to him, that his penis is to small for anyone to want or like, and he accepts anything and has little care for his own happiness. Yet, his happiness is very important to him. The problem is that for him to be happy, I have to have sex with other men. That is the one thing that makes and keeps him happy.
When we went to therapy, our therapist asked me what I would change about my husband, if I could. My response was that I would want him to be more of a decision maker, more stand up in terms of what he wants in life. I told our therapist that if I could change anything, it would be my husband's confidence level in himself and his self worth.
When our therapist asked me if I enjoyed having sex with other men, I, of course, said yes. I told our therapist that it wasn't the sex I was having with other men that was the problem. The problem was that my husband didn't see himself as worthy, of anything.
When our therapist asked my husband what his perception of sex was, my husband answered, "That's what other men are for." When our therapist asked my husband to define love, his response was, "Love is the willingness to put others first."
When my husband and I did have intercourse, he preferred it to be after I'd had sex with several other men. My husband told me long ago, "There is no better feeling than a used pussy." The problem was that after I'd had sex with several other men I couldn't feel my husband in me, or know if he was in me at all.
Our therapist ended up saying that if I enjoyed sex with other men, and that doing so was my husband's primary source of happiness, that what we were doing seemed to work and that we should continue the way we had been. And we have.
I will admit that other women, my friends included, see my husband as a "great guy." Yet, none of my friends see my husband as sexually attractive. When we have gone to swing clubs no women ever show any attraction to my husband. And my husband doesn't try to be with other women, either. He feels that there are other men around and "that is what other men are for."
Although I may wish that my husband was like other men, I still love him. And although the only way for me to make my husband happy is to have sex with other men, I am willing to do so to make him happy. Yes, I enjoy sex with other men, but I probably wouldn't have sex as often with other men without my husband's constant encouragement.
http://gawker.com/5961233/why-no-orange-pie *LOL*I think Im very lucky Im allowed to engage in what ever kind of sex I want. My view on IR sex is. You love apples you have the biggest reddest juiciest one but if today you want a orange all the apples in the world wont satisfy your hunger. They are both fruit, neither superior. Even if you cant make a pie out of a orange.
Thanks Mrs. in charge. Most of the time I feel like we dont fit in on this site. Not with the majority of the members anyway.This is a beautiful way of thinking. Thank you for posting
I agree. This can be a daunting place to express how we live our lifestyle and the complexity of our relationships. From an outsiders standpoint, it's very easy for them to make judgements and start telling telling others what they're doing wrong ect... We are doing as we feel is the best for us and couples like us are getting what we want. I think that causes some jealousy. Keep going, I'm loving your insight!Thanks Mrs. in charge. Most of the time I feel like we dont fit in on this site. Not with the majority of the members anyway.