Hi can someone please help me I would love to see my 44 year old wife with a hung black man. She is very uptight how can I get her to start to fantasize about BBC without being pushy this will shut her down.
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You talk to her about it. And if she says "no", then you stop talking about it.
And if the idea still bugs you, then divorce your wife, pay her a really good alimony, buy her a house to live in, and then find another woman more amenable to your desires.
There are two people in every relationship, not just one. And a relationship is a partnership of equals.
And if the idea still bugs you, then divorce your wife, pay her a really good alimony, buy her a house to live in, and then find another woman more amenable to your desires.
There are two people in every relationship, not just one. And a relationship is a partnership of equals.
but there is just one thing that intrigues me. You describe yourself in your profile as a "couple" yet it seems from your post that your wife is an unwilling participant. Shouldn't your correct designation be "male" if she isn't playing an active role? This "couple" designation seems to be misleading, in my opinion.
I don't want to ******* anything on her at all I put couple do to the fact we are a couple and I love her and do not want a divorce. The idea is in my head do to the fact that when we were dating she cheated on me with an x who after talking with mutual female friends years later when we had all been drinking I found out he was very well hung. She has said size does not matter but at times her actions say otherwise. Sorry if you feel I should not have this idea but I do.
It's not the idea at all. You go ahead and don't let anyone stop you. But a "couple" described in their profile as only "wishing to chat with males" is, in my opinion (and it is only my opinion) very misleading and will lead to complications and disappointments. Had you put your post as your profile message, it might make things clearer.
But then again, what's it got to do with me?
No worries not my goal is not to mislead anyone sorry if that is the case and your input is welcome thank you for it. If I may ask what is your situation?
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it's all on my profile
You are sexy thanks for taking time to talk to me
im in agreement with Pageant - I think you have this "fantasy" in your mind but its not in reality. Your wife has no idea how you feel or want. You are basically emotionally cheating on her.
I have dealt with this issue with husbands before, I just helped a husband in CA get through this issue, he just emailed me to tell me "i think my wife likes me more now."
Freak, i think you should probably talk to your wife, you might be surprised.
I have dealt with this issue with husbands before, I just helped a husband in CA get through this issue, he just emailed me to tell me "i think my wife likes me more now."
Freak, i think you should probably talk to your wife, you might be surprised.
We have talked a bit def. need to talk a lot more thanks
freak, don't try and kid me. You can fool yourself all you want, but you can't fool me. Ive been training cuckold couples and single men and women who desire this type of relationship for 10 years, and I can spot someone who is giving me a bunch of BS. You are giving a bunch of BS.
You have not talked to your wife. You "had" sexual related conversations sometime in the past and you are "NOW" remembering them in a nostalgic way in order to fulfill some sexual need. That is called faking it. I don't know how old you are, or your wife, but if you want to be a real adult - you have to step up to the plate and have a real conversation.
You have not talked to your wife. You "had" sexual related conversations sometime in the past and you are "NOW" remembering them in a nostalgic way in order to fulfill some sexual need. That is called faking it. I don't know how old you are, or your wife, but if you want to be a real adult - you have to step up to the plate and have a real conversation.
....It would help forum responses IF you'd expand on what you and your wife have done thus far towards adding another male to your sexual relationship. Or what discussions you've had, or fantasy play you've done.
....Do the two of you like to play with sex toys? Do you ever role play? Have the two of you ever shared sexual fantasies, and if so, what is HERS? What is her attitude towards black men ... have you ever heard her speak compliments of black males?
....I guess my point is that there is no magic button to turning your wife on to having sex with other men. Many wives are submissive to their husbands when it comes to sex ... so, they're conditioned to respond, not initiate.
....This is not an easy topic to talk about with a straight-laced partner, particularly if you have communication issues already. Plus, the two of you are at that age where you probably have children at home ... that's always an issue as far as she's concerned. Twenty-plus years of marriage, however, you should know something about her.
Hey Mac, as always you hit the nail on the head. My hope from your response and mine is that other husbands will read this and understand that fantasies are fine. In fact, they are fun and healthy. What's unhealthy is coming online behind your wife's back and trying to get your wife to cheat on you.
thats just wrong? If you love your wife, then just ask her. I have helped so many husbands talk to their wives. You just have to be kind and compassionate about it. Unfortunately too many men are just arrogant.
Safe and secure way - u tell her that u enjoy interracial cuckold sex , would love to be apart a fuck session
I don't remember you being there when we talked. I told her I love watching interracial porn and would like to take steps to seeing her with a black man is that a real talk?
We have talked some as I have said before. She is a bit uptight we do use toys I have recently purchased a Tyler Knight dildo it is big but not crazy big we have used it twice the first time she stopped the play after a few minutes she was reacting in a very positive way and I think that made her nervous. The second time was a bit different we had a night out and we were feeling good and I asked if she wanted to try it again and she responded with a deep long kiss. It is a vibrator as well so I started just on the outside and that is where I was going to keep it but right before her orgasm she pushed my hand to guide it in then she came very hard. I told her how hot it was and said maybe some day a real guy but that went no place. I have brought it up during sex play and I think I get a more honest reaction after we have had some wine but I think it makes her nervous. I am sorry if this is not what some think is right I was just looking for a bit of guidance not to be yelled at. Thanks
.... and if you feel yelled at by me, I certainly apologize. When someone asks for help on the forums I try to give the best response I can give based upon my own 25+ years of experiences with females ... they can be a complicated mechanism every now and then to work with.
There's a old book my wife encouraged me to read years ago called "Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus" ... I believe you might enjoy reading it, too. My wife was reading it on our vacation and kept laughing at things she was reading. I asked her what she was reading ... she shared a few parts of the book, but then got tired of sharing. She said, "when I'm through, I'll give it to you, ok?" ... and it did, no doubt, change my attitude towards the way I look at those complicated mechanisms called "women" ... LOL!
We read it some years back as well.... and if you feel yelled at by me, I certainly apologize. When someone asks for help on the forums I try to give the best response I can give based upon my own 25+ years of experiences with females ... they can be a complicated mechanism every now and then to work with.
There's a old book my wife encouraged me to read years ago called "Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus" ... I believe you might enjoy reading it, too. My wife was reading it on our vacation and kept laughing at things she was reading. I asked her what she was reading ... she shared a few parts of the book, but then got tired of sharing. She said, "when I'm through, I'll give it to you, ok?" ... and it did, no doubt, change my attitude towards the way I look at those complicated mechanisms called "women" ... LOL!
Dear Freak, I'm also going to apologize if you felt being "yelled" at. I don't have as much experience as Mac, and to be frank, if Mac is sensing something, he is usually dead right about it.
What tends to happen on the forums is that a man writes a really vague and all over the place post about wanting his wife or girlfriend to have sex with another man. The entire website is filled with these posts. the issue is that at least 50% of the men are not married, have no girl, and if they do have never said 1 word to their partner about it. Its all a fantasy in their own mind, which they are too afraid to speak about with the 1 person they need to talk to.
The comment you made again..." told her how hot it was and said maybe some day a real guy but that went no place," is a very troubling statement to men like me and Mac.
And I hope that you can humble yourself, for your own fantasy and for your wife whom you love. But "how dare you?" place blame on your wife for not fulfilling your fantasy of fucking someone else. You don't even realize how incredibly incentive a comment that is and how disrespectful it is to your wife and to women in general.
Mac is correct, you should re-read Men are From Mars. Your wife should do what makes her happy, bottom line and if you are honest with her, then she knows how you feel. If she does not feel comfortable fulfilling one of your many sexual fantasies and she has given it considerable thought, then drop it. Move on to the next fantasy.
I don't think your wife has given it considerable thought, because in my now more than 10 years experience you have not explained to her how important a fantasy this is to you. I know you haven't, because of the comments you make. But you should really check yourself, you are very disrespectful to your wife on this forum. All you should be saying is that your wife is the most amazing woman and that you would love to see her take a Lover because you love her and she deserves a man to please her. Anything other than that, you should probably not speak about her at all.
@hungteacher: i like how you point out the necessity of respect for the partner in a relationship. It is a shame it even needs to be mentioned in the first place.
i feel a deep commitment to my girlfriend simply because of who she is. No sexual fantasy can ever become more important to me than her.
i cannot understand how husbands make negative remarks about their own wives or write comments on a stranger(!)`s profile saying "i wish you were my wife" and such. But ******* like that happens all over on forums like this.
So this is for all the wannabe-cuckolds: If you truly want to live the lifestyle for real, you have to understand that step zero is to have a relationship with depth first. Do you and your wife feel secure in your relationship? Do both of you feel respected by the partner and free to talk about everything that moves you without the fear of being judged or rejected? Are your partner`s concerns as important for you as your own and do you listen to them closely?
If you have to answer one of these questions with "no", you should work on that and correct it first. Otherwise there will be no chance at all to fulfill your fantasy!
i feel a deep commitment to my girlfriend simply because of who she is. No sexual fantasy can ever become more important to me than her.
i cannot understand how husbands make negative remarks about their own wives or write comments on a stranger(!)`s profile saying "i wish you were my wife" and such. But ******* like that happens all over on forums like this.
So this is for all the wannabe-cuckolds: If you truly want to live the lifestyle for real, you have to understand that step zero is to have a relationship with depth first. Do you and your wife feel secure in your relationship? Do both of you feel respected by the partner and free to talk about everything that moves you without the fear of being judged or rejected? Are your partner`s concerns as important for you as your own and do you listen to them closely?
If you have to answer one of these questions with "no", you should work on that and correct it first. Otherwise there will be no chance at all to fulfill your fantasy!
