My girlfriend wanted to get a sex toy and said she wants to see it go in her so she wanted something really big and long. I was able to convince her to get a realistic black one by telling her "since it's black you can see it better going in". She went for it and we bought the 11.5" one. It took a few sessions until she was able to take the entire thing. After that she began to want to watch IR porn when using it. Now she likes to role-play that she is lost in a bad neighborhood and gets picked up by a group of black men and as she says "used". She hates the thought of anyone knowing it so we never talk about it unless the bed.