May have reached a dead end.

[husbandchris]

Over the past year, my wife and I (almost 20 years together) have discussed my desire to see her with an endowed black man. Not necessarily in a cuckold type fashion, but more towards a hotwife sharing type of scenario. She has found the idea or fantasy a turn on, which we role play, but hesitant on going forward.

In an attempt to try a different approach, I put together a slide presentation pertaining to the all the aspects of a first time BBC experience, with resource links for information about the lifestyle and feedback from others about their experiences living the lifestyle. After she watched my presentation, she thanked me for sharing and being so thorough; even learning some things in the process, but still is adamant that she could not see herself participating in such an act.

So, there it is. Unless anyone else has a suggestion. Maybe sex therapy? The only option left I see is to respect her wishes and subdue my desires...

show us your presentation..

 

[want2becuck]

Wow, surprised to see a post I made over a year ago become active again. Thank you all for your input.

To reply to the the statement that my approach was mechanical, I can see how my post gave that perception. At the time, I felt that a power point presentation was the next logical step to entice her to enlighten herself concerning a swinging/cuckold/hot wife/queen of spades lifestyles and the differences between them. It was more of an education aid than a proposal. We are both educated individuals. Together, we have never jumped into anything or made a decision without any foreknowledge on what we were embarking. The power point was more of me following suit on how we approached other aspects of our life.

I wholeheartedly respect her wishes. I am not out to hurt her in any way. She is not only my wife, but my best friend. Expanding our sexual experiences is something we positively experience together or not at all. Honestly, I feel sharing my darker desires has empowered her to be more open about her growing fantasies, but neither of us have been pushing the subject(s).

We do currently role play threesome scenarios, watch IR or threesome porn together and incorporate toys. Over the past year she appears to be opening up to the idea of a possible MFM threesome, me being one of the men. She seems to be quite interested in the idea of being double penetrated (vaginally and anally). She has also shared that she sometimes fantasizes about a possible sexual encounter with another woman.

Overall, we are in a great place right now and we will see what the future holds.