Definitely agree about the submissive aspect. And that is a big part of the appeal (for both parties, I think).Me too! I HATED it at first, but my black BF like it so I kept doing it for him. After awhile I started liking it, then I started CRAVING it and asking for it! That's the ultimate submissive act for me (well, one of them!) and it just turns me on now! Love your description, that's just how I like it. Start out slow, then OWN it! LOL!