Welcome to the club.
First let me say that my wife is a very shy quite submissive reserved type girl. Is not into dirty talk being called names or anything like that. She was a virgin until she was 24 and has been raised in a religious household.
Been together over 22 years every time we saw a interracial couple she was always saying that’s gross or sick or something to that effect. Mostly because of her upbringing correction totally because of it. I myself never really put much thought into it as it didn’t bother me who someone dated I was raised differently. I had no desire or fantasy about it at all.
Fast forward 20 years and she meets someone a female at work who she becomes great friends with. They go out together, shopping together and she was going over to her house to cookouts and spent the night a few times.
Later after I meet the couple found out he was black. The past six months there has been commits and jokes about bbc. I am trying to keep this short so going to just get to the point.
About a month ago she said she had a dream and it was sexual, I asked was I good and she said it wasn’t with you, I dreamed I was having sex with a black guy. I was curious myself so watched some IR porn and was a turn on but I didn’t say anything.
After looking some stuff up about inquiring into your wife’s fantasies I finally build up the courage to say something.
I was out of town last Friday night and we were on the phone talking about sex and I told her I had a fantasy but was afraid to say something, she asked what it was. I then proceeded to explain that I had no idea where it was coming from if it was her friend or her dream but that I had a dream about her being with a black guy. She said really and…… I then said it was really hot and exciting.
She then asked so what’s the fantasy and I told her I was afraid to tell her and she said just say it. After some chat about the dream she finally asked me if I wanted to see her do it with a black guy. I said absolutely I think it is such a turn on.
We chatted a little she was not offended but did say she could never do that. I asked just out of curiosity has she ever thought about it or had fantasies about it and she said yes a little, but I wouldn’t want to let my family down. I explained to her that it’s all about her. I am in not in anyway unhappy with our relationship., but do find this extremely exciting. We got off the phone and went to bed.
When I got home Saturday evening we were going out to dinner and as soon I as got home I called her and said I was outside. She got in the car and immediately kissed me very passionately for a minute or so and said let’s go. We didn’t talk at dinner about it but after dinner we went and got coffee and spoke a little about it. I asked if she was mad or upset and she said no. She then told me she had just watched some IR porn and it wasn’t a big deal that I said that. I asked was that last night after we got off the phone and she said no. So I asked if she if she had watch IR in the last 3 months she said yes.
We went home and I said I looked up something and wanted to know if you would watch it with me. I told her it was a IR video and she said yes. I did explain to her that the girl looks very much like her to me and looked her straight in the eyes and said I want you to understand that when I watch this this girl reminds me of you and that when I watch this I am thinking of you.
As soon as I turn it on the first thing she said was oh wow she does look like me!
We then started making out she moved my hands somewhere ( something she never does let’s me make the moves) and she was extremely wet and excited.
Unfortunately due to my job phone rang had to head out of town and didn’t go further.
She will always send me a good morning I love you text in the morning no big deal, however Sunday morning it was Good Morning I LOVE YOU in all caps.
I strolled back to look and none were ever all caps. Told her I loved her too and she said she really enjoyed last night. I asked what part she said All of it.
She normally texts me shortly after I finish work, but Sunday didn’t until it was late. Normal text Monday morning and again didn’t text til late that night.
When I talked to her on Tuesday she said I was waiting on you to text me. Correct me if I m wrong but I think she was waiting on me so we could continue the conversation or for me too take control.
Tuesday thru Saturday had family around for Thanksgiving.
We went out last night and the conversation ended up there as I slowly took it there, we talked and again and the I could never do that came up.
I know I have told her my desire but I understand woman are different, they may say one thing and mean another or mean what they say. I am trying to see if she wants to do this or is just humoring me.
Obviously she could see herself in the video by the commit she does look like me, so I tried a different approach.
I figured that if she was interested I would get answers if not she would shut me down.
So I asked if we were to do this what type of guy would you prefer?
She asked
Are we still talking about the hypothetical scenario?
I said yes
Her Answer: Suit tie business type
Hair shave head or facial hair?
Answer: Doesn’t matter
Body type?
Answer: Muscular taller than me
Does his package matter bigger smaller than me?
Answer: Doesn’t matter
If we were to do this who would pick the guy out?
Answer: We would together
Who would be in control?
Answer: Me (as in her) so I can decide what we do unless you want to be in control.
Wondering why give the answers if not intereste, but looked at it like well least I know what type of guy it would be
I have told her how much she means to me and how much I love her and that I am supportive of anything or decision she would make, however not sure if she would tell me or want me to take control and make it happen.
I guess my question is she interested, curious,
, or undecided
or ready to go to the next level?