The problem is reducing people to their body parts. I see many people in this forum saying the exact same thing, not interested or even sexually aroused by men, but aroused by Black men or more specifically Black cocks. For a while, Black men are happy about that. Wouldn't you be happy if somebody offered you sex without asking anything in return? But often, the Black men involved end up feeling dehumanized by only being a part in the fantasy and never feeling like a person in a relationship. I worry that this fetish when acted upon ends up denying the Golden Rule in the longterm relationship. Unless you are prepared to truly go all the way and live out a polyamorous or gay commitment, it seems best to live it out with Black dildos, because that is all you want anyway.
We see this side of this as well. Ultimately, though, the reason cuckoldry became something my wife wanted to try is because the agreed upon roles helped reconcile things that otherwise felt naughty or wrong. She never lamented the size of my dick before, and would never have started looking for men with bigger cocks and chiseled bodies if she didn't know it turns me on immensely to watch her be courted and then bedded by alpha men with twice my endowment. She always felt ashamed of her attraction to black men, because we feel that race shouldn't be a consideration in deciding the quality and desirability of a person, but the fact that this dynamic works both ways, and power is shifted from the privileged white male to the too often marginalized black male, who also gets off on the idea of fucking married, white women right in front of their husbands, provides a hopefully victimless way to explore and indulge in that attraction. We both feel that sexual preference should never dictate a person's standing in society and shouldn't be a taboo in this day and age, but this kind of play that deals with a sub male's desire to be "******" outside of the boundaries of normal comfort and security in his sexual identity is something inexplicably exciting to explore. We both feel that machismo and male ego can be toxic when it leads to the objectification and subjugation of women, but this kind of activity allows my wife to play with the idea of wanting to be treated like a total slut, by a powerful, masculine man.
The fact is that interracial relationships, relationships that sit outside of traditional monogamy, sexual activity that isn't strictly straight, feeling self worth regardless of penis size or what you choose to wear, etc. shouldn't be considered taboo in a perfect society. This kind of play, while it does capitalize on those taboos, allows for turning all that stuff on its side, unapologetically exploring things that turn you on, and expressing yourself and your desires freely. There are so many dichotomies at play when people decide to explore this type of play that it's crucial for expectations and/or limits to be laid out ahead of time, and communication to be free and honest and open at all times, and it's true for ALL THREE participants.
So yes, we do see that bulls can be treated as sex objects in this lifestyle. It's 100% true that they won't get the benefits of a stable relationship from my wife. But they also won't get any of the responsibilities of maintaining one. We often become friends with our bulls, and either way we always try to be respectful. But at the end of the day, men who are simply looking for great sex with my wife and none of the relationship baggage are specifically who we are looking for, and we are very clear upfront that we enjoy playing with power inversions and exploring boundaries. Just as a husband will need validation that his wife still needs and loves him, and a wife will need assurance that her husband still treasures her and respects her even if she's philanderous or slutty in the heat of the moment, a bull will need to be treated with respect in terms of his time and desires as well. We'd love to have a regular bull who develops a relationship with both of us, who gets as much sexual satisfaction and personal growth potential out of this arrangement as we do. But men who are looking to fall in love and need a deeper connection than what my wife and I are offering should probably not involve themselves in the cuckold lifestyle. Being fetishised as a dominant sexual dynamo and called upon to perform that role kind of comes with the territory. We have found plenty of men who are ok with that, and don't hold anything against anyone who decides they need something else.
