BBCnATX, I can't agree with your "attitude" towards a man's marriage, as it appears you have absolutely no respect for anyone's marriage. You're out to get 'yours' regardless of what it costs others ... selfish, but pretty much the way people think these days ... "fuck everyone else, I'm getting mine".
However, I can't argue with the last few of your responses. I mentioned, in another thread, my observances of what appears to be a growing number of submissive, subservient, white males. I'm not sure, exactly, what is causing it, but I do know that, as it applies to sex, white males seem to be intimidated more often by black males.
Here are a few reports I found regarding the emasculation of males in general, and white males in specific that some may read and comment on. I believe there is some substance to these reports:
https://massmediakillers.wordpress.com/2008/03/29/white-male-emasculation-in-vogue/
http://kingsandqueensreturn.com/the-emasculation-of-white-males-in-america/
http://www.ricestandard.org/the-emasculation-of-the-american-man/
Mac