It depends with me...usually when i play with cpls the hubby is there...i ran into only one cpl that likes to switch wives for the weekend but usually the hubby is there...But i will say that when he only sitting there, i do feel a lil uncomfortable but just let it ride cause i understand what they feel when they watch their other get pleased...that ******* is erotic but after a while im like either join in helpin me make her cum or go sit in the living room and ill just record the ******* for u lol