Before I met my now wife she had a long term relationship with her black boyfriend.i was curious why she would want me after being with him I'm only 5.5 inches. It took me a while before I asked how big he was. She said 8.5 inches.but still tight.well this started turning me on so I asked her if she would like to see him again she said yes but I would get mad.she talks to him all the time and they send pics to each other .but I can't get her to go any further.she thinks I am trying to get rid of her .any suggestions