Anyone who really swings in here has experience. I wonder if they have broken it down like I have. I want to motivate all who find this lifestyle exhilarating to be safe and happy out there, and to satisfy those very natural sexual cravings. More men have been satisfying those cravings than women, on average, so I decided to help my wife/girlfriend (We are not your typical husband and wife) to be that beautiful, healthy sexual woman she is. We recently met a man that my wife is really into... she cares about him, thinks he is super sexy and she has great sex with him. The guy is legit. Super courteous, caring, strong and definitely an Alpha male. I can honestly say he is a good friend of mine as well. I had my fantasies before about my wife and her swinging, and most of the advise we had came from the swingers we knew. We were definitely getting the wrong advise, and ever since we started following "Derek" (names change to protect the innocent/ or not so innocent lol) my life and the life of my wife have greatly improved. He is a real legit, real person, and he is a hell of a sex machine and knows how to have multiple sex partners and keep all the girls happy and includes the men in their lives. How do you know if a stud/bull is legit? 1. They are very picky with the women they have, are seen with and have mostly women friends. 2. They use condoms almost always. If they do not it is because they have a long relationship with the woman and her partner, and they both get tested frequently. trust is HUGE when playing this game. 3. They can be very mean if fucked with or lied to, they will not jepardize the arrangement they care about and "let go" quickly if threatened. 4. They tell her right away. "This is nobodies business, do not tell anyone we're fucking, tell them we are friends. That's it." 5. They invite us both to parties and events. They make us feel welcome and no one tries to humiliate, it is nothing but respect. 6. The first thing he told us is to let go of all of the swinger associations we had, and to not pick up when they called and to tell them that we were not interested anymore. 7. He told me that I was nurture sex. My wife needs both nurture and stimulatory sex, that is she is very sexual like him and in our dispositions they are a good match because it is all about the great sex. he also says that she needs great sex, and that I am part of that, and that I need to have sex with her as often as possible. That with my wife is easy. LOL. He completely dominates her with the sex, she loves feeling that type of sexual stimulation. 8. When we go out, I can guess but I cannot tell who he has sex with. He is very professional. Let me tell you, our party of people has the absolute hottest girls. Famous guys always talk to Derek and hang with us. 9. My wife absolutely loves the arrangement, feels safe and looks happy healthy and rested. Why would'nt she right! She is always happy, she has lots of sex and I love her from the top of her head to the tips of er beautiful toes. She is in control, and the type of sex is directed by her needs. So i knew who my girl was when I hooked up with her. She likes to show off, and she liked to go out with men that liked her showing off (ME). She always blames "This hungry pussy" for our arrangement and she loves being a sexy woman and I love that. She also loves men...... she says since she was young she was boy crazy! I love my wife. Life is really good right now. The only issues i have sometimes are normal in this type of arrangement. A little loneliness, and the loss of control. Derek "hooks" her up sometimes with guys he knows, and I never know if she has sex with them or not... I mean she can if she wants to and sometimes i do know (Its obvious) but she wont say anything if I don't ask. i have asked her in the past and I never like knowing, or more like the reaction she gives me. What a ride!!!