Hookup culture
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Hook up is amazing if there's no strings attached. It's less than friends with benefits, but you still have to have a trust that "hook ups" ain't with dirty people! Or ALL fun is lost, LOL
I think there's a time and a place for everything. I'm of the opinion people should experience as much as they can before they settle down... If they settle down. So there's no significant regrets concerning their sexual history. It's easy for me to be in a monogamous relationship at this stage of life. I pretty much done everything I wanted to do... More than once. So I think hook up culture is great. As long as everybody's on the same page and you're safe(ish) with your actions... Not everybody's built the same. So whatever disintegration there is...Those people weren't fit for it in the first place.
Yes. If couples enter the hotwife lifestyle and their relationship breaks up because of it, they shouldn't have entered it in the first place. I think hookups are great for easy sexual release, but will the rise in hookup culture result in people seeing long-term, emotional relationships as things of the past? The proportion of men married in western countries e.g. the UK and the US is falling every year. I think this is because men today have increasingly more ways for sexual release than men of the past. Only fans/online pornography. Easy hookups on tinder and swinging sites. In the past, men had to actually establish a meaningful relationship with a woman for any chance of sexual gratification. Today, men can easily secure sex without the need for a long courting process. This leads to less relationships formed which lowers population growth (or results in a decreasing population) which is a disadvantage for any country. The only impactful solution to this is to ban online pornography and hookup apps.
Hmmm... There's more to it than sex. I'm a romantic... I'm built that way. I believe in love and that which transcends the physical. I get the feeling I may have a significant number of years on you...I see through a different lens than today's generation. Take no offense to this... Have you ever been in love? Are you a man that has that capacity? Do you want to be? It's difficult to relate these ideas and feelings. Without a shared point of reference.
When I started college, it was the first time I did not have a bf in a long time. So, I thought just hooking up would make me happy. It did not by any means. It actually made it worse because that is how the guys saw me............a place wet and warm to put it. I eventually got a bf who is now my husband.
When you just fuck, you don't connect with the guy. So, in the end, you feel empty and somewhat used.
I have a 20-something dau-ghter (DD). She tells me about her various friends and "body count." She said the one thing she noticed was that the higher body count, the more unhappy and lonely her friends seemed. Luckily, my DD was selective in who she slept with. There were a few times when dating she was sleeping with 2 different guys, but she liked both of them.
I do not think hooking up is good for us. I think it cheapens the times we have sex. I don't consider it empowering at all. In fact, I think it degrades us that we give it up so casually. If a guy has to work for it with many dates, consideration, and most importantly connecting with us, then we feel way more empowered when we finally do it.
Now, as for me and my swinging, and fucking my blk boytoys..............
I did that when married. I had that connection and love from my husband. I was not alone after. I had to like the guys I played with. They had to impress me by dressing well, being articulate, etc. If they did that work, my panties would hit the floor.
This is a great reply. I expected someone on this thread to articulate that opinion. Sex without an emotional connection can make women 'feel used' and worse off. It's fine for people who are already in a committed relationship to engage in the swinging/hookup lifestyle, because at the end of the day, they have someone to go home to. But for single women, it is much harder. Married folks are generally happier than single folks.
