I have had a red hot fantasy of watching my now wife, and before her past girlfriends, have amazing sex with a well hung black guy. My wife knows of my fantasy, and we play with toys, but currently that’s where it stands. A marriage counselor once asked if I’d still like my fantasy if my wife wasn’t enjoying the experience and before I could answer my wife said, “of course he would!” But I corrected her. If she was not enjoying herself I would hate it. The part that gets me off is her getting intense pleasure from the experience.
Anyway, not that my wife is or would be more into this alternative scenario, but I on occasion wonder how I would handle it if she said she would be ok fucking another man, if he was white. That isn’t my fantasy, is it selfish or short sighted to insist the other man be black? Would I still be turned on if he had a huge dick? I can easily say that it wouldn’t excite me as much. So do other husbands feel the same way? Kind of “it needs to be with a black guy or don’t bother.” Have others ever done or tried to put their foot down on this? Or do some husbands see this an an interim step that will/may eventually lead to “the promised land?” Have any of your wives come back with this request? If so how did that go?
I don’t believe my wife will ever suggest this because she knows what my specific fantasy is. My fantasy never diverges into including well hung white guys.
The reason for this is because this fantasy has so many hot elements:
- Taboo/forbidden fruit (as society progresses and integrates more this will be less of a thing but it is super hot now)
- The color contrast. Something so sexy about seeing black on white, not just for the contrast in skin colors but because it’s so different than mine.
- The hot stereotype of well hung black men being more confident, dominant, and “once you go black you never go back.”
- Penis envy and facing a battle to come out on top sexually that I am destined to lose.
A lesser element that doesn’t make this hotter but somehow less scary, is that although the risk of losing my wife to a black lover is still real, in my mind the risk is lower because of the family and societal pressure on a conservative wife like mine to not get involved in a LTR with a black man. Again there is still a risk and there are stories of wives doing just that, but I just can’t help but think the switch from a sexual relationship to a romantic one is a lot easier to make with someone of the same race.
Do others think about this stuff?
Anyway, not that my wife is or would be more into this alternative scenario, but I on occasion wonder how I would handle it if she said she would be ok fucking another man, if he was white. That isn’t my fantasy, is it selfish or short sighted to insist the other man be black? Would I still be turned on if he had a huge dick? I can easily say that it wouldn’t excite me as much. So do other husbands feel the same way? Kind of “it needs to be with a black guy or don’t bother.” Have others ever done or tried to put their foot down on this? Or do some husbands see this an an interim step that will/may eventually lead to “the promised land?” Have any of your wives come back with this request? If so how did that go?
I don’t believe my wife will ever suggest this because she knows what my specific fantasy is. My fantasy never diverges into including well hung white guys.
The reason for this is because this fantasy has so many hot elements:
- Taboo/forbidden fruit (as society progresses and integrates more this will be less of a thing but it is super hot now)
- The color contrast. Something so sexy about seeing black on white, not just for the contrast in skin colors but because it’s so different than mine.
- The hot stereotype of well hung black men being more confident, dominant, and “once you go black you never go back.”
- Penis envy and facing a battle to come out on top sexually that I am destined to lose.
A lesser element that doesn’t make this hotter but somehow less scary, is that although the risk of losing my wife to a black lover is still real, in my mind the risk is lower because of the family and societal pressure on a conservative wife like mine to not get involved in a LTR with a black man. Again there is still a risk and there are stories of wives doing just that, but I just can’t help but think the switch from a sexual relationship to a romantic one is a lot easier to make with someone of the same race.
Do others think about this stuff?
i don't even ask what reasons you decided to go into counseling for. 
, this is a hot topic because of so many failed marriages like mine…we were swingers for a little while but she decided it was too much for her. I was disappointed but it wasn’t meant to be. Whatever you do, DO NOT ******* her into anything. I am now divorced searching for a more open minded woman. I tried but this lifestyle has to have a partner that is 
percent committed to YOU as well.
