Finally got fiancée to agree but need advice.
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I think you should definitely try it before your wedding that way if you enjoy the experience you can plan it for the wedding with more information and experience under the belt and it won't be a total shock when you're enjoying your wedding &/or honeymoon
Being naive?!
What do both of you want your marriage to be like? i think when you are opting for a relationship model or lifestyle you should have the water tested before you jump all in. Getting married may be a life-changing decision. So may sharing your Woman. If your expectations of your married lifestyle are not what you will find once married, you already put your relationship and future marriage at risk. Know what your partnership will be about first in order to make the right decisions.
That's what i was thinking too. ;|
Is the bull going to be a black man? my fiance is ready to take black dick but because the covit is has been more difficult but we have started the fantasy and ready to be blacked without more wait.
I don't even think he wants "that" ... just some erotic, chatroom, mind melding to jerk off to.
So many areas of BS here, its almost frustrating to read.
First of all, cuckolding has nothing to do with interracial sex ... each are quite 'stand alone' experiences.
Cuckolding is simply a one-sided sexual swinging experience. She's with other men, you're remaining monogamous to her.
OP says they have been with no one else, during their lengthy relationship, yet, he desires to interracially cuck himself on their wedding night, without her consent, and with a stranger, no less? Now THERE's a marriage destined for flame-out early on. Is there really a difference between dense & dumb?
OP ... assuming there is even a miniscule of factual information here, never, never go behind your partner's back with things like this. Second, its her wedding night ... if she desires it, she'll let you know. Also, I'd try some regular 3-somes with a few guys (before your marriage) before even attempting to jump into interracial. Have you even considered the parameters to the cuckolding? If you're next "thought" is "what's that?" ... I'd reconsider EVERYTHING. You don't read the instructions or study the rules of flying once you put a plane in the air ... right? ....... or maybe you do!
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As soon as possible. How is her figure? How often do y’all dirty talk about her cuckolding you now?
These forums are full of bad advice from wannabes and incels that cling to unrealistic porn fantasy, even when something as serious as a young couple's happy future together is on the line. Normally you have to keep a pretty good BS detector about you and sift through that stuff to get to the real conversations. Then, to my utter delighted amazement, I come across this thread that is literally FULL of good advice, and all the OP wants to do is argue.
Look, being cucked is a complete and total mind fuck, and imagining it is addictive and extremely intoxicating, ESPECIALLY if you're still hoping for it to happen for the first time. So I get that your fantasy is something you can easily become obsessed with. I even happen to share your fantasy, and my wife and I have even talked about how maybe, someday, it could be fun renewing our vows in front of only our lifestyle friends, with only bulls and cuckoldresses standing as bridesmaids and groomsmen. If she has a regular bull at the time, he can be the best man, and keep her key until I give it to her as we exchange our vows. She could put my cage on me instead of a ring. Our vows could be wickedly fun and creative, playing to all the fun adventures we've had and my continued commitment to being her devoted cuck. I could toss her QoS anklet to the crowd instead of a garter at the reception. She and any of the bridesmaids who wanted to could be fucked silly in their fancy dresses at the end of the reception, in the presidential suite of a fancy hotel. See? I get the fantasy. I really do.
BUT... as someone who counts himself indescribably fortunate to be in a very happy marriage, who's been with his wife for more than 20 years, has been in chastity for more than half of that time, and a very happy cuckold for the past several years, and who (perhaps like you) struggles to temper an almost limitless, shamelessly filthy libido, my advice is the same as everyone else's here: DO NOT try to make your wedding night all about a sexual fantasy. Especially not one involving anyone besides your wife.
Your wedding night is something everyone who cares about you is choosing to attend, often at great personal cost and effort, specifically to celebrate your happiness. It should be one of the happiest nights of your life, and it is likely to feel like it flew by in the blink of an eye. I highly recommend you spend it focused on the woman who's agreed to spend the rest of her life with you, and take in every bit of the experience you can. Don't spend the night taking all that for granted, distracted by nervous anticipation of something else, or chomping at the bit for all your guests to leave so you can get on with the sex part. The ceremony and reception should absolutely be cherished.
Additionally, your little cuckold after-party might not even go as well as you imagine it. My wife has had some mind-blowing sex with some men who really vibe with her, but she's also had some who had a bad night and couldn't perform, or who took several encounters to become a comfortable fit, or who turned out to be incompatible or flat-out bad lovers. I've known women who find they are the ones who get performance anxiety, and don't feel comfortable having sex with another person in front of their SO for the first time, and don't really enjoy the experience. Imagine looking forward to the end of what should be the happiest memory the two of you will share forever, only to get to the fantasy part at the end, and have it be lack-lustre (or worse).
Even if someone could somehow guarantee that it would be the best night my wife's ever had with a bull, I wouldn't trade our wedding night for it. Not for all the money in the world. Our wedding was beautiful and our friends and family were so incredibly warm and loving and humbling and supportive, and we've kept that memory dear ever since. Many of our guests still tell us, all these years later, that it was the happiest or most beautiful wedding they've ever attended. We've had years of kinky adventures and our relationship has grown and evolved in ways neither of us ever predicted. We've loved it all, but what makes it special is our love for each other, and our wedding night was an unforgettable celebration of that love.
Cuckoldry comes with all kinds of unforseen complications, underestimated and often conflicting emotions, and a profoundly increased need for caring, open communication. If you care at all about having the kind of marriage that can withstand and even flourish through all of that, put the marriage above anything else. Make the day your wife marries you a day neither of you will ever forget. If your relationship is already strong enough to sustain some sweaty exploration before your wedding, fine, check it out. But there's no rush. You have your whole married life together to experiment and grow together. Make the wedding about that fact, don't gamble with it for (at best) a good jerk off story.
Look, being cucked is a complete and total mind fuck, and imagining it is addictive and extremely intoxicating, ESPECIALLY if you're still hoping for it to happen for the first time. So I get that your fantasy is something you can easily become obsessed with. I even happen to share your fantasy, and my wife and I have even talked about how maybe, someday, it could be fun renewing our vows in front of only our lifestyle friends, with only bulls and cuckoldresses standing as bridesmaids and groomsmen. If she has a regular bull at the time, he can be the best man, and keep her key until I give it to her as we exchange our vows. She could put my cage on me instead of a ring. Our vows could be wickedly fun and creative, playing to all the fun adventures we've had and my continued commitment to being her devoted cuck. I could toss her QoS anklet to the crowd instead of a garter at the reception. She and any of the bridesmaids who wanted to could be fucked silly in their fancy dresses at the end of the reception, in the presidential suite of a fancy hotel. See? I get the fantasy. I really do.
BUT... as someone who counts himself indescribably fortunate to be in a very happy marriage, who's been with his wife for more than 20 years, has been in chastity for more than half of that time, and a very happy cuckold for the past several years, and who (perhaps like you) struggles to temper an almost limitless, shamelessly filthy libido, my advice is the same as everyone else's here: DO NOT try to make your wedding night all about a sexual fantasy. Especially not one involving anyone besides your wife.
Your wedding night is something everyone who cares about you is choosing to attend, often at great personal cost and effort, specifically to celebrate your happiness. It should be one of the happiest nights of your life, and it is likely to feel like it flew by in the blink of an eye. I highly recommend you spend it focused on the woman who's agreed to spend the rest of her life with you, and take in every bit of the experience you can. Don't spend the night taking all that for granted, distracted by nervous anticipation of something else, or chomping at the bit for all your guests to leave so you can get on with the sex part. The ceremony and reception should absolutely be cherished.
Additionally, your little cuckold after-party might not even go as well as you imagine it. My wife has had some mind-blowing sex with some men who really vibe with her, but she's also had some who had a bad night and couldn't perform, or who took several encounters to become a comfortable fit, or who turned out to be incompatible or flat-out bad lovers. I've known women who find they are the ones who get performance anxiety, and don't feel comfortable having sex with another person in front of their SO for the first time, and don't really enjoy the experience. Imagine looking forward to the end of what should be the happiest memory the two of you will share forever, only to get to the fantasy part at the end, and have it be lack-lustre (or worse).
Even if someone could somehow guarantee that it would be the best night my wife's ever had with a bull, I wouldn't trade our wedding night for it. Not for all the money in the world. Our wedding was beautiful and our friends and family were so incredibly warm and loving and humbling and supportive, and we've kept that memory dear ever since. Many of our guests still tell us, all these years later, that it was the happiest or most beautiful wedding they've ever attended. We've had years of kinky adventures and our relationship has grown and evolved in ways neither of us ever predicted. We've loved it all, but what makes it special is our love for each other, and our wedding night was an unforgettable celebration of that love.
Cuckoldry comes with all kinds of unforseen complications, underestimated and often conflicting emotions, and a profoundly increased need for caring, open communication. If you care at all about having the kind of marriage that can withstand and even flourish through all of that, put the marriage above anything else. Make the day your wife marries you a day neither of you will ever forget. If your relationship is already strong enough to sustain some sweaty exploration before your wedding, fine, check it out. But there's no rush. You have your whole married life together to experiment and grow together. Make the wedding about that fact, don't gamble with it for (at best) a good jerk off story.
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Are you 2 coming to Hawai’i for your honeymoon 
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I would love to assist you both.
?I would love to assist you both.
Cuckold is NOT what u say and define, is what us, each person to define, if it is BBC only then it is, but your def only applies to you.
If anybody needs further proof the OP just wanted to talk about a fantasy while he was horny, and wasn't interested in any actual advice, he hasn't logged in since the day after he created this profile, and well before most of the answers were written. I sure hope SOMEone out there can benefit from all the advice people took the time to offer this person.
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UPDATE: We did it!
We discussed and planned to do it before the wedding, but the guy flaked on us. My fiancee at the time was very upset, and so was I frankly. I think she kinda just threw caution to the wind and said "fuck it" and agreed to fulfill my ultimate wish of having it first be done on our wedding night.
I won't go into too much detail, but our wedding was beautiful, we were surrounded by a small amount of friends and family. That night we went to a hotel and luckily this time the bull didn't flake (we met him on tinder and had coffee about a week before the wedding). I had originally planned to consummate the marriage before they went at it, but I had difficulty getting hard. I had planned to watch, but after a few minutes of Rebecca sucking him off she kinda just stopped and said she would be more comfortable if I waited in another room, so I obliged. I went to the bull's hotel room and waited for them to text me or come get me, I ended up falling asleep. I was woken up the next morning by my wife, I thanked the bull and said goodbye and we were off to Hawaii!
We discussed and planned to do it before the wedding, but the guy flaked on us. My fiancee at the time was very upset, and so was I frankly. I think she kinda just threw caution to the wind and said "fuck it" and agreed to fulfill my ultimate wish of having it first be done on our wedding night.
I won't go into too much detail, but our wedding was beautiful, we were surrounded by a small amount of friends and family. That night we went to a hotel and luckily this time the bull didn't flake (we met him on tinder and had coffee about a week before the wedding). I had originally planned to consummate the marriage before they went at it, but I had difficulty getting hard. I had planned to watch, but after a few minutes of Rebecca sucking him off she kinda just stopped and said she would be more comfortable if I waited in another room, so I obliged. I went to the bull's hotel room and waited for them to text me or come get me, I ended up falling asleep. I was woken up the next morning by my wife, I thanked the bull and said goodbye and we were off to Hawaii!
Sounds hot.
All jokes aside, I'm glad the wedding was nice and that you seem to be happy with how things went. I stand by my previous advice in general, but everyone's different. At the end of the day, I ignore internet advice too, when I know it doesn't match what our situation calls for. I hope you and your new bride enjoy Hawaii together and that things blossom in a way that adds to the relationship for both of you. Congrats, and best of luck.
We are already back from Hawaii, it was so beautiful. I know she said our sex life wouldn't change, but that wasn't true. I can tell she doesn't find sex with me as exhilarating as before. She talks to me a lot more during sex, just about mundane *******, instead of moaning.Sounds hot.
All jokes aside, I'm glad the wedding was nice and that you seem to be happy with how things went. I stand by my previous advice in general, but everyone's different. At the end of the day, I ignore internet advice too, when I know it doesn't match what our situation calls for. I hope you and your new bride enjoy Hawaii together and that things blossom in a way that adds to the relationship for both of you. Congrats, and best of luck.
you did not capture the moment to have it as a wedding gift from your wife to you?
There will be an opportunity for you to share with us on video the mundane ******* that it tells you while you fuck?
It's true. We thought our sex life wouldn't change much too, but it has for sure. My wife still enjoys making love to me once in a while, but she doesn't even pretend that sex with me is remotely the same thing as getting fucked by her bulls. How could she? When she's with a powerful guy with a huge cock and tons of stamina, she cums about 20 times per session. The orgasms start coming literally on top of each other. She couldn't even fake that with me if she tried. Before cuckolding me, she'd never experienced sex like that, so how could she know how different it would be?
When I have sex with my wife, it can be sweet and romantic, or she can tease me and tell me how much smaller I am than her bulls. If we pause every time I'm about to cum, I can usually get past that initial panic of cumming too fast, but even then, she might have a single orgasm, if I'm lucky. I don't physically keep her muscles from being able to fully contract, and she tells me, "that was nice, but I'm done now." She's literally not able to reach that heightened state with me, where she just wants to be pounded for as long as her bull can go.
So these days, I get to fuck my wife maybe monthly or so. Sometimes she'll feed me Viagra first, if she's not planning to make things even harder on me than constant chastity already does. She'll caress and tease my dick to life while she lubes us both up and guides me into her, being very patient and vigilant at the start to ward off premature ejaculation. Once she's got me going with a little more confidence and fortitude, she'll try several positions until she finds one in which she'll be able to get off, has a nice but quick, perfunctory orgasm, then says, "ok, I'm done," pushes me out and off, and tells me to put my cage back on. It's often still a very sweet and bonding experience, but it usually ends with a patronizing compliment, like, "yay! You managed to make your Queen cum, even with that little white dick! Good boy!" That's once or twice a month. When schedules and conditions permit, she'll spend hours fucking her bull once or twice a week.
Now that this has gone on for several years, the idea that it wouldn't change our sex life is almost laughable. But even though penetrative sex for me is less frequent, her happiness, her libido, her willingness to explore things like femdom and bdsm with me, etc. have all skyrocketed. Before she started cuckolding me, I always suspected that higher levels of sexual satisfaction were possible and wanted her to experience them. Now that she has, I can say with confidence that it's been a hugely positive evolution for us, and all those benefits dwarf the moments of self-doubt and angst that comes with crushing a male ego. The majority of the jealousy is the hot kind, and the fact that she has amazing sex basically all the time and we share the rewards of that... It's hard to explain how great that has been.
So whether you wind up on that path or something very different from our arrangement, I hope it brings both of you similar rewards and happiness.
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