Funny, how guys here seem to know what's going on inside the OP's wife.
Finally brought it up and didn’t go good
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Funny, how guys here seem to know what's going on inside the OP's wife.
Kyle Smith
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Obviously I can only discuss how I got my wife into the lifestyle, yet haven't got her to try BBC yet. Getting her into the lifestyle was a fucking pain in the ass and took literally half a decade of fantasy talk while having sex, with only white dudes, and nothing too crazy. She wouldn't even commit to bareback even with both sides have clear ******* tests. She eventually loosened up and started bareback after building trust with some white bulls in the past. However, after the first time, so many insecurities opens up scars in your relationship. So be careful what you wish for and I say this after us going through a separation and multiple relationship almost ending fights.
I don't know the past of your GF/wife, but mine never dated Black guys. So it was a stretch to obviously start her in the lifestyle with BBC first. Even though I got interested in the LS mostlyf from watching Hotwife IR porn. Nothing beats a BBC that knows how to fuck right fellow hubby's? Hell I can barely find a BWC that can fuck my wife properly and make her fall in love with the LS.
With that said you have to slowly plant the seed of BBC and still give her controll over whatever makes her comfortable. Even if that means starting with BWC with a condom. However it is a tough and long road to turn a woman into a man when it comes to how they think about sex. Women perfer to be emotionally attached because that is how society conditions them. Keep all this in mind and perhaps you can convice her to finally take the plunge.
I don't know the past of your GF/wife, but mine never dated Black guys. So it was a stretch to obviously start her in the lifestyle with BBC first. Even though I got interested in the LS mostlyf from watching Hotwife IR porn. Nothing beats a BBC that knows how to fuck right fellow hubby's? Hell I can barely find a BWC that can fuck my wife properly and make her fall in love with the LS.
With that said you have to slowly plant the seed of BBC and still give her controll over whatever makes her comfortable. Even if that means starting with BWC with a condom. However it is a tough and long road to turn a woman into a man when it comes to how they think about sex. Women perfer to be emotionally attached because that is how society conditions them. Keep all this in mind and perhaps you can convice her to finally take the plunge.
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You should still be getting her ******* but watching your cuckold porn with her to built up her taste for it and eventually another opportunity will reveal itself!
From what I have read here from several posters and from what I have heard from a few swinger/sharing friends I think the biggest issue is tossing your desires out instead of focusing on hers, i.e., how quickly you brought up your wanting to watch. As sexy pillow talk, sure talk about it. But if she says she wants to take this a step forward and fuck someone, then let her do that. Bring up your watching much later. It may never happen. You need to bare that in mind too.
I had a similar discussion with my mature wife. Her traditional views of relationships seem to be the main hurdle. But we have progressed to watching IR porn together and I ordered her a very large toy that she prefers. I tell her how sexy I think it is...that's what I advise for you. You can't ******* it. She has to choose it. Fortunately, my wife has strong BBC fantasies. So I am still holding out hope here!
Don't make it about black men at first. Don't make it about being a cuckold. Let these things develop naturally.
The cat's out of the bag now it appears, but if I could revisit this fresh with my wife, I'd ask her if she fancied a MMF threesome and let her pick the guy - black, white, asian, doesn't matter. Then let things evolve naturally. Get her used to the idea and feeling secure with her fucking other men. She needs to know that you are genuinely cool with it and that it turns you on.
Telling her you want her to fuck black men will result in her thinking that you think she's a slut. (Regardless of your reasonings with her.)
Telling her you want to be a cuckold will result in her thinking you're pathetic and not manly and doubt your sanity.
IR porn may help, especially if she knows it turns you on, but do not connect the dots with this and your fantasy, keep it separate.
The key is baby steps. Never play your hand in advance. Talking from experience it creates more hurdles for you.
That 12 part guide is over simplified BS.
The cat's out of the bag now it appears, but if I could revisit this fresh with my wife, I'd ask her if she fancied a MMF threesome and let her pick the guy - black, white, asian, doesn't matter. Then let things evolve naturally. Get her used to the idea and feeling secure with her fucking other men. She needs to know that you are genuinely cool with it and that it turns you on.
Telling her you want her to fuck black men will result in her thinking that you think she's a slut. (Regardless of your reasonings with her.)
Telling her you want to be a cuckold will result in her thinking you're pathetic and not manly and doubt your sanity.
IR porn may help, especially if she knows it turns you on, but do not connect the dots with this and your fantasy, keep it separate.
The key is baby steps. Never play your hand in advance. Talking from experience it creates more hurdles for you.
That 12 part guide is over simplified BS.
Step 5:
Get her a BigBlack dildo and give it a very BigBlack Porn-Stud name.
Get her a very realistic black dildo, preferably one that vibrates. Don't make it too large for her, and don't make it blue or red or gray or whatever, ONLY BLACK. It must be realistic looking, with veins and a nice head. Start using it on her while watching IR porn. Eventually, get her to take over control of the dildo. Get her to cum from it while watching the porn. Make comments about how beautiful the dildo looks in her, how black is so good for her.
By the way, be sure to get some good lube for the dildo, and be sure to not only keep it lubed for her, but also keep it clean for her.
Get her a BigBlack dildo and give it a very BigBlack Porn-Stud name.
Get her a very realistic black dildo, preferably one that vibrates. Don't make it too large for her, and don't make it blue or red or gray or whatever, ONLY BLACK. It must be realistic looking, with veins and a nice head. Start using it on her while watching IR porn. Eventually, get her to take over control of the dildo. Get her to cum from it while watching the porn. Make comments about how beautiful the dildo looks in her, how black is so good for her.
By the way, be sure to get some good lube for the dildo, and be sure to not only keep it lubed for her, but also keep it clean for her.
Understand, you haven’t failed. That is your wife, if she was REALLY offended, you wouldn't have to question it because a Woman WILL speak her mind, FULLY, if it’s something she doesn't want to do.
She's probably more shocked that you enjoy this type of thing and it makes her a bit nervous (Women Naturally"overthink") & is potentially looking for some re-assurance. This is where you can start having Sex Sessions w/ some Roleplay involved or a session just focused on her pleasure w/ a Toy or summering, and move more into the interracial aspect as you both become fully confident in this Sexual Exploration.
She's probably more shocked that you enjoy this type of thing and it makes her a bit nervous (Women Naturally"overthink") & is potentially looking for some re-assurance. This is where you can start having Sex Sessions w/ some Roleplay involved or a session just focused on her pleasure w/ a Toy or summering, and move more into the interracial aspect as you both become fully confident in this Sexual Exploration.
Quit joking about it and be serious.Tell her matter of factly what you like, what you would like/allow her to do.It doesn't make you weird or a bad person.Let her know the offer is on the table and leave it at that.
You may have moved to fast for her. Ask
what her fantasies are.... do exploring in the bedroom introduce new things and loop back around to sharing once you settle into your new bedroom tricks and treats
Thanks for posting this. I also didn't want to bring it up with my wife because I didn't want her to think I was insane or pathetic. She would just lose respect for me. We watch porn but she has no interest with interracial.
Have you brought it up with her yet?
If you have a strong relationship with her you should be able to say it to her. Women need to feel that you are still their man, keeper, guardian and prince charming! Prove that you are all these things first before going any further. Trust me, I've spent a long time talking to my wife about this and I've been round in circles hundreds of times.
Essentially, the idea will probably turn her on. But her fears will prove too great. The only thing that makes this fantasy fun is the fact that your wife is YOURS, not the bull's. So you need to prove that she's yours and always will be before you can advance things further. (Again my experience.)
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She ain’t going for bro, it’s not for everyone
Sounds like her mentality is she wants to be yours and yours alone
she might be gossiping about it with her girlfriends about it. “Has your man said this? What does it mean? You think it’s a trap? Is he trying to communicate something? I read this book...” Keep in mind that Cuckolding isn’t one of those take it or leave it things. If could turn a loved one away for good. Don’t ask ppl here. She is your partner, you should be able to figure out if she would despise you for this before you overshare. We won’t have good healthy relationship advise for you here! JS! Hang in there. 
Not all women react the same. My wife was what we would call... easy piece of ass, before I met her. So getting her to try swinging was easy. She had already had mfm, mfmf, mfmm and interracial. So I married her and shortly after she started up again but this time I was there sometimes, others not. But I suggest you start just with sharing her then if she enjoys that go solely bbc
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