I was just thinking - what make a man "a bull"? I mean obviously theres sex involved but a man who you fuck (on the side) could just be a lover, fwb or fuck boy. And it seems there has to be some dominant personality traits where you dont become his teacher or worse: his mommy.
But then I was thinking of the physical and that a man doesnt need to look like a NFL player in order to be a bull. Nor does he need to be tall or even in shape. But what about his penis size? Can an average dick get you into the bull club?
A guy could be dominant, built like a god, great looking, great chemistry BUT if his dick is only average (even if it makes you orgasm) is he a bull or just a lover? And if you're married and your bull is no bigger than you're hubby, then what?
In my (pornstar slut) mind being labeled a bull is like an elite status - something you only get if you can check off a few boxes that separate you from the masses (like a professional sports player vs other people who play sports)
What r ur thoughts?
Great question. For my last relationship the only rule I had was the bull had to be bigger than me. If he's not wtf the point. I'm 7-7.5" so 8+ seemed perfect. But after the ex wife's research we changed it to 9+". The average penis is 5.5" hard where we live. Being my 7-7.5' puts me in the top 20% of men. So if we lined up 100 men statistically I got 80 beat, and I'll be on the lower end of the 80's.
But if your 9"+ your in the top 2% of men. So line up 100 men, and they have 98 beat statistically. Now mathematically that sounds like a bull to me.
Personally I clown "Bulls" with average dicks. So many 7"BBC's SMH. I've literally put my cock under a 7" BBC so you could see I was longer and fatter. At first he thought I was trying to play with both at once. But then he saw, and when his shoulders shrunk I said, "your not supposed to call this a BBC"
This brings me to the whole why tf are we here?
I know why I'm here, and here's how I got here which I think is important.
This goes to answer your original question in a different way, and from real life experience. My ex wanted to be with a girl, and she wanted to be top. So we bought a strap on, and the standard piece was like 6", and she couldn't keep it in a girl. So we got a thick 10" that was for the harness, and had a suction cup.
After we started playing with the 10" on her there was a change. Eventually we used it on her everyday. That's when she first couldn't feel me during sex. She told me crying that since she had that toy, and came harder than ever before she really wants to try a real 10+". She knew I was ok with that stuff already.
She had a BBC that was 13". All he had to do was ease it in slowly, and when he couldn't go any further. She had the most intense trembling orgasm Ive ever seen, and she cremed all over. They did that like 7 times before she could take him, and the sex started.
That first orgasm that took him 10-30 seconds to achieve. I had listened to what she said she liked, used toys she choose, and put in hella effort for years. I had never made her creme, or tremble like that, period.
So from my experience we are here because on a scale of 1-10 highest. Some guys can give a level 6 orgasm at most. And that's pedal to the metal, all money in, all tricks played because that's his max. Others are where they fall. But a bull should be a 10.
If your bull isn't giving you orgasms so intense you don't say stupid ******* both my exes said independently. "I didn't know you could really cum like that, I thought all pornwas faking." And the classic, "I finally get Madonna's like a virgin" it's time to find the right bull, or communicate
-wants
-needs
-desires
To see what's off, and what direction to go from there