I think it all depends on how you carry yourself. I have full vids faces showing, full body, etc. of most of the couples, I've been with. I mean from full HD, going back to VHS tapes. Vids of wives getting fucked, sucking dick etc. The way I carry myself, and the way I act when I'm with them, it is always in full respect to their wishes.
Look at it like this. If someone you know asks to borrow money, You pretty much already know if you will get it back or not. It's the same having couples trust you with the most their most private moments.
I don't go out of my way to degrade anyone (Unless they ask) I never assume, just because they swing they want to be treated like trash.
I pay for the room, and food (Still cheaper than a date and I always score)
I speak well, I can carry on a conversation on just about anything past and present in all fields. I always smell good. I have had sex with several married women at work., and they trust me as they know, I'm not gonna talk. I learned early on in life men are some jealous MF, when it comes to you having a great and steady sex life.
All those those high school boys banging their hot teachers get caught for 1 reason only...telling their idiot friends or showing photos.