We (Husband and I) have established a routine that seems to work quite well for us. We fine perspective playmates on an adult web site. If initial chats between him and us look promising, we establish a dinner date. This enables all three of us to get together and get to know one another in a social setting and public place. Everyone knows that nothing will occur after this first meeting, it's purely social. This enables hubby and I to discuss him, what we liked and didn't like about him and any other issues or concerns we may have. Finally, if everything appears to be good, we establish a play date at a local hotel. Like I said, it seems to work well for us, so if we need to find another Bull anytime soon, this is probably how we'll do it.