Cuckold - I Don't Get It

[WhtAcpt]

I truly mean no offense by this post and I cast no judgement. This is more about definitions I think. But I can't wrap my head around the idea of "cleaning up" the wife or gf, or "sucking a bull's cock", as a man, without concluding that the man must be bi-sexual at the very least, homosexual as the more likely case. And that's completely ok, I just feel that that is more defining of a "cuckold" from all the posts I've read on here, whereas a "stag" doing "hotwifing" is one who is hand's-off when it comes to the man and bull relationship.

I see all these posts in this forum and there are a lot of eager-beavers to do the cleaning up of the wife/gf afterwards. For me, I could not do that. I don't think ever. I don't want to touch the bull in a sexual manner, only meet and greet handshakes or high-fives for a job well-done. Does that make me solely a "stag"?

Anyone want to expound upon this?

 

[NYNJcuckcouple]

I truly mean no offense by this post and I cast no judgement. This is more about definitions I think. But I can't wrap my head around the idea of "cleaning up" the wife or gf, or "sucking a bull's cock", as a man, without concluding that the man must be bi-sexual at the very least, homosexual as the more likely case. And that's completely ok, I just feel that that is more defining of a "cuckold" from all the posts I've read on here, whereas a "stag" doing "hotwifing" is one who is hand's-off when it comes to the man and bull relationship.

I see all these posts in this forum and there are a lot of eager-beavers to do the cleaning up of the wife/gf afterwards. For me, I could not do that. I don't think ever. I don't want to touch the bull in a sexual manner, only meet and greet handshakes or high-fives for a job well-done. Does that make me solely a "stag"?

Anyone want to expound upon this?

Homosexual to me is being turned on and wanting to be with a man not defined to an action ... I've beaten that to death so moving on from that ...the cleaning up and sucking the Bull is more of my submissive nature . I want to please . and pleasing could mean leave the room . Now for many like me actually cleaning up a Bull's cum was a Ultimate Fantasy Goal . Now that is has happened for me I personally do not like another man's cum ...I know some cucks love it ... For me I will do it again and again to serve my Lady and her Lover . For me that act is humilating and a point of control and Dominance so much that ..having to look into my Bull's eyes or talk to him after totally floors me . I am am already my Ladies sub, but I am lower and put in my place as a human being to this man . So it is very symbolic to me . Yes I feel you are more or a Stag then us submissive cuckolds .... To me a Stag is a more Dominant Cuckold ... There are many cuckolds who are Dom and like to pimp out there submissive wife . They are never sub to the Bull either

 

[Naughtygators]

Cuckolding was once a very broad definition that included stag/vixen. In practicality, cuckold has leaned more towards submissive males wanting to be dominated (and possibly humiliated) in a submissive way. That cuck may have zero attraction to a male, but they will do what they are ordered to do. The most sub thing a man can do is to prepare and cleanup another man that is with his woman. It often includes her participation by telling the cuck how much better the bull is. It’s hard to say they are bi or gay, but who cares anyways.
I’m primarily a bi Stag that has zero desire to be cuck’ed, but I also have no attraction to men, but a desire for open sexual pleasure.
Plenty of categories out there and some that haven’t been named yet.

 

[JohnEE]

I truly mean no offense by this post and I cast no judgement. This is more about definitions I think. But I can't wrap my head around the idea of "cleaning up" the wife or gf, or "sucking a bull's cock", as a man, without concluding that the man must be bi-sexual at the very least, homosexual as the more likely case. And that's completely ok, I just feel that that is more defining of a "cuckold" from all the posts I've read on here, whereas a "stag" doing "hotwifing" is one who is hand's-off when it comes to the man and bull relationship.

I see all these posts in this forum and there are a lot of eager-beavers to do the cleaning up of the wife/gf afterwards. For me, I could not do that. I don't think ever. I don't want to touch the bull in a sexual manner, only meet and greet handshakes or high-fives for a job well-done. Does that make me solely a "stag"?

Anyone want to expound upon this?

I wouldn't waste time trying to label other peoples kinks/desires that work for them.
If you don't like the idea of something, don't do it...

 

[WhtAcpt]

I wouldn't waste time trying to label other peoples kinks/desires that work for them.
If you don't like the idea of something, don't do it...

I understand what you're saying and fully agree. To each their own and I have zero care of what one wants to engage in. I'm more just trying to understand definitions and the acts that go along with them. And trying to understand thoughts of people that do certain things and why. Like someone that likes green peas and sweet potatoes while others like cabbage and corn. All vegetable eaters but some can't eat what others eat.

 

[WhtAcpt]

Homosexual to me is being turned on and wanting to be with a man not defined to an action ... I've beaten that to death so moving on from that ...the cleaning up and sucking the Bull is more of my submissive nature . I want to please . and pleasing could mean leave the room . Now for many like me actually cleaning up a Bull's cum was a Ultimate Fantasy Goal . Now that is has happened for me I personally do not like another man's cum ...I know some cucks love it ... For me I will do it again and again to serve my Lady and her Lover . For me that act is humilating and a point of control and Dominance so much that ..having to look into my Bull's eyes or talk to him after totally floors me . I am am already my Ladies sub, but I am lower and put in my place as a human being to this man . So it is very symbolic to me . Yes I feel you are more or a Stag then us submissive cuckolds .... To me a Stag is a more Dominant Cuckold ... There are many cuckolds who are Dom and like to pimp out there submissive wife . They are never sub to the Bull either

Makes sense when you explain as such. Basically it doesn't matter whether you love or loathe cleaning or touching, it's more about doing as instructed because that is where you rank, what you think of as your purpose, and that is what makes your lady and bull the happiest. Is that somewhat accurate?

 

[tj loser boy]

Although I admit to being completely addicted to clean up and watching bbc exploding Into and onto sexy white women, and allowing my self to be completely dominated at times by females as well as there male partners, I do not consider myself gay. Women always have been and always will be what I am most attracted to

 

[NYNJcuckcouple]

Makes sense when you explain as such. Basically it doesn't matter whether you love or loathe cleaning or touching, it's more about doing as instructed because that is where you rank, what you think of as your purpose, and that is what makes your lady and bull the happiest. Is that somewhat accurate?

Yes ! I found that I crave control over me. Also you must remember how many men are trapped in the Porno world ...I was widowed and my late wife was not into my kinks or more importantly labeled "Needs" . When I went out to find a mate I didn't realize how naive I was . I met my lady on a vanilla basis after dates with women into the Fetish. How it ended up for me was better because I had a love interest who opened up herself into loving and being a natural Domme cuckcoldress . Getting back to labels .. after she digested and was encouraged to move forward with this she said the word "Lifetyle" ...and yes it is ... I was so hell bent on getting my rocks off ... I didnt realize it is OUR lifestyle .. Ultimately who we both are ... sometimes its fun ... sometimes harsh ... or not fun a at all .. But who we are . Labeling us ? I guess Domme/Sub Cuckoldress/bi sissy cuck .. But very much in love

 

[WhtAcpt]

Cuckolding was once a very broad definition that included stag/vixen. In practicality, cuckold has leaned more towards submissive males wanting to be dominated (and possibly humiliated) in a submissive way. That cuck may have zero attraction to a male, but they will do what they are ordered to do. The most sub thing a man can do is to prepare and cleanup another man that is with his woman. It often includes her participation by telling the cuck how much better the bull is. It’s hard to say they are bi or gay, but who cares anyways.
I’m primarily a bi Stag that has zero desire to be cuck’ed, but I also have no attraction to men, but a desire for open sexual pleasure.
Plenty of categories out there and some that haven’t been named yet.

Wow you and NYNJ really opened my understanding in such a short time. I never thought of it in terms of that in which you both explained. If I interpreted correctly, you have fallen into a role that, whether you wanted to or not, is a notch down on the alpha male/mating heirarchy. The supreme alpha controls the pack, so-to-speak, and you fall in line because that's where you have been placed either by the lady, bull, or yourself, and either subconsciously, emotionally, or physically, or some combination of those three. And as a less-than, you beckon to the alpha's call because you have to, or need to, to keep the dynamics in check. And one last part, if I'm on track, is that if there is ever a threat to the "pack leader", aka the alpha bull, it's going to come from another alpha bull and not yourself.

Am I somewhere close to understanding the dynamics correctly?

 

[NYNJcuckcouple]

Wow you and NYNJ really opened my understanding in such a short time. I never thought of it in terms of that in which you both explained. If I interpreted correctly, you have fallen into a role that, whether you wanted to or not, is a notch down on the alpha male/mating heirarchy. The supreme alpha controls the pack, so-to-speak, and you fall in line because that's where you have been placed either by the lady, bull, or yourself, and either subconsciously, emotionally, or physically, or some combination of those three. And as a less-than, you beckon to the alpha's call because you have to, or need to, to keep the dynamics in check. And one last part, if I'm on track, is that if there is ever a threat to the "pack leader", aka the alpha bull, it's going to come from another alpha bull and not yourself.

Am I somewhere close to understanding the dynamics correctly?

The only change I would make is to remember my Lady is a Domme . She allows our Bull his dominance over me , She is not sub to him at all although she does enjoy being taken by a strong Alpha . There is a difference . She is ultimately in charge even if it is replacing the Alpha Male .

 

[WhtAcpt]

 

[3eta3itch]

To say "you don't get it" might just mean you're not a bitch.

I say that in all seriousness and not jokingly. Many of us "men" have come to terms with how truly extraordinary it can feel to connect with that part of ourselves that so intensely gets off on humiliation and submission, particularly if a female significant other is helping to facilitate our behavior.

You may just not be one of us. Fair enough.