There are sooo many ways to get hooked up. And there are plenty of white women (young & more mature) that love to fuck black men.
If you are or want to be in the lifestyle, you probably need to join a swing site to meet people or learn about parties - where you can meet people.
Just google "swinger web sites" lol.
SDC & SLS are 2 such sites.
Many sites are geared to a geographic area. For example, SDC is very heavy in TX & FL.
Some LS clubs allow single males to attend on select nights. Also there are vacation spots that welcum single men - like hedonism in Jamaica.
Also, there are groups that connect black men and white women - magnumbbc & the goodfellaz are two such groups. The goodfellaz puts on events like splashmocha (splashmocha.com). (I'll be attending their event in August ?)
I find it is difficult to "pick up" a vanilla.
Some signs indicating LS include an upside down pineapple or a black ring. Some signs that a white woman is open to black men include some sort of hot wife or queen of spades emblem.
BUT most LS people don't advertise their LS status in the vanilla world - - - but prolonged eye contact & a sexy smile might be a clue.