OP is being obtuse. That being said, I do appreciate it when my playmates can get straight to the point and perform the task at hand. I’m an oddity in that I don’t require any seduction/romance/foreplay to get me wet. (Just ask some of the guys on this site that I’ve played with)
If you show up smelling good and have a big hard black cock in your pants then very little need be said for us to enjoy ourselves. Things are a bit different from the traditional swinger mentality for my situation due to being a content creator and bringing potential playmates in through a vetting process that only requires guys to talk to my husband when he and I are doing video interviews. Guys always know they’re talking to someone legitimate when they’re approaching me, which means they’ll quickly be discouraged by the fact I can smell a fake a mile away at this point and I don’t put up with any bs. I completely understand where guys could get discouraged by all of the fake profiles and even some of the “real” profiles not being legit either, but it’s no excuse to abandon all respect and decorum. You get what you give, plain and simple. If you are sketchy you will only attract others that are sketchy. It’s easy to tell who means business. If a profile has lots of original photos and videos that they’ve taken care to watermark themselves, post consistent themes and opinions, and aren’t afraid to share their location then they’re probably legit. People do need time to learn and adapt to the lifestyle and this and other lifestyle related sites though, so I imagine it’s only getting more difficult to want to follow through for those just starting out since this site has become a toxic waste dump of fakes and trolls. It was not this bad when my husband and I first started swinging over a decade ago and were using the likes of Craigslist and AFF to find guys. Back then I did make my husband do all of the interaction with potential playmates because I couldn’t handle all of the bs and fakes but my husband is a patient man. Nowadays all of these lifestyle sites are obsolete when it comes to the purpose of meeting like minded individuals. Social media is actually useful for this task if absolutely nothing else.
Some good rules to follow for this and any other forum or adult dating site:
1. never rely on any one site to meet hotwives
2. always assume the women are fake until proven otherwise
3. avoid couples where the husband is the “gatekeeper” because that means they’re wanting to control from the bottom and that can lead to some undesirable scenarios. Husbands should be advocates, not gatekeepers.
4. Assume most profiles are desperate men just looking for some masturbation material
5. Don’t be afraid to put yourself out there. The more guarded you are about your location, experience, and physical traits the less likely real people are going to care to talk to you and it will end up attracting more fakes. (Fakes attract other fakes, like an online circle jerk)
6. Not everyone is a viable option to become a playmate so take rejection with grace.
I’m sure I could say more but I’ve already gone on quite the rant here.