Again, you're using "generally," and that doesn't even come close to the majority of relationships I've been involved in (50+). Does it occur--Yes. How often--perhaps 10% of the time. My experience is that most of the single women/couples I've met fall into two categories. 1. Those who will not let race prohibit them from dating or enjoying themselves. 2. Those who have a strong curiosity, but have never acted upon it. Most of these women/wives want to have an opportunity to experience the contrast in skin color, the curiosity of "is it different?" They're not looking down upon me as some lower form of being (if they were, why would they want to be with me?). To the contrary, they're interested in an experience that society has tried to mold them into believing is "taboo and forbidden." In reality (not this site), few are really looking for an 11" or 12" dick. They couldn't handle that, and they know it (and most of us are not packing that). Category 1 is looking for a mind and body experience--just as they would with any other man. Category 2. is looking to have a fantasy fulfilled, and hoping it is pleasurable and fulfilling, and perhaps, repeatable. Yes, there's a category 3, usually involving a couple where the man wants to "demean" his wife, or, a woman with very low esteem and wants "to be used, or punished." Category 3 however, is far smaller than the other two categories, and IMHO, is not the norm.