I LOVE THIS......
Be Careful What you Wish For. How I lost my wife to the lifestyle.
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I LOVE THIS......
You know I’ve got your back on that comment.....many will disagree but.....I believe in the oneness of marital intimacy
When my wife started seeing her personal trainer as a bit of fun for a few weeks, we never thought that 4 years later they would still be together and a very public couple. I don't regret it I just have a lot of anxiety that one day she will leave me for him even though she constantly reassures me she loves me and won't leave.
Why is that a surprise....she had two boyfriends. One that does the hard work, provides for her, is there for her and the other one she does the fun stuff with. Sounds like a great deal for her.
I’m trying to figure out where this lifestyle is for men - where are all the HWB (hot white bitches) looking to fuck you married men. I know where they are - trying to find cucks. So they can get unlimited black cock
Well, believe it or not, my current marriage is much stronger and intimate from cuckolding. It lets you live a brutally honest life, she has no sexual frustrations, I don't have to pretend to be anyone i'm not, she doesn't have to pretend she loves sex with me or fake her orgasms, it brings out her dominance and my submissiveness, which we both love, she has no desire to ever cheat on me... because she never needs to, and I get to enjoy 100% monogamy to her to constantly show my devotion/ loyalty.
I have lost a wife and a fiance to this lifestyle, but both of those women were not suited to a cuckold with a small penis or appreciated having one...they were much better matched to the alpha, swinger, bull/ stag type... which ultimately both found.
Our marriage is also much stronger with a lot more honesty
Slink, I know your situation - I know this works for you too. I think this lifestyle can work for TRUE submissive men (either through nature or nurture) and true dominant woman. I think this lifestyle can work for a man who is not capable in performing sexually for a woman...
But I’m tried of these average sized men thinking they can’t satisfy their wives. Stop watching all that porn, it’s designed to make you think you can’t satisfy for gf or wife. Many men can satisfy their wives a lot but lack the sexual expertise and knowledge to do so. Many women say, “white men can’t fuck”. I feel you - they don’t want to learn. (Not all of you, just the ones that make that excuse).
I’m tired of the excuse that men get into this lifestyle because they can’t adequately please your wife or gf. You can - have you tried to figure out how to do it or are you watching porn and saying, “I don’t got the dick so she won’t enjoy it”
sex is more than a dick. Big dick men know how to use it, average sized black men know how to use it, white men just pumping in and out like a jack rabbit. Cmon man - you can’t hit the spots with that jack hammer technique. Find the spots, put pressure on the spots, while licking and lightly blowing on other spots, look her in her eyes and mom fucking control.
this ******* is pissing me off. I know you cucks like to get talked down to - let’s start talking about how YOU can please your wife adequately so if and when y’all do decide to go this route - she still desires sex with you.
STEP YOUR SEX GAME UP AND STOP RELYING OM BULLS. You might not be able to compete but atleast your wife will desire having sex with you.
I really don’t give a fuck if you go into this lifestyle- it’s your intimacy and connection you are losing not mine, but don’t say it’s because your average dick can’t make satisfy her.
But I’m tried of these average sized men thinking they can’t satisfy their wives. Stop watching all that porn, it’s designed to make you think you can’t satisfy for gf or wife. Many men can satisfy their wives a lot but lack the sexual expertise and knowledge to do so. Many women say, “white men can’t fuck”. I feel you - they don’t want to learn. (Not all of you, just the ones that make that excuse).
I’m tired of the excuse that men get into this lifestyle because they can’t adequately please your wife or gf. You can - have you tried to figure out how to do it or are you watching porn and saying, “I don’t got the dick so she won’t enjoy it”
sex is more than a dick. Big dick men know how to use it, average sized black men know how to use it, white men just pumping in and out like a jack rabbit. Cmon man - you can’t hit the spots with that jack hammer technique. Find the spots, put pressure on the spots, while licking and lightly blowing on other spots, look her in her eyes and mom fucking control.
this ******* is pissing me off. I know you cucks like to get talked down to - let’s start talking about how YOU can please your wife adequately so if and when y’all do decide to go this route - she still desires sex with you.
STEP YOUR SEX GAME UP AND STOP RELYING OM BULLS. You might not be able to compete but atleast your wife will desire having sex with you.
I really don’t give a fuck if you go into this lifestyle- it’s your intimacy and connection you are losing not mine, but don’t say it’s because your average dick can’t make satisfy her.
....or do you need the humiliation of being horrible in bed and being your wive’s bitch to create the intensity of emotion needed to override all the negative emotion you are getting.
It seems like the more we tell you, “you can’t satisfy a woman, you suck, your only job is locking up your dick and licking up someone else’s cum” the harder you get. I think you need a lot of “other” emotion to deal with the jealosy, shame, and feelings of inadequacy you are receiving.
I would say, “sorry, but these are my thoughts” but y’all don’t want that. You want to be ridiculed and look down on.
I once told someone if I were to ever be a bull, I would be a bull trying to bring respect to the husband and someone told me - “don’t do that, these men don’t want to be respected- they want to be dominated - the more you dominate them the more they love you and insist that your fuck their wife more - they might even fix you a sandwich after.”
That dude is right.
so from now on.....Im changing my mindset on cucks. I don’t feel bad for you and don’t empathize with you any more. You get what you deserve - no go in the kitchen and make me a mothafucking sandwich
being an Alpha means being a straight up asshole. What world do I live in.
I would say, “sorry, but these are my thoughts” but y’all don’t want that. You want to be ridiculed and look down on.
I once told someone if I were to ever be a bull, I would be a bull trying to bring respect to the husband and someone told me - “don’t do that, these men don’t want to be respected- they want to be dominated - the more you dominate them the more they love you and insist that your fuck their wife more - they might even fix you a sandwich after.”
That dude is right.
so from now on.....Im changing my mindset on cucks. I don’t feel bad for you and don’t empathize with you any more. You get what you deserve - no go in the kitchen and make me a mothafucking sandwich
being an Alpha means being a straight up asshole. What world do I live in.
Well, I see where you are coming from, but a lot of cucks like myself end up with masochistic wants, and a lot of it is from using it as a defence mechanism from when you were younger.
There is no way I could explain the pain, anguish, humiliation, loneliness, rejection, embarrassment of being a virgin until nearly 23yo, and not only everybody knowing it, but your friends and all their girlfriends teasing you when you are the only one heading home from a nightclub alone, knowing they were all going home to fuck like rabbits while them knowing you'll be fucking your hand. Every New Years Eve, every Valentine's Day, not a single kiss from a girl... the rejection was quite hard to get over.
You know how i'd cheer myself up? I'd masturbate. I'd masturbate at the thought of my friends girlfriends, their mothers, the girls who ignored me at school, the girls who would not even notice me at nightclubs. The more it upset me, the more i'd masturbate.
For my 18th birthday, I was given a Playboy subscription from my mates, and they gave me a gift wrapped box of tissues from their girlfriends... it was light hearted, but it hurt like hell. I so wanted to just put my cock into a real women, any woman and cum inside her, and there just weren't any for me. So you begin to rely on masturbation to get you through the highs and lows. I had even owned a blow up sex doll, just to pretend I had a fuck when I went home on a Saturday night. Try and visualise looking at yourself in the mirror fucking a blow up doll, because no one else wants to fuck you.
It just changed the way you see yourself as a man. The other thing is, women can tell a guy that doesn't or can't get laid... and they just don't desire those men, so it becomes a vicious cycle. How can you become good at fucking when no one wants to fuck you?
They only want to start fucking those men, when they want the nice house, car, ******* etc. until then... they want well endowed alphas, and why shouldn't they?
I think there are many reason men become cuckolds, but once you've crossed the line of masturbating to masochistic thoughts, being cheated on, being rejected, being humiliated... and those orgasms are always much, much stronger than any others, its hard for you brain to want the lesser ones ever again.
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I didn’t lose my ex wife to another man or a black man. But I will say the lifestyle definitely steered my marriage in to that direction. My wife at the time knew about my last relationship where my ex gf was in threesomes with me and gabgbangs and I told her how much fun it was. (Ex gf and I split up after I got out of the military and she got orders to Korea). At that time my ex wife who was my fiancée said she could never do that and I was the best sex she ever had and that our sex life was great which it was. She had many firsts with me and I pretty well hung and in my younger days last for an about half an hour or more. I even made her squirt.
So about an month before our wedding day we are playing with the dildos in bed. I have the nice 8 inch black dildo deep her pussy fucking her while she’s giving me an incredible blow job. We play for about an hour or so when after she turns to me and says would you like to have an threesome with another guy. Of course I got excited and said yes. She said she will pick the guy and go from there. She decided to find an guy who was just visiting the area so if it went bad she and I would never see him again. So she found an really nice white guy who was home from the military for three weeks. We met him and that night was the most memorial sexual night in my life. My fiancée at the time sucked and fucked the 2 of us for hours with an Pizza break in between. Then we fucked all morning when we woke up till check out time of the hotel. She met him 2 times alone and 4-6 times with me. It was the most incredible three weeks. My fiancée was glowing in sexual excitement and bliss. We should have invited him to the wedding but we were just so busy we overlooked it.
So I thought I had the best wife. Trusted to play with me and without me. Our sex life was amazing we found 1-2 regulars and an few just one or two guy hook up and we played with two other couples. The guys were variety between white and black. Not all black guys are hung and bulls lol.
Then the problems started. My asshole detector went off with this last guy she was meeting. The first time he came to the hotel he was awkward. You could tell he definitely wasn’t experienced or comfortable with me there. I expressed this to my then wife and she said he was just nervous, I guess could understand that. But then the flags were going off that I ignored over the excitement of the lifestyle. He would make excuses to making the meet ups with the two of us but would free up to meet and fuck her alone. Then she told me they stopped using protection ( biggest rule is we always played with protection especially new guys). I should have stopped it right then and there but the guy was married and the excitement of another guy cuming in my wife was really an turn on. But things still keep going down hill, my wife starts fighting with me over the littlest stuff. Starts putting me down saying I’m not going to amount to anything (even though I was working three jobs to support her through grad school). She started just treating me like *******. So we went to couples counseling and after one time she gave up on it when the counselor pointed out her flaws. She said this is who she is and wasn’t changing. So this goes on for another three months. She is now secretly seeing this asshole guy and still not using protection. The threesomes I have died down a lot from the last 3-4 months.
So we decide to take an road trip from the mid west back home to NY. We met up with the original army guy in the beginning of this adventure and spend 5-6 days with him, having the most incredible sex ever. About an week later she tests positive for an STD and flips out. The next month is an up and down rollercoaster. One minute she loves me and next she hates me. Then she disappeared for about two weeks and I told her to pack her things and get out! Come to find out she was seeing two other guys behind my back throughout all this. She ended getting one of the guys to take her after her roommate asked her to move out after two months. (Ran in to her roommate a few months after who told my ex went completely psycho.) My ex is remarried to the guy that took her in since she got pregnant with in that year they were together. My current wife works with my ex’s husband and from others at work he gets treated like crap and is unhappy in the marriage most of the time. So maybe my ex wife just went nuts and refused to get help. But the lifestyle didn’t help.
So to wrap this all up if red flags are going off like most of these stories and experiences like mine, put your foot down. Yeah your woman might be upset and even mad. But here’s the test. If she’s really loyal and loves you she will stop seeing the guy or if you catch her seeing him on the side without telling you then start planning for an away out. Unfortunately the excitement of the lifestyle overwhelms most of us and we ignore the facts about what’s really happening. Trust and communication is huge in these lifestyles wether your an cuckold or have an Hotwife.
So about an month before our wedding day we are playing with the dildos in bed. I have the nice 8 inch black dildo deep her pussy fucking her while she’s giving me an incredible blow job. We play for about an hour or so when after she turns to me and says would you like to have an threesome with another guy. Of course I got excited and said yes. She said she will pick the guy and go from there. She decided to find an guy who was just visiting the area so if it went bad she and I would never see him again. So she found an really nice white guy who was home from the military for three weeks. We met him and that night was the most memorial sexual night in my life. My fiancée at the time sucked and fucked the 2 of us for hours with an Pizza break in between. Then we fucked all morning when we woke up till check out time of the hotel. She met him 2 times alone and 4-6 times with me. It was the most incredible three weeks. My fiancée was glowing in sexual excitement and bliss. We should have invited him to the wedding but we were just so busy we overlooked it.
So I thought I had the best wife. Trusted to play with me and without me. Our sex life was amazing we found 1-2 regulars and an few just one or two guy hook up and we played with two other couples. The guys were variety between white and black. Not all black guys are hung and bulls lol.
Then the problems started. My asshole detector went off with this last guy she was meeting. The first time he came to the hotel he was awkward. You could tell he definitely wasn’t experienced or comfortable with me there. I expressed this to my then wife and she said he was just nervous, I guess could understand that. But then the flags were going off that I ignored over the excitement of the lifestyle. He would make excuses to making the meet ups with the two of us but would free up to meet and fuck her alone. Then she told me they stopped using protection ( biggest rule is we always played with protection especially new guys). I should have stopped it right then and there but the guy was married and the excitement of another guy cuming in my wife was really an turn on. But things still keep going down hill, my wife starts fighting with me over the littlest stuff. Starts putting me down saying I’m not going to amount to anything (even though I was working three jobs to support her through grad school). She started just treating me like *******. So we went to couples counseling and after one time she gave up on it when the counselor pointed out her flaws. She said this is who she is and wasn’t changing. So this goes on for another three months. She is now secretly seeing this asshole guy and still not using protection. The threesomes I have died down a lot from the last 3-4 months.
So we decide to take an road trip from the mid west back home to NY. We met up with the original army guy in the beginning of this adventure and spend 5-6 days with him, having the most incredible sex ever. About an week later she tests positive for an STD and flips out. The next month is an up and down rollercoaster. One minute she loves me and next she hates me. Then she disappeared for about two weeks and I told her to pack her things and get out! Come to find out she was seeing two other guys behind my back throughout all this. She ended getting one of the guys to take her after her roommate asked her to move out after two months. (Ran in to her roommate a few months after who told my ex went completely psycho.) My ex is remarried to the guy that took her in since she got pregnant with in that year they were together. My current wife works with my ex’s husband and from others at work he gets treated like crap and is unhappy in the marriage most of the time. So maybe my ex wife just went nuts and refused to get help. But the lifestyle didn’t help.
So to wrap this all up if red flags are going off like most of these stories and experiences like mine, put your foot down. Yeah your woman might be upset and even mad. But here’s the test. If she’s really loyal and loves you she will stop seeing the guy or if you catch her seeing him on the side without telling you then start planning for an away out. Unfortunately the excitement of the lifestyle overwhelms most of us and we ignore the facts about what’s really happening. Trust and communication is huge in these lifestyles wether your an cuckold or have an Hotwife.
slink, I feel you. My message wasn’t necessarily for you. Small dick men, who can barely get their penis in a vagina - I empathize with you and I feel you if you have to get someone else in to help in that area....I’m more talking about the average dick men screaming ‘black is better’ and haven’t changed their stroke up since ‘83.
When it comes to the Sex Olympics - I put my money on BBC, especially those who are biggest and having been whoring themselves since their youth, so they know how to use it. Yeah, I get they are Michael Phelps but I didn’t know 90% of who you are as a man was providing your woman with posterior fornix (past the cervix) orgasms.
I thought being a man was taking care of your responsibilities, making sure everyone in your household is good and happy, being a protector, being a provider, being a strong and loving husband. On this website, those things are for weakass bitches....what makes you a real man is a big dick and fucking so many women, you are good with sex.
Fellas, if you’ve got an average dick, stop worrying that you ain’t Mandingo and figure out how you can create as many orgasms with your hands, mouth, dick, and even toys. You don’t have to bring in a “real man” in - you are the real man, dummy. Your wife doesn’t fucking deserve the greatest orgasms in the world, she deserves YOU.
Small dick men, under 5”. I don’t even know what to say. You drew the short stick, no pun intended. I can see why you feel the way you feel but if you decide to go this route - have your wife RESPECT you. Slink, your wife respects you. She’s been on this site standing up for her man. If your wife doesn’t stand up for you in front of the bull, SHE DOESNT RESPECT YOU.
Cucks, women respect a man who stands up for himself. They don’t respect someone who is going to cower with every fucking decision. You might let her fuck other men but she better DAMN SURE RESPECT YOUR ASS for being the real man in her life and taking responsibility for the people in his household - DONT EVER LET YOUR WOMAN DISRESPECT YOU. You feel disrespected - you let her ass know. She doesn’t fucking like it - she can get the fuck out and go live like the crack whore from Hustle and Flow.
Bulls, on this site. MAD RESPECT. Y’all are intelligent, thoughtful, and want to just add some spice to the relationship. This is not a disparaging remark to y’all. Im just tried of the Snuffleupagus attitude of the cuck.
DEMAND YOUR RESPECT from your wife that claims to love you. In African American culture, we have this term called, “check that bitch”. Here is how we use that term in a sentence.“Yo, I wasn’t feeling the way Sarah got at you yesterday, you need to check that bitch”
that doesn’t mean domestic abuse my fellow white guys, it means address the situation and make sure she respects you. A woman wants to respect you.
Just saying
bound2bmine
Male
Very well written and so true.
I definitely agree with, you need a wife who still respects you as a man and a husband... my two ex's that left me, never really did respect or appreciate me, and being a submissive bi cuckold only chipped away more of that respect over time. They both had already decided they no longer wanted to be with a man like myself, so went from looking for fuckbuddies to potential future partners, as soon as they found the right guy, they jumped ship and left me hanging.
The one thing my current wife said to me 13 years ago about my past life, sexual history etc. was she had no issues with any of it... the only thing that would be a deal breaker for her, was not that I had a small cock, and everything that goes wit that, but she said, if I hadn't reconciled with that fact, she couldn't be with me. She didn't want to deal with or play psychologist to a man with extreme or constant anger, jealousy, envy issues... and I greed with her. She has never once berated me about my need or want to masturbate regularly as she also understands its how I got through a lot of painful years in my youth and used it to self medicate the permanent feelings of loneliness, shame, guilt and humiliation.
I love the key phases used here - understood me and respects me
Yeah, takes a special type of woman to become a hotwife and not lose respect for her cuck I think. In saying that, she is a total control freak and enjoys the power and huge imbalance we have, plus has almost total control of everything in out household... so the dynamic works for her.
She does say often, if a woman wants a pet that 100% loyal, get a cuckold
Vixer
Couple
I'm cuckold, a beta man, my girlfriend wants black cocks rather than white ones and I wouldn't mind if it just happened to me like you. It would be natural for a black guy with a big cock to steal my girlfriend, I am satisfied that I see them together and be secondary, if you tell me that I will end up with photos like yours, I accept
Trust me, once you lose your GF to another man, you won't be secondary, you will be removed all together. It will cut you like a knife once you see her enjoying her new life on social media, and wait until you see her in those pics with her guy, 6 months pregnant and glowing beyond belief, and all you have is... yourself to blame, cuck porn, a box of tissues and your hand. Trust me, its much harder to get over once it becomes reality.
bound2bmine
Male
Totally agree.
Vixer
Couple
I say it assuming that I will be a part even if it is secondary to the relationship, basically I would allow it to replace me ... I would like to see how black leaves his seed every day
I want to feel what it is to have a black boy in my bed fucking my wife as much as I want, to get home and see them together
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