I have not heard of the blackmail thing. I do act like a slut, I will give you that, but it's my choice. My husband knows, but you are correct, it's still cheating. It is however our choice to do what we do. The consequences could create a baby. I knew that full well from the beginning and was totally fine with getting pregnant that way. We just choose to handle this whole bbc thing differently than you would. Somethings I detest reading on this site. For example, the whole collar/leash/crawl gig. If someone asked me to do that, I'm laughing in their face and walking out.