AnnWill
Male
We have been in the lifestyle for several years, and find it more and more difficult to hookup with compatible partners as we get older.
Coupled with that is Ann's total comfort with hotwifing and being exclusive to black men except for hubby. We have one man she sees regularly, and has for several years, but she is open to someone new from time to time, but every time we set up a meet she gets more and more apprehensive the more she thinks about (more for fear of rejection than anything, she says). "I love to do it but I don't like to have to think about it a lot beforehand. I like spontaneous better."
Her apprehension for this has grown over time and become almost an obstacle in meeting someone from online. Even though she may have talked on the phone with someone, she feels somewhat pressured to go through with it with someone who does not click in person. Case in point we met one guy who checked all her boxes, everything is a go, and he shows up in a sweatsuit. She went through with but, but more because she didn't want to think she had wasted the time. He was OK, but nothing magical about if for her. The sweatsuit was a total turnoff.
However she is very open to meeting someone in a bar and hooking up, something she has only done a couple of times since we started hotwifing.
Recently we were traveling out of town and she was going to try it, dressed really hot with a sexy thin top and no bra, and I was to hang back for thirty minutes. She texted me before the time was up telling me there was some kind of women's convention in the hotel and the bar had no men in it. Interesting thing was she did go there with the intention of seeing if someone would hit on her. (She had a Queen of Spades rub on tat on her ankle too).
So when reading a story the other day I read of a husband who arranges for black men to hit on his wife in a bar, having vetted them, etc. ahead of time, but thus avoiding his wife having any apprehension and thinking about it too much in advance and getting cold feet. This way the wife doesn't have to go through the build up, she sees the guy in person, and if there is a vibe there she is going to pick up on it in person. But, as a bar patron if the guy hits on her and she has no interest she can feel no obligation in telling him there's no vibe there.
When I mentioned the story to my wife she lit up. "That would work," she said.
Which brings me to the point of this post. Anyone here ever played it like that, with hubby telling a potential suitor where she would be and giving him the invitation to say hello, knowing that she is there looking for just that?
Or, is this something that sounds good in print but few men are willing to go to the trouble for such a hookup since there is a chance she might not be interested in him for some reason?
If this is within the realm of possibility are there men out there who would be willing to approach my wife under these circumstances? (Please read our profile first, pix in the avatar is her). We travel regularly to New Orleans, North Myrtle Beach, and North Atlanta area. Recommendations for good bars would be nice as well.
Coupled with that is Ann's total comfort with hotwifing and being exclusive to black men except for hubby. We have one man she sees regularly, and has for several years, but she is open to someone new from time to time, but every time we set up a meet she gets more and more apprehensive the more she thinks about (more for fear of rejection than anything, she says). "I love to do it but I don't like to have to think about it a lot beforehand. I like spontaneous better."
Her apprehension for this has grown over time and become almost an obstacle in meeting someone from online. Even though she may have talked on the phone with someone, she feels somewhat pressured to go through with it with someone who does not click in person. Case in point we met one guy who checked all her boxes, everything is a go, and he shows up in a sweatsuit. She went through with but, but more because she didn't want to think she had wasted the time. He was OK, but nothing magical about if for her. The sweatsuit was a total turnoff.
However she is very open to meeting someone in a bar and hooking up, something she has only done a couple of times since we started hotwifing.
Recently we were traveling out of town and she was going to try it, dressed really hot with a sexy thin top and no bra, and I was to hang back for thirty minutes. She texted me before the time was up telling me there was some kind of women's convention in the hotel and the bar had no men in it. Interesting thing was she did go there with the intention of seeing if someone would hit on her. (She had a Queen of Spades rub on tat on her ankle too).
So when reading a story the other day I read of a husband who arranges for black men to hit on his wife in a bar, having vetted them, etc. ahead of time, but thus avoiding his wife having any apprehension and thinking about it too much in advance and getting cold feet. This way the wife doesn't have to go through the build up, she sees the guy in person, and if there is a vibe there she is going to pick up on it in person. But, as a bar patron if the guy hits on her and she has no interest she can feel no obligation in telling him there's no vibe there.
When I mentioned the story to my wife she lit up. "That would work," she said.
Which brings me to the point of this post. Anyone here ever played it like that, with hubby telling a potential suitor where she would be and giving him the invitation to say hello, knowing that she is there looking for just that?
Or, is this something that sounds good in print but few men are willing to go to the trouble for such a hookup since there is a chance she might not be interested in him for some reason?
If this is within the realm of possibility are there men out there who would be willing to approach my wife under these circumstances? (Please read our profile first, pix in the avatar is her). We travel regularly to New Orleans, North Myrtle Beach, and North Atlanta area. Recommendations for good bars would be nice as well.
