Attempts to enter the lifestyle with wife not fully working.

[Cuckolddreamer]

Hi all boys and girls,

I have tried to join the lifestyle with my wife, here are the things I tried and their results.

I did tell her from the start my cuckold fantasy and we played in the bed, she was receptive and told me as long as it got me off she was happy.

Later I told her about my small penis fetish and we played with that, it took a bit because she felt unconfortable saying that to me until I showed how much I enjoyed it.

I only watch porn on tv with her that has a cuckolding, femdom, bbc... Never anything that shows the husband as dominant.

I don't mind when she goes to clubs with her girlfriends without me and arrives at 3-4 in the morning.

I bough her a black dildo and played with her. Then a long while later she was off from work and when I came back she told me she was playing with the dildo and came.

I have told her that I will always be faithful in our discussions. I will always be supportive if she chooses to have sex with other men. Just don't let our family find out. She is very open to talking.

She has made me cum in my mouth many times since I told her about that fetish too. I always fully shave my balls and penis to make it look smaller, I am 6 inches I think.

But, she has told me she would not feel comfortable cheating on me, she said it would make her feel bad.

This is were we are stuck right now

 

[Cuckolddreamer]

Don't push it.
Patience, honest communication, and continuous reinforcement of how she is beautiful to you and always will be.
But do not push a fantasy into reality with somebody that does not want to. It only leads to resentment and Hate

You are right, I have stopped asking her to do it. We just focus on the fetish part and play with ourselves. She is very happy watching porn with me.

 

[Cuckolddreamer]

Hi cuckolddreamer.

Why the sad face? Sounds like you have an awesome wife and adventurous sex life!

It is odd that she doesn't feel bad "making you ******* your own semen", but would feel bad sleeping with another man.

Do you two go out to clubs or bars where there are opportunities for your wife to be hit on? It may liven up the fantasy role play and get your wife more comfortable around other men - especially seeing how excited you get by the attention she draws.

Anyhow - enjoy the cuckold fantasy.

Sad face just meant that I really wanna be a cuckold. I am very happy with our life. Sge is very open to talking about anything that I come up with! It's one of those cases were you are told cheating is wrong your whole life.

I explained to her that it is only cheating if the other partner is not part of the process or does not want to be a cuckold.

Cheating is when someone does not want something and you still do it.

But I am not bothering her or pushing her, we just enjoy all the cuckold fantasy ourselves and I keep hoping she will take the plunge someday on her own free will.

 

[joe351]

You might want to start out with a nice looking white guy that she is attracted to. I think most wives start out with someone they know. First time you might even be better off waiting in the next room. Next time she will be more relaxed maybe they can leave the door open for you. Then move up to joining in.. You have to remember this is all about her. If she likes the idea of having you and your friend do her together then do it. At some point it may turn your wife on to see you with your friends dick in your mouth. I knew my wife was turned on by me watching her with another man. I was kind of shocked when she said you love watching me have sex with a man I want to watch you. You with a dick in your mouth. After a while bringing another man into your bedroom is not a big deal. Most women are attracted to blacks anyway . Introduce her to a nice black guy after a couple of drinks she will want him inside of her. I know that on this site all of the women take an 18 inch black cock up the ass on there wedding night but in real life things don't always move that fast.

 

[Maria2281975]

You might want to start out with a nice looking white guy that she is attracted to. I think most wives start out with someone they know. First time you might even be better off waiting in the next room. Next time she will be more relaxed maybe they can leave the door open for you. Then move up to joining in.. You have to remember this is all about her. If she likes the idea of having you and your friend do her together then do it. At some point it may turn your wife on to see you with your friends dick in your mouth. I knew my wife was turned on by me watching her with another man. I was kind of shocked when she said you love watching me have sex with a man I want to watch you. You with a dick in your mouth. After a while bringing another man into your bedroom is not a big deal. Most women are attracted to blacks anyway . Introduce her to a nice black guy after a couple of drinks she will want him inside of her. I know that on this site all of the women take an 18 inch black cock up the ass on there wedding night but in real life things don't always move that fast.

Yes. Start with someone both of you know who she is comfortable with. Pick a hottest one!!

 

[J and G]

Maybe if you were both involved, say an MFM sharing session, to start, it would not feel like cheating to her.

 

[Cuckolddreamer]

Your definition of "cheating" sounds pretty close to the definition of sexual assault - not sure I want to be cheated on!

Lol I meant if a person cheats and the partner does not want to be cheated on.