Husband here . So I have been trying to convince my wife to go black for some time now . Many discussions / arguments over the past few years . I stepped back and told her not to bother because it was causing too much stress . I told her I’d keep it just a fantasy . Shortly after that about a couple of months ago , she found a group that primarily swings interracially. We went to an event and found a very suitable big muscular black guy . Long story short , they had sex on video so I could watch later . It was thrilling and exciting for me and enhanced my attraction to her even more and made me cherish her even more , but it didn’t have the same affect on her . Bunch of bad things occurred in our regular life after the event and she constantly blames the event for it . Saying she’s being punished for doing something perverted and evil . She keeps bringing it up as the worst experience she’s ever had and she hated it !if I even hint about the lifestyle , we fight … I’m confused tho cuz , in the video she was moaning in pleasure and couldn’t take her eyes of his BBC . I mean she was literally staring at it going in and out of her With me she almost always keeps her eyes shut the whole time . She seemed into it , is what I’m saying , and I wanted her to experience more and have the most pleasure possible . I’ve tried to talk to her about it being her first experience and that it will get better with a different person maybe . Maybe the first guy was too big and bulky or not dark enough to get from on the skin contrast , maybe he smothered her and didn’t have as good chemistry or talked too much , but with someone else she could have better chemistry. Her rebuttals are consistently negative and hateful and pointing the finger at me for being abnormal for wanting this lifestyle . So I’m back to the beginning again where she doesn’t want it at all and I do …… what now ????!
