Advise on how to get husband to say Yes!

DC-Wife

DC-Wife

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I find myself in a situation that has been on my mind for quite some time now, and I could use some guidance from this supportive community. My husband and I have been married for almost 7 years and always had a strong and open communication in our relationship, which is why I'm reaching out here to seek advice on a senstive issue.

Over the course of our marriage, my husband has shared some wild IR fantasies with me in bed that we both found exciting to discuss. He recently started asking me to consider sleeping with a well endowed black man! However, when I finally said yes for acting on these fantasies and trying it once, he seemed to have lost his nerve and backed away, stating that they were just fantasies. While I respect his boundaries and decisions, I can't help but find myself continually thinking about exploring these desires together.

I want to approach this in a way that respects my husband's feelings and boundaries. So, I am looking for advice on how to gently and effectively open a dialogue with my husband about the possibility of revisiting these shared fantasies and potentially taking a step forward.

If anyone has been in a similar situation or has any advice on how to broach this topic with sensitivity and understanding, I would greatly appreciate your insights. Our relationship means the world to me, and I want to ensure that we navigate this together in a way that strengthens our connection yet fulfil my desires ..

P.S I did include a photo as it seems customary on here for new members to do so :)

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DC-Wife said:
I find myself in a situation that has been on my mind for quite some time now, and I could use some guidance from this supportive community. My husband and I have been married for almost 7 years and always had a strong and open communication in our relationship, which is why I'm reaching out here to seek advice on a senstive issue.

Over the course of our marriage, my husband has shared some wild IR fantasies with me in bed that we both found exciting to discuss. He recently started asking me to consider sleeping with a well endowed black man! However, when I finally said yes for acting on these fantasies and trying it once, he seemed to have lost his nerve and backed away, stating that they were just fantasies. While I respect his boundaries and decisions, I can't help but find myself continually thinking about exploring these desires together.

I want to approach this in a way that respects my husband's feelings and boundaries. So, I am looking for advice on how to gently and effectively open a dialogue with my husband about the possibility of revisiting these shared fantasies and potentially taking a step forward.

If anyone has been in a similar situation or has any advice on how to broach this topic with sensitivity and understanding, I would greatly appreciate your insights. Our relationship means the world to me, and I want to ensure that we navigate this together in a way that strengthens our connection yet fulfil my desires ..

P.S I did include a photo as it seems customary on here for new members to do so :)

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As much as I want to offer some advice from the male perspective, I'd ask that you get verified first please. No disrespect to you, but it would show some level of authenticity to your profile.
 
Darkjumper said:
As much as I want to offer some advice from the male perspective, I'd ask that you get verified first please. No disrespect to you, but it would show some level of authenticity to your profile.
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This is a fair request and I appreciate the offer to help but I already registered under my real name email address and verifying just to post once seems excessive. If you're willing to share your insight without the verification, I'm all ears. If not, no worries - thanks anyway.
 
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Some fantasies, even when discussed, openly, honestly and at length, are simply to remain fantasies. Love and Respect for each other means that sometimes meeting in the middle means one or both needs to take a step backward...

Doesn't sound very hopeful does it? With time and maintaining the open lines of communication, things may change. Or not. One may say that you should just go ahead and DO IT without permission, blessing acceptance (the "Better to ask forgiveness than permission" perspective); Loss of Trust and a Husband is a very possible outcome if you decide upon adorning yourself with the Scarlet letter (as opposed to having it pinned on you like a badge of Honor). No need for head-games. Manipulation is a tool that is not conducive to a healthy marriage. Ultimatums can have a rubber-band effect that will give you whiplash.

So what to do? Keep talking. Reaffirm your Husband that BBC (or whatever color cock) is not a replacement for love, for you marrying each other (hopefully) for love. People a lot smarter than I have covered the topic, therefore I offer two suggestions from those "Smart People":

Opening Up: A Guide To Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships https://amzn.eu/d/cng8Mwl

The Ethical Slut, Third Edition: A Practical Guide to Polyamory, Open Relationships, and Other Freedoms in Sex and Love https://amzn.eu/d/1SkNstC

You can find these books in the US just as easily. Just so happens I'm in Europe so, Amaz0n.de it is🤣

Best of luck. Keep talking. Not for cing, not pressuring, not giving finite timelines ...

KEEP
TALKING.

For communication to be effective, it must be clear, correct, complete, concise, and compassionate.

My best advice is that when a decision is made, it's made TOGETHER. For Better or Worse...

Best of luck.
Btw- you're stunning in your photo.

B3C
 
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You should have the freedom to suck and fuck anyone you want - male or female but you need to include your husband to make it more fun. Tell him you want he to lick your pussy after he fucks you. Third time while he is licking his cum from your pussy - say fantasize that I fucked a new cock this afternoon. I want to see him again then afterwards I want to ride your face while I share the details with you. You will be able to tell he gets excited and lick your pussy better. So husband do you want me to fuck him again?
 
DC-Wife said:
I find myself in a situation that has been on my mind for quite some time now, and I could use some guidance from this supportive community. My husband and I have been married for almost 7 years and always had a strong and open communication in our relationship, which is why I'm reaching out here to seek advice on a senstive issue.

Over the course of our marriage, my husband has shared some wild IR fantasies with me in bed that we both found exciting to discuss. He recently started asking me to consider sleeping with a well endowed black man! However, when I finally said yes for acting on these fantasies and trying it once, he seemed to have lost his nerve and backed away, stating that they were just fantasies. While I respect his boundaries and decisions, I can't help but find myself continually thinking about exploring these desires together.

I want to approach this in a way that respects my husband's feelings and boundaries. So, I am looking for advice on how to gently and effectively open a dialogue with my husband about the possibility of revisiting these shared fantasies and potentially taking a step forward.

If anyone has been in a similar situation or has any advice on how to broach this topic with sensitivity and understanding, I would greatly appreciate your insights. Our relationship means the world to me, and I want to ensure that we navigate this together in a way that strengthens our connection yet fulfil my desires ..

P.S I did include a photo as it seems customary on here for new members to do so :)

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A good place to start is to give hubby a threesome with another woman! (If that is a fantasy of his!)

So the question is have you guys had the fantasy conversation and if you did what was his biggest fantasy? Give him his then get yours!
 
DC-Wife said:
I find myself in a situation that has been on my mind for quite some time now, and I could use some guidance from this supportive community. My husband and I have been married for almost 7 years and always had a strong and open communication in our relationship, which is why I'm reaching out here to seek advice on a senstive issue.

Over the course of our marriage, my husband has shared some wild IR fantasies with me in bed that we both found exciting to discuss. He recently started asking me to consider sleeping with a well endowed black man! However, when I finally said yes for acting on these fantasies and trying it once, he seemed to have lost his nerve and backed away, stating that they were just fantasies. While I respect his boundaries and decisions, I can't help but find myself continually thinking about exploring these desires together.

I want to approach this in a way that respects my husband's feelings and boundaries. So, I am looking for advice on how to gently and effectively open a dialogue with my husband about the possibility of revisiting these shared fantasies and potentially taking a step forward.

If anyone has been in a similar situation or has any advice on how to broach this topic with sensitivity and understanding, I would greatly appreciate your insights. Our relationship means the world to me, and I want to ensure that we navigate this together in a way that strengthens our connection yet fulfil my desires ..

P.S I did include a photo as it seems customary on here for new members to do so :)

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Hi I'm Steve and I would suggest you to keep it as a fantasy that becomes reality! Maybe watch a porn with the likes of the fantasy, roleplay if you must but do keep the communication lines open! I would also suggest if it does become reality do it with a stranger and in a common place(not your home) a hotel. Invite him to participate if that is possible for safety reasons and his comfort ability! Not sure if you want to loosen his inhibitions with alcohol(I call it the truth serum) but you will know if it's still a fantasy of his! Best of luck and I hope this helps! Steve!
 
DC-Wife said:
I find myself in a situation that has been on my mind for quite some time now, and I could use some guidance from this supportive community. My husband and I have been married for almost 7 years and always had a strong and open communication in our relationship, which is why I'm reaching out here to seek advice on a senstive issue.

Over the course of our marriage, my husband has shared some wild IR fantasies with me in bed that we both found exciting to discuss. He recently started asking me to consider sleeping with a well endowed black man! However, when I finally said yes for acting on these fantasies and trying it once, he seemed to have lost his nerve and backed away, stating that they were just fantasies. While I respect his boundaries and decisions, I can't help but find myself continually thinking about exploring these desires together.

I want to approach this in a way that respects my husband's feelings and boundaries. So, I am looking for advice on how to gently and effectively open a dialogue with my husband about the possibility of revisiting these shared fantasies and potentially taking a step forward.

If anyone has been in a similar situation or has any advice on how to broach this topic with sensitivity and understanding, I would greatly appreciate your insights. Our relationship means the world to me, and I want to ensure that we navigate this together in a way that strengthens our connection yet fulfil my desires ..

P.S I did include a photo as it seems customary on here for new members to do so :)

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Well she came in and caught me spanking my lil cock in panties to bbc cuck porn
 
robbiewillsuck said:
You should have the freedom to suck and fuck anyone you want - male or female but you need to include your husband to make it more fun. Tell him you want he to lick your pussy after he fucks you. Third time while he is licking his cum from your pussy - say fantasize that I fucked a new cock this afternoon. I want to see him again then afterwards I want to ride your face while I share the details with you. You will be able to tell he gets excited and lick your pussy better. So husband do you want me to fuck him again?
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how did you escape the fetlife cuck for life cage you were in?
 
BayernBBC said:
Some fantasies, even when discussed, openly, honestly and at length, are simply to remain fantasies. Love and Respect for each other means that sometimes meeting in the middle means one or both needs to take a step backward...

Doesn't sound very hopeful does it? With time and maintaining the open lines of communication, things may change. Or not. One may say that you should just go ahead and DO IT without permission, blessing acceptance (the "Better to ask forgiveness than permission" perspective); Loss of Trust and a Husband is a very possible outcome if you decide upon adorning yourself with the Scarlet letter (as opposed to having it pinned on you like a badge of Honor). No need for head-games. Manipulation is a tool that is not conducive to a healthy marriage. Ultimatums can have a rubber-band effect that will give you whiplash.

So what to do? Keep talking. Reaffirm your Husband that BBC (or whatever color cock) is not a replacement for love, for you marrying each other (hopefully) for love. People a lot smarter than I have covered the topic, therefore I offer two suggestions from those "Smart People":

Opening Up: A Guide To Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships https://amzn.eu/d/cng8Mwl

The Ethical Slut, Third Edition: A Practical Guide to Polyamory, Open Relationships, and Other Freedoms in Sex and Love https://amzn.eu/d/1SkNstC

You can find these books in the US just as easily. Just so happens I'm in Europe so, Amaz0n.de it is🤣

Best of luck. Keep talking. Not for cing, not pressuring, not giving finite timelines ...

KEEP
TALKING.

For communication to be effective, it must be clear, correct, complete, concise, and compassionate.

My best advice is that when a decision is made, it's made TOGETHER. For Better or Worse...

Best of luck.
Btw- you're stunning in your photo.

B3C
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Excellent reply and even from a womans position very well said. As to the photo...... hmmmm whats your inner gut tell you?
 
The final step will be your turn!

My husband started the same way: Fantasies about cuckolding and such stuff. In the early beginning I was out with it. But at last I opened my mind a little and our sexlife grew up. I find some horny triggers for me (big cocks, rough sex) but always teasing. After years we went into a club. Once. Twice. And always we got maniac at home again about the things which we could do there. In the last case my husbands always stoped the next step. I accepted that but I was horny like hell. At home he was the dirty cucki again - in the mind. It was annoying for me. So I take a decision and the following visit in a club my primary target was to do it! I did it - in front of my husband.

After that was done we talked a lot about that experience and our journey began.

Well, there will be a time the brainfuck is over and your soul will tell you what to do. My soul told me to do it, because my husband was no more in a "normal sexual modus" - his kinky thoughts dominated our sexual life. So I took that decision to do it.
 
AnnieS said:
Excellent reply and even from a womans position very well said. As to the photo...... hmmmm whats your inner gut tell you?
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F-f-f--f-faaaaaake!
Real photo though.
As to whether it belongs to the author of this thread: BS detector is beeping steadily🐃💩

Still a thread worthy of commentary though.
 
DC-Wife said:
I find myself in a situation that has been on my mind for quite some time now, and I could use some guidance from this supportive community. My husband and I have been married for almost 7 years and always had a strong and open communication in our relationship, which is why I'm reaching out here to seek advice on a senstive issue.

Over the course of our marriage, my husband has shared some wild IR fantasies with me in bed that we both found exciting to discuss. He recently started asking me to consider sleeping with a well endowed black man! However, when I finally said yes for acting on these fantasies and trying it once, he seemed to have lost his nerve and backed away, stating that they were just fantasies. While I respect his boundaries and decisions, I can't help but find myself continually thinking about exploring these desires together.

I want to approach this in a way that respects my husband's feelings and boundaries. So, I am looking for advice on how to gently and effectively open a dialogue with my husband about the possibility of revisiting these shared fantasies and potentially taking a step forward.

If anyone has been in a similar situation or has any advice on how to broach this topic with sensitivity and understanding, I would greatly appreciate your insights. Our relationship means the world to me, and I want to ensure that we navigate this together in a way that strengthens our connection yet fulfil my desires ..

P.S I did include a photo as it seems customary on here for new members to do so :)

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yes find a guy whos seking a girlfriend just like you!! :) (me) haha
 
DC-Wife said:
I find myself in a situation that has been on my mind for quite some time now, and I could use some guidance from this supportive community. My husband and I have been married for almost 7 years and always had a strong and open communication in our relationship, which is why I'm reaching out here to seek advice on a senstive issue.

Over the course of our marriage, my husband has shared some wild IR fantasies with me in bed that we both found exciting to discuss. He recently started asking me to consider sleeping with a well endowed black man! However, when I finally said yes for acting on these fantasies and trying it once, he seemed to have lost his nerve and backed away, stating that they were just fantasies. While I respect his boundaries and decisions, I can't help but find myself continually thinking about exploring these desires together.

I want to approach this in a way that respects my husband's feelings and boundaries. So, I am looking for advice on how to gently and effectively open a dialogue with my husband about the possibility of revisiting these shared fantasies and potentially taking a step forward.

If anyone has been in a similar situation or has any advice on how to broach this topic with sensitivity and understanding, I would greatly appreciate your insights. Our relationship means the world to me, and I want to ensure that we navigate this together in a way that strengthens our connection yet fulfil my desires ..

P.S I did include a photo as it seems customary on here for new members to do so :)

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