The English language, like every other language is constantly evolving to embrace emerging trends and environments.
Since we started down this lifestyle path, we have referred to ourselves as being in a Stag/Vixen relationship; whereas I have (in my case) Black lovers and my husband supports my interests.
Apparently another term for this is 'Wittol' but I don't know the origin of the term, nor have I every heard of it, leading me to wonder if it's older than the introduction of the 'Stag/Vixen' term or a recent development.
Proceeding down this thread about the evolution of language, I would offer that the very term 'cuckold' has evolved as well. For example, the origin of the word was derogatory in that a wife had slept around behind the husbands back. For the longest time, it continued to be viewed in a negative context until perhaps the turn of the century and the increasing use of the internet.
While the four definitions in the first post in this thread are accurate, they also illustrate this division, and you see it on this site every day.
No doubt that while there are a substantial amount of couples who embrace the humiliation aspect the term implies, there is a growing number of couples who fall into the Stag/Vixen (Wittol) category. They, like ourselves, don't like the humiliation aspect, rejecting it out of hand.
I would hope that the division becomes much more apparent, with 'cuckold' being used to describe the humiliation of the husband, with perhaps 'wittol' being used to describe the support by the husband.
Just my take on the topic, but an interesting side note... When I used 'Wittol' in this response, it did not come up as a misspelled word! So at least the computer dictionary is aware of the term!
Donna
Since we started down this lifestyle path, we have referred to ourselves as being in a Stag/Vixen relationship; whereas I have (in my case) Black lovers and my husband supports my interests.
Apparently another term for this is 'Wittol' but I don't know the origin of the term, nor have I every heard of it, leading me to wonder if it's older than the introduction of the 'Stag/Vixen' term or a recent development.
Proceeding down this thread about the evolution of language, I would offer that the very term 'cuckold' has evolved as well. For example, the origin of the word was derogatory in that a wife had slept around behind the husbands back. For the longest time, it continued to be viewed in a negative context until perhaps the turn of the century and the increasing use of the internet.
While the four definitions in the first post in this thread are accurate, they also illustrate this division, and you see it on this site every day.
No doubt that while there are a substantial amount of couples who embrace the humiliation aspect the term implies, there is a growing number of couples who fall into the Stag/Vixen (Wittol) category. They, like ourselves, don't like the humiliation aspect, rejecting it out of hand.
I would hope that the division becomes much more apparent, with 'cuckold' being used to describe the humiliation of the husband, with perhaps 'wittol' being used to describe the support by the husband.
Just my take on the topic, but an interesting side note... When I used 'Wittol' in this response, it did not come up as a misspelled word! So at least the computer dictionary is aware of the term!
Donna