Hi,
I’ll answer your post, one bit at a time. Your observations are in Bold type
ImO a lot of that depends on "culture", the community you are in, and by that also context. (BTW homosexuality is still illegal in some countries and something one can go to jail for. )
So very true, Russia is a fine example, Nazi Germany they killed homosexuals. Today, Iran does the same. But when people talk about morality or society norms, they are using the view from their culture, not a global observation.
But if i may pick up your own example... Calling someone a "slut" without being asked for would be "unaccepted behavior", or call it inappropriate. But it depends. In a non-sexual forum bringing up anything sexual, no matter how innocent it may be, can already be inappropriate/unaccepted. In a forum where name-calling is almost common place, it may be acceptable/appropriate. For instance in a story or shared experience. But it is definitely a different thing when it is supposed to address an individual directly (openly or in a DM). But even in that case it depends on the context. What if a Woman has a profile that makes it clear that she actually wishes to be approached in that manner (because it's her kink, for instance)?
Not my argument. As I’ve stated repeatedly, ‘If it works for you, then great’ but there are some contexts, even in a sexually orientated environment such as this one where it may be inappropriate. For example, “Show us a picture of your Black Whore Wife” isn’t (IMO) appropriate. It’s a shoutout to everyone that the person who started the thread really has a low opinion of the women who participate in it.
Conversely, if a woman loves to be called a whore or slut, she is free to express this view to her playmates and they are free to use it. It’s all in contextual utilization.
Donna, i am thankful for you starting this thread but i think your initial posts are so heavily loaded that it is hard to find the right entry point into the discussion. :|
Will try to do some unloading…..
One thing i have on my mind and is kinda working/evolving inside me for awhile now is to create a sort of a guide intended for wifesharing beginners. It would also include a section on "interracial" aspects and perhaps elaborate more on that too. The idea is that it should be very general but also go into some detail about the many different guises that do exist within that "lifestyle family". The focus should be more on relationships and emotional twists than the "physical sex" itself. It seems that everything that's out there already (at least that i have found ) is lacking in that department.
I would absolutely love to explore this. If your intended venue is to just do a dissertation on the various nuances, remember who your audience is. If it’s for folks in here, I would not do a dissertation. Instead I would do a slide/picture presentation, highlighting your points with pictures. I think they would be more easily received and, in effect, get your point across in an ‘entertaining’ way. Thoughts?
So i hope to find REAL lifestyle participants (couples and singles), also people who had participated in that sorts of lifestyle but dropped out for a reason. i would love to hear/read what actually moves them/YOU, made them/YOU start/end a non-monogamous lifestyle and how they/YOU are/were feeling during play-time, before and after.
I don’t think a total outline is valid for this thread. Each entry would be quite long and a lot of folks just don’ want to take the time to jot it all down so you could somehow compile it. Perhaps a questionnaire would be the appropriate venue. I don’t know.
But I will start with myself:
Yes, I’m active “Real Participant”
No, haven’t dropped out
Motivation: Excitement, difference, and just plain fun.
How did we start? Totally unplanned. We were on a vacation in the Bahamas and it just happened. Prior to that, we were your standard vanilla suburban couple.
Feeling during playtime? Simply love it! Hubby watches and he loves it too.
i hope that kind of discussion is appreciated here @Dblinsey? Or where would you prefer the discussion to lead to Donna? TY
Any discussion is welcomed here. Just so long as it doesn’t degrade into name calling or other abuse.
Donna