White cuckold dilemma - for wannabe white cucks

[WelshIRcuck]

I think the biggest dilemma or problem most of us white cuck wannabes face in finding a suitable white female is this obvious point - we are sexually attracted to white women who like big black men and such women, of course, may not find us so sexually attractive.

The trouble is that we white cuck wannabes have no choice or way out of this dilemma, we crave white women who like big dominant black men and the more they like black men, the sexier and more alluring we find them.

So, how have some white guys managed to find that cuckoldress? Is it due to some particular kink or fetish the white female has or is it by offering something outside of the sexual relationship? Would love to know how some white guys have struck gold.

 

[DeeDee1313]

Always looking, very difficult to find. I envy people who have haha

 

[NYNJcuckcouple]

I was married a long time and my wife was not domme or into cuckolding . Once my marriage was over I actively set out for a partner. I knew who I was and what I wanted. Overall I want love , trust and a true companion .... once I hit it off with my lady I feared she was vanilla because we did not meet from any fetish forum ...Much to my surprise not only does she love the fetish to cuckold but doesn't think we could survive without it. I feel many men get desperate and can fall for a woman that will not love and respect them just use them . We want respect from our potential Bulls too. Maybe that is why it is so hard to find. ... We want sessions to be intense, humiliating dominant and outright cruel if she chooses....so to balance and come back to earth as caring people. Many don't get it. Yes I'm lucky . And we haven't even scratched the surface of where we want to go.

 

[rocuck]

Perhaps a better way to think about this dilemma is to focus on the needs of the white woman and the black man. To start out accepting and wanting chastity. To be a helper by doing housework or doing errands, etc. But most importantly by being a friend to women and helping them meet, date, and bed black men. The desire and admiration for the white woman and the black man will continue. Frustration will continue. But you will be happy being the submissive beta helper. In that way there will be a place for a white boy and there will be a woman or couple who will take you on in those terms. Anyways it is how I see it.

 

[WelshIRcuck]

I was married a long time and my wife was not domme or into cuckolding . Once my marriage was over I actively set out for a partner. I knew who I was and what I wanted. Overall I want love , trust and a true companion .... once I hit it off with my lady I feared she was vanilla because we did not meet from any fetish forum ...Much to my surprise not only does she love the fetish to cuckold but doesn't think we could survive without it. I feel many men get desperate and can fall for a woman that will not love and respect them just use them . We want respect from our potential Bulls too. Maybe that is why it is so hard to find. ... We want sessions to be intense, humiliating dominant and outright cruel if she chooses....so to balance and come back to earth as caring people. Many don't get it. Yes I'm lucky . And we haven't even scratched the surface of where we want to.

Very informative. Amazing that you found a woman that so perfectly fitted your own goals and needs and have been able to fulfil many of your cuckold fantasies too. It's great that you've been able to experience cuckold sessions where humiliation and domination have come into play and afterwards carry on as an intimate and loving couple - congratulations on that.

Sounds like you have so much to try out too. Thanks for sharing your experiences with us.

 

[cuckboat]

I think the biggest dilemma or problem most of us white cuck wannabes face in finding a suitable white female is this obvious point - we are sexually attracted to white women who like big black men and such women, of course, may not find us so sexually attractive.

The trouble is that we white cuck wannabes have no choice or way out of this dilemma, we crave white women who like big dominant black men and the more they like black men, the sexier and more alluring we find them.

So, how have some white guys managed to find that cuckoldress? Is it due to some particular kink or fetish the white female has or is it by offering something outside of the sexual relationship? Would love to know how some white guys have struck gold.

I tried this relationship with a prim and proper woman which didn't explore as much as I wanted. The next time was with a easy piece of ass that liked to fuck. Once she was assured I didn't want other women she was extremely open to fucking others. She probably would sooner or later I figured. So this time I started with a slut and when she felt safe she went after plenty of cock. lol It turned out to be the best most humiliating 3 years of my life. I had the perfect hotwife/cuck relationship and blew it because I had to complain about little ******* and be a dumbass. I know now I have always wanted THAT girl. The school slut, the town whore, the one everyone has climbed on and taken a ride, the one the jokes are about. That is the women I seek. The 1st time I got laid I was #4 in a 6 man train and the 2nd time was again #4 in a 4 man train. Same girl and I wanted so bad for her to be my girlfriend but didn't happen. I guess this may be why I am a cuck. Who knows.

 

[Nidhi Hardaha]

I was married a long time and my wife was not domme or into cuckolding . Once my marriage was over I actively set out for a partner. I knew who I was and what I wanted. Overall I want love , trust and a true companion .... once I hit it off with my lady I feared she was vanilla because we did not meet from any fetish forum ...Much to my surprise not only does she love the fetish to cuckold but doesn't think we could survive without it. I feel many men get desperate and can fall for a woman that will not love and respect them just use them . We want respect from our potential Bulls too. Maybe that is why it is so hard to find. ... We want sessions to be intense, humiliating dominant and outright cruel if she chooses....so to balance and come back to earth as caring people. Many don't get it. Yes I'm lucky . And we haven't even scratched the surface of where we want to go.

Very true. I guess the approach here is o find someone who you want to spend the rest of your life with. At the end of the day sex Is only one aspect of a happy married life. An important one, but still, just one .

We discovered that we like being with each other outside the bedroom , share the same views, enjoy the same type of moves, holidays etc. The cuckolding kink came to us as a biprodcut of our open and trusting relationship.
.we often meet folks that want just the cucking part but forget the wife is a human with a a need for emotional support beyond just sexual. Start with that, the rest will follow.

 

[WelshIRcuck]

Perhaps a better way to think about this dilemma is to focus on the needs of the white woman and the black man. To start out accepting and wanting chastity. To be a helper by doing housework or doing errands, etc. But most importantly by being a friend to women and helping them meet, date, and bed black men. The desire and admiration for the white woman and the black man will continue. Frustration will continue. But you will be happy being the submissive beta helper. In that way there will be a place for a white boy and there will be a woman or couple who will take you on in those terms. Anyways it is how I see it.

Thanks rocuck
The desire to serve a white woman who likes big black men is a very strong one. And it really does bring out the submissive side in me, a side that I'd like to explore more deeply.
Would love to hear from other cucks how they managed to find their partner too?

 

[tenaciousQoS]

I think the biggest dilemma or problem most of us white cuck wannabes face in finding a suitable white female is this obvious point - we are sexually attracted to white women who like big black men and such women, of course, may not find us so sexually attractive.

The trouble is that we white cuck wannabes have no choice or way out of this dilemma, we crave white women who like big dominant black men and the more they like black men, the sexier and more alluring we find them.

So, how have some white guys managed to find that cuckoldress? Is it due to some particular kink or fetish the white female has or is it by offering something outside of the sexual relationship? Would love to know how some white guys have struck gold.

Been through this for years with real oppertunity to get cucked by my ex gf few times.

I can tell my experience. Its is simply imposible to find a premade cuckoldress unless you get married with a porn start or a *******. Almost all girls first need love, protection, safety and trust and that only comes when live with her enough to know each other. Once you pass this phase even then remember that this lifestyle is a whole tranformation and unusual experience and it has repercussions and ever lasting effects. You may or may not turn her into a hotwife simply because some women arent made for it.

 

[cuckboat]

Been through this for years with real oppertunity to get cucked by my ex gf few times.

I can tell my experience. Its is simply imposible to find a premade cuckoldress unless you get married with a porn start or a *******. Almost all girls first need love, protection, safety and trust and that only comes when live with her enough to know each other. Once you pass this phase even then remember that this lifestyle is a whole tranformation and unusual experience and it has repercussions and ever lasting effects. You may or may not turn her into a hotwife simply because some women arent made for it.

With my 2nd hotwife I was a little smarter but did get lucky with a easy piece of ass that once she was assured I was not just trying to get different pussy, that was very willing and happy to fuck whoever and whenever she wanted. I worked and covered all costs so she had the time to enjoy her sexual fun with many guys over the years. She was very open about and one of her regulars liked to brag and we hung out at the same bar. So gossip spreads fast especially when a attached woman living with a guy starts spreading her legs for other guys with absolutely no concern of any objections. This invites guys to try to pick her up right in front of me and to my humiliation it has happened.

 

[geecrizz]

I think that as a single white male, trying to find a white woman who likes black guys but will be your woman is a bad beat. An almost impossible task unless say you got lucky on the internet and found a woman who was specifically looking for a cuckold and that is extremely rare. Single women who like black guys don’t date white guys. My advice would be just to try and find a woman who is sexually adventurous and is open to love. One that wants to find a companion…the one. From there, after you have established a committed relationship, start to introduce her to your fantasies. Most women (as a percentage of the total) don’t know a damn thing about being a hotwife or cuckolding their man and have never even considered living a lifestyle like that. But once she knows you love her and vice versa, you have that base to start expanding upon. You can tell her your fantasies and she will feel secure enough hopefully to tell you hers. From there it’s a crap shoot. And I get it, it’s tough to have such a roaring desire and to be unable to fulfill that. But that’s life unfortunately. You can’t always get what you want. In my case, it took me 10 years to convince my wife to fuck other guys and frankly, the majority of that time I didn’t feel like I was going to ever succeed but ultimately my wife saw the benefit, wasn’t uptight in the first place and believed that it wouldn’t necessarily ruin our marriage. And I had to proceed much slower than I would’ve preferred so that I didn’t scare her. But that was the key. The idea had to start growing on her without her thinking that I was obsessed. So she went for it. Now she wishes she had listened to me 10 years earlier. But you can’t go back. And you have to have other pleasures in your life besides your overriding sexual lkink. You have to be ok and ready to be happy even if you can’t make this lifestyle a reality. Because the odds are against you. What you can do though is make yourself the most attractive you can possibly be so that you have the most possible options. Go to school, get a good career and make good money. Also exercise and maintain a healthy lifestyle for the most part. Those two things will make you attractive to the largest pool of women. You can’t help your skin color or the size of your dick.

 

[freakcouple4141]

I was married a long time and my wife was not domme or into cuckolding . Once my marriage was over I actively set out for a partner. I knew who I was and what I wanted. Overall I want love , trust and a true companion .... once I hit it off with my lady I feared she was vanilla because we did not meet from any fetish forum ...Much to my surprise not only does she love the fetish to cuckold but doesn't think we could survive without it. I feel many men get desperate and can fall for a woman that will not love and respect them just use them . We want respect from our potential Bulls too. Maybe that is why it is so hard to find. ... We want sessions to be intense, humiliating dominant and outright cruel if she chooses....so to balance and come back to earth as caring people. Many don't get it. Yes I'm lucky . And we haven't even scratched the surface of where we want to go.

Well said

 

[WelshIRcuck]

I think that as a single white male, trying to find a white woman who likes black guys but will be your woman is a bad beat. An almost impossible task unless say you got lucky on the internet and found a woman who was specifically looking for a cuckold and that is extremely rare. Single women who like black guys don’t date white guys. My advice would be just to try and find a woman who is sexually adventurous and is open to love. One that wants to find a companion…the one. From there, after you have established a committed relationship, start to introduce her to your fantasies. Most women (as a percentage of the total) don’t know a damn thing about being a hotwife or cuckolding their man and have never even considered living a lifestyle like that. But once she knows you love her and vice versa, you have that base to start expanding upon. You can tell her your fantasies and she will feel secure enough hopefully to tell you hers. From there it’s a crap shoot. And I get it, it’s tough to have such a roaring desire and to be unable to fulfill that. But that’s life unfortunately. You can’t always get what you want. In my case, it took me 10 years to convince my wife to fuck other guys and frankly, the majority of that time I didn’t feel like I was going to ever succeed but ultimately my wife saw the benefit, wasn’t uptight in the first place and believed that it wouldn’t necessarily ruin our marriage. And I had to proceed much slower than I would’ve preferred so that I didn’t scare her. But that was the key. The idea had to start growing on her without her thinking that I was obsessed. So she went for it. Now she wishes she had listened to me 10 years earlier. But you can’t go back. And you have to have other pleasures in your life besides your overriding sexual lkink. You have to be ok and ready to be happy even if you can’t make this lifestyle a reality. Because the odds are against you. What you can do though is make yourself the most attractive you can possibly be so that you have the most possible options. Go to school, get a good career and make good money. Also exercise and maintain a healthy lifestyle for the most part. Those two things will make you attractive to the largest pool of women. You can’t help your skin color or the size of your dick.

Thanks for such a thoughtful, considerate and informative response. I agree with so much of what you say and I'm so pleased that things have worked out for you and your wife.
I may have to go down the road you say, and it's an enjoyable one too, but in the meantime I will still try to meet that elusive cuckoldress here. Apologies for that, but I'm just an incurable cuck who can't give up the hope of finding a lady here.

 

[geecrizz]

Thanks for such a thoughtful, considerate and informative response. I agree with so much of what you say and I'm so pleased that things have worked out for you and your wife.
I may have to go down the road you say, and it's an enjoyable one too, but in the meantime I will still try to meet that elusive cuckoldress here. Apologies for that, but I'm just an incurable cuck who can't give up the hope of finding a lady here.

No apologies necessary. It’s your life. And maybe you get lucky and find a shortcut. Good luck to you.

 

[WelshIRcuck]

No apologies necessary. It’s your life. And maybe you get lucky and find a shortcut. Good luck to you.

Many thanks. My sexuality and desired lifestyle is now so firmly tied to the interracial cuckold mast that it's almost unfathomable to talk to a female about a vanilla monogamous relationship. My calling is to be a supportive cuck to a white female who likes black men and it's difficult to enter a relationship with the possibility that this calling may not be achieved.

 

[slave harry]

My female partner is a femdom but not willing to cuckold me in reality. I am her sub and she knows about my cuckold fantasy. We share the love for African beauty if they are male or female. I still hope she will get a black master one day who is willing to dominate me.

 

[JemmaNye&Herbi]

There are, once in a blue moon, women out there who are looking for a man to cuckold. We know one cuckoldress whose husband passed away. I've met a couple of women on FetLife who are dominant and like submissive men, but also make it clear they have no intention of being monogamous. But women like that are very few and far between.

I agree with most people here. Wanting to be a cuckold is not commonly enough to build a stable and lasting relationship. First of all, if you are a cuckold right from the get go, it's hard for me to see where you'd get any sense of security and stability. For most people (I'm sure there are exceptions), I think jumping right into one-sided promiscuity can be a difficult thing, if you didn't start out by making sure you and your life partner always put your relationship first. Personally, if I'd started watching my wife get fucked far better than I have ever fucked her, before I knew for sure that she wasn't going anywhere, I think it would be very difficult for me to show the kind of support she needs and deserves, or the kind of confidence and security she's attracted to. I think it's likely I would have feared her leaving me, and senselessly fucked things up. Instead, we took the time to build an extremely loving and mutually rewarding relationship, and cuckoldry gradually became a part of it 15 years after the relationship started. We support each other through thick and thin, I know my well-being is important to her, and she knows I'm secure in our relationship and can handle the complex, potent cocktail of emotions that bubbles up in me when she cuckolds me, so she feels free to play and be creative and adventurous and devious. I'm not sure I would even recommend cuckoldry to people who don't have that strong foundation to start with. My fantasies can be pretty strong and intoxicating, but we gradually explore most of them together as a couple. No one of them is worth risking the happiness our marriage brings us.

I look at it this way. Who's happier: the guy who is in a stable, loving marriage with a committed life partner, who has a kindred travel companion, perhaps a mom for his children, who is unlikely to die sad and alone, who can communicate fantasies openly to his partner without fear of rejection, but might not get to explore every one of them if she doesn't share ALL of the same desires; or the man who might get to explore his fantasies with someone he may never connect with that deeply, and likely has a few relationships that don't last, with long stretches in between because he only goes for women who are primarily physically attracted to men his polar opposite? To each his own, and more power to you if you decide the latter better describes you. I'll take the former 10 times out of 10. I'm proud to be my wife's cuck and beyond grateful to have a partner willing to explore these murky waters with me. But I'd be a damn fool to be more driven by my mental porn than my lasting commitment to her. If she decided tomorrow that she never wanted to fuck another black guy or even that she wanted to give monogamy a go, I'd absolutely validate her feelings, do whatever she needs to do, acknowledge that or journey is constantly evolving, and continue to communicate so we can keep finding the right balance, giving each other as much of the other needs as we can do, while voicing our own needs and prioritizing our well-being.

 

[petco]

Very true. I guess the approach here is o find someone who you want to spend the rest of your life with. At the end of the day sex Is only one aspect of a happy married life. An important one, but still, just one .

We discovered that we like being with each other outside the bedroom , share the same views, enjoy the same type of moves, holidays etc. The cuckolding kink came to us as a biprodcut of our open and trusting relationship.
.we often meet folks that want just the cucking part but forget the wife is a human with a a need for emotional support beyond just sexual. Start with that, the rest will follow.

well said

 

[JemmaNye&Herbi]

My female partner is a femdom but not willing to cuckold me in reality. I am her sub and she knows about my cuckold fantasy. We share the love for African beauty if they are male or female. I still hope she will get a black master one day who is willing to dominate me.

We were into femdom and even pretty strict chastity for a very long time (10ish years or so?) before my wife decided to try cuckolding me for real. Once she dipped her foot in, she liked what she felt and dove in! It's even taken our femdom/bdsm play up several notches. It can definitely work out. Patience and good communication are paramount imho. If you keep showing her how much you love and support her, express your desires openly when the timing is right, without pressure, I'd say there's always a chance. For us, the transition was remarkably natural.

 

[Cocklover402]

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