The wife and I have been into the life for sometime and honestly are friends with a few couples as well, first we're not into because I can't satisfy her, that's so standard text book from a single guy wanking off . The reality is we're kinky people who enjoy this and we have a great marriage with tons of communication. Nothing goes on unless we both agree on it . So the bulls may think they have the power in reality it's opposite , if there's something about him I don't like he's out the door and never called upon again .bulls are a tool , we use them and put back away in the garage till the itch comes up again .... no bull has a say so in my house , there not allowed in our martial bed , hotels only , we also meet with couples and i have a hall pass as well with women . It's just my choice that I perfer this over a swinging situation . So with that being set there's huge difference from fantasy and reality . Reality is I'm still king of my mountain lol and so is my wife . Just keeping it real folksIt must be hard to balance a vanilla marriage to friends, family, and the rest of the world, once black men start entering and taking over the bedroom and your white marriage. I am sure most white wives must lose alot of, if not all respect for their husbands both sexually and otherwise ..
I am very interested to hear about your detailed expressive thoughts on this...