The swing lifestyle is a discreet lifestyle so for the most part meeting alot of lifestyle people out in the open outside of a lifestyle event, club, or resort at vanilla venue is far from the norm. Yes they are at the clubs and the bars and bar and grills but alot of times if that is even the case they will usually have a specific lounge or bar and grill where they tend to hold regular meet and greets.
look for places that have volunteers. food kitchens, hospitals, etc.
Long ago before I first got started I used to thinking a lot about this same question. Steph is spot on correct. Available women of all kinds are right around you...the key is to first be pleasant, approachable in your demeanor, style, energy. Be the person she would WANT to talk to...then you have to approach women. But for god sake...don't play the old tired silly numbers game or act touch n "alpha" like. Just be a normal guy...with a smile and a nice INTERESTING conversation that gradually allows her to open up about her. LISTEN...to what she is saying not what she is wearing or how she looks. Women already know they are cute, sexy, beautiful, etc. annnd they know how the outfit they chose and put on...how it looks on them. So don't be captain obvious with the typical lines. Most women find male confidence..NOT COCKINESS very appealing. Meaning...you find a woman near you attractive and interesting. Study it the scene for a moment....is she serious and intent into something? If so, approach very slowly. Is she with someone (male)...pay attention and don't rush to judgement. It could be that he isn't her bf/husband...but may NOT approve of her flirting with other men. A simple hello and a comment or question about the place your both in, or what she appears to be doing...is a good start. Malls, grocery stores, bookstores, hardware stores, parks (especially if you have a dog)...all are GREAT spots to find a woman. Depending upon the time of day, will have a good number of them in there. Again...have to read the scene and her to determine if this moment is viable. Stay away from bars, clubs, lounges, Happy Hours scenes...first off, there are OTHER men doing the same thing you are. So you competition is increased, compared to a grocery store...almost any time of day. When have you seen a flood of men rush the grocery store produce aisle? When was the last time your boys said..."hey dawg...let's run over to Barnes n Noble real quick and check out the latest novel"? Hopefully you see my point. This also helps you because SHE also doesn't have a lot of men to look and decide if YOU are her first choice. It's a grocery store..food market, clothing store in the mall. I've had GREAT success both hunting and being hunted at Starbucks...all times of the day but early work rush and noon...late in the day most women are heading home or to other places. So if they are there...usually don't have tons of time. Target/Walmart on a Saturday late morning early afternoon....TONS of women! Back to grocery stores....look for the stores close to a popular gym. Then look at their Saturday workout schedule...lots of women leave gym, yoga, class and quickly run to Starbucks, grocery store, Target/Walmart before they head home. Plus they are in gear that shows off their bodies...so no need to guess or sneak peaks how she looks. Finally the obvious one...if your looking for suburban MILFs then you have to hang out in those areas of town where they are. If your looking for office/career women....have to hang out in business districts or downtown...lunch time and HH are prime hunting times. Good luck bro....remember to smile, be relaxed and be yourself. If your not her type...ok, there are many many other women for whom you probably are.
No woman is born with a QoS mark in her DNA and some that are QoS today never thought in a million years they would be bending over to receive joyfully a BBC. There also isn't a state law that forces QoSs to live in a particular place, nor is there one that says "QoSs Only", like, you know, it use to be few decades ago, "White Only".
