I would suggest being completely open and honest Just revisit the conversation in a joking way and tell her the reason you pick that 1 is because that is more of a turn on for you and ask her what she thinks about it. You can always have some BBC porn saved in a playlist and watch it together when you're using it that is when she is most likely to be completely honestSo a few months ago I bought my wife a BBC dildo. We've never used any toys before and the dildo was a surprise for her. A while after opening it she asked why did you go for a black one in a sort of teasing tone. Bear in mind she has no idea about my interracial fantasies. Is there something to this ? Is this a sign she's turned on by interracial ?