Secretwishes
Male
We all have our own unique reasons as to what brought us here, so I'm just wondering what do you fellas think caused your cuckold fetish?
What caused your cuckold fetish?
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For me i always knew the wife had enjoyed threesomes and black guys before we were married but we were vanilla for a long time before I plucked up the courage to say let's explore.
We visited clubs , chatted to couples etc but there was no real spark or mutual interest.
Then we hooked up with a BBC after we chatted about it. That night was a game changer. To see her orgasm so many times, uninhibited in the extreme- it was amazing and beautiful.
From that point I knew my role had changed and now a few years later we have morphed into a hotwife / cuckold dynamic. I am caged and no longer allowed to fuck her.
We enjoy time with bulls to mutual satisfaction. Works well for us.
We visited clubs , chatted to couples etc but there was no real spark or mutual interest.
Then we hooked up with a BBC after we chatted about it. That night was a game changer. To see her orgasm so many times, uninhibited in the extreme- it was amazing and beautiful.
From that point I knew my role had changed and now a few years later we have morphed into a hotwife / cuckold dynamic. I am caged and no longer allowed to fuck her.
We enjoy time with bulls to mutual satisfaction. Works well for us.
It was my wife's idea. A friend of her talked about how exciting and satisfying sex with black males is.
My wife showed me a lot of IR porn and asked me to imagine that she was the white actress.
That's how it started for us. I got rock hard imagining my wife with a black male. My wife said: It seems as if you like it.
A few months later we tried it out. I am very grateful that my wife took the initiative to this terrific lifestyle. And grateful that her friend Sarah told her about IR cuckolding.
My wife showed me a lot of IR porn and asked me to imagine that she was the white actress.
That's how it started for us. I got rock hard imagining my wife with a black male. My wife said: It seems as if you like it.
A few months later we tried it out. I am very grateful that my wife took the initiative to this terrific lifestyle. And grateful that her friend Sarah told her about IR cuckolding.
Before we got married we would swap with other couples and invite my friends to join us in the bedroom.
I've always enjoyed watching her with other men but it was in MFM or swapping style.
After we got married we met a black couple to swap with. That was the flip of the switch for us. That man became our first bull and we just have continued since.
I've always enjoyed watching her with other men but it was in MFM or swapping style.
After we got married we met a black couple to swap with. That was the flip of the switch for us. That man became our first bull and we just have continued since.
I'm going to be perfectly honest here and hope I don't get a lot of flack for it... Please, no hatemail.
I'm racist. I was raised that way. I was taught that blacks were lazy and inferior. I was also exposed at an early age to various taboos (interracial and *******) via porn movies. There was one Swedish Erotica movie that my step-dad had that featured Johnny Keyes and another black guy tearing up this white girl. I blasted many a load to that particular segment. I was intrigued watching her do them both (something a respectable white girl would never do - be with a black guy). Except the fat ones, because that's all they could get. <--- see what I mean.
From that time on I always was fascinated by the taboo of it. Later in life with the proliferation of the internet and online porn, it became much more readily available and I learned about things like cuckolding and submissiveness and began to explore these feelings. It became the ultimate taboo for me. The thought of a confident black man taking something that belonged to me consumed me. The idea that my gf/wife would betray me and willingly give her pussy (something that was reserved only for me) to this black man drove me crazy.
So yes, I admit my fantasy is based in racism. I can't help that. But I also realize that I now subscribe to the thought that black men are superior to me sexually and deserving of white women. My how the tables have turned...
Hope I didn't ramble too long.
I'm racist. I was raised that way. I was taught that blacks were lazy and inferior. I was also exposed at an early age to various taboos (interracial and *******) via porn movies. There was one Swedish Erotica movie that my step-dad had that featured Johnny Keyes and another black guy tearing up this white girl. I blasted many a load to that particular segment. I was intrigued watching her do them both (something a respectable white girl would never do - be with a black guy). Except the fat ones, because that's all they could get. <--- see what I mean.
From that time on I always was fascinated by the taboo of it. Later in life with the proliferation of the internet and online porn, it became much more readily available and I learned about things like cuckolding and submissiveness and began to explore these feelings. It became the ultimate taboo for me. The thought of a confident black man taking something that belonged to me consumed me. The idea that my gf/wife would betray me and willingly give her pussy (something that was reserved only for me) to this black man drove me crazy.
So yes, I admit my fantasy is based in racism. I can't help that. But I also realize that I now subscribe to the thought that black men are superior to me sexually and deserving of white women. My how the tables have turned...
Hope I didn't ramble too long.
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Ya you're right john.......things have REALLY changed up..! i'm older so the racist dynamic is familiar to me....and the combination of jealousy and racism is what fuels the IR cuckolding craze.....cuz thats what it is now.....CRAZY...! All the hidden primal fears of the white "man".....(whiteboy) are realized from this racial/social/SEXUAL conquest. The PAYBACK has begun john........and yes...the taboo factor is HUGE in this dynamic.....i just never thought i'd see the whiteboy getting turned out as well as the white girl and women. Thats Jungle FeVer for you john.......too strong to fight.
oliver509
Couple
In my first marriage I married very young. I had know idea that my wife's ******* had ******* her as a kid. As a matter of fact, he was kind enough to ******* and ruin his other three daughters, also. After about a year of marriage, the sex stopped. I tried everything under the sun to get her interested, but nothing worked. By then I knew about what her dad did, and I got her into counseling. That ended up being a complete waste of time. It wasn't her fault for what happened, and it sure as fuck wasn't my fault. It was a decade long, sexless marriage. If begging was a form of foreplay, I was a master at it. No one begged better than me.
It was absolutely degrading for me to beg for sex. I began questioning all of my past beliefs. Back in high school there were the "fun" girls, and the "nice" girls. It was fun playing with the sluts, but in the end, all of us guys wanted a nice girl. The type you want to meet your mom. (again, I didn't blame her for what happened to her, I just felt robbed)
But, it just wasn't me. A lot of guys I know that are married lead sexless lives. I'm not blaming either gender, it's just a fact. I started wondering and fantasizing about what if I would have taken a different path. I should have grabbed on to one of those yummy sluts. The girls that we were ALL interested in. Would the whore cheat on me? I hope not, but at least I would have a sex partner. And besides, she wouldn't need to cheat. I would have gladly taken her to meet guys to fuck. This was a completely foreign thing for me because of my social conditioning. Having a guy get her turned on and fuck her would be great. Then I could have my turn next.
So the marriage ended and now I'm remarried. My new wife likes sex, but she's not the slut I want her to be. Years of conditioning changed my brain to only desire a slut. A woman who would never make me beg for sex. If letting her fuck other guys was part of the bargain, then who gives a *******.
I'm sure I'm not the only guy on this site that wishes they could make this craving go away, and if you figure out how to, let me know. But until there's a cure for this, this is what I truly want. If she chooses not to get into this lifestyle, I can live with it. She is a wonderful lady. But if she chooses to go for it, I'll be very happy and I think we can have wonderful adventures together.
And in the words of Forest Gump......."That's about all I have to say about that."
It was absolutely degrading for me to beg for sex. I began questioning all of my past beliefs. Back in high school there were the "fun" girls, and the "nice" girls. It was fun playing with the sluts, but in the end, all of us guys wanted a nice girl. The type you want to meet your mom. (again, I didn't blame her for what happened to her, I just felt robbed)
But, it just wasn't me. A lot of guys I know that are married lead sexless lives. I'm not blaming either gender, it's just a fact. I started wondering and fantasizing about what if I would have taken a different path. I should have grabbed on to one of those yummy sluts. The girls that we were ALL interested in. Would the whore cheat on me? I hope not, but at least I would have a sex partner. And besides, she wouldn't need to cheat. I would have gladly taken her to meet guys to fuck. This was a completely foreign thing for me because of my social conditioning. Having a guy get her turned on and fuck her would be great. Then I could have my turn next.
So the marriage ended and now I'm remarried. My new wife likes sex, but she's not the slut I want her to be. Years of conditioning changed my brain to only desire a slut. A woman who would never make me beg for sex. If letting her fuck other guys was part of the bargain, then who gives a *******.
I'm sure I'm not the only guy on this site that wishes they could make this craving go away, and if you figure out how to, let me know. But until there's a cure for this, this is what I truly want. If she chooses not to get into this lifestyle, I can live with it. She is a wonderful lady. But if she chooses to go for it, I'll be very happy and I think we can have wonderful adventures together.
And in the words of Forest Gump......."That's about all I have to say about that."
Lots of people were raised to be racist. But many of them grew up and decided that it was wrong and learned to respect all people as equals. You can make that change if you want to.
I'm sure you're not the only racist on this site. Some of the things that people post on here are so offensive I can't believe they don't get banned.
The fact that you acknowledge that you're racist and that you understand that being racist is wrong leads me to believe that you have it within yourself to change. I think once you do you'll find peace.
oliver509
Couple
You are right. Racism is a bad thing. One of my pet peeves is people using the phrase, "Reverse Racism."
What exactly if the reverse of that? Love?
Racists come in every color under the rainbow. There are good and bad people of all colors on this site. My advice to bulls is: Always be respectful of the husbands. Don't act like you are doing them a favor. They are doing YOU a favor. The guy is letting you have his wonderful, precious wife to play with. Treat it as and honor, and don't treat either of them like *******.
In my first marriage I married very young. I had know idea that my wife's ******* had ******* her as a kid. As a matter of fact, he was kind enough to ******* and ruin his other three daughters, also. After about a year of marriage, the sex stopped. I tried everything under the sun to get her interested, but nothing worked. By then I knew about what her dad did, and I got her into counseling. That ended up being a complete waste of time. It wasn't her fault for what happened, and it sure as fuck wasn't my fault. It was a decade long, sexless marriage. If begging was a form of foreplay, I was a master at it. No one begged better than me.
It was absolutely degrading for me to beg for sex. I began questioning all of my past beliefs. Back in high school there were the "fun" girls, and the "nice" girls. It was fun playing with the sluts, but in the end, all of us guys wanted a nice girl. The type you want to meet your mom. (again, I didn't blame her for what happened to her, I just felt robbed)
But, it just wasn't me. A lot of guys I know that are married lead sexless lives. I'm not blaming either gender, it's just a fact. I started wondering and fantasizing about what if I would have taken a different path. I should have grabbed on to one of those yummy sluts. The girls that we were ALL interested in. Would the whore cheat on me? I hope not, but at least I would have a sex partner. And besides, she wouldn't need to cheat. I would have gladly taken her to meet guys to fuck. This was a completely foreign thing for me because of my social conditioning. Having a guy get her turned on and fuck her would be great. Then I could have my turn next.
So the marriage ended and now I'm remarried. My new wife likes sex, but she's not the slut I want her to be. Years of conditioning changed my brain to only desire a slut. A woman who would never make me beg for sex. If letting her fuck other guys was part of the bargain, then who gives a *******.
I'm sure I'm not the only guy on this site that wishes they could make this craving go away, and if you figure out how to, let me know. But until there's a cure for this, this is what I truly want. If she chooses not to get into this lifestyle, I can live with it. She is a wonderful lady. But if she chooses to go for it, I'll be very happy and I think we can have wonderful adventures together.
And in the words of Forest Gump......."That's about all I have to say about that."
I don't believe that you can be "cured". The desire will always be there. And a cuckold relationship would be a win win situation.
I've written about this subject elsewhere on this site so I'm going to be as brief as I can be in responding now. Where I grew up there were "no" blacks. The only exposure we had to them was through the media in its various forms. When I was 12/13 I attended a summer camp in another area of the country. The second night there I saw my first black guy "in the nude" in the showers! He was much older than I, or that of my five friends who were with me. The surprise we got was not just that this guy was black and in the nude, but he was doing strange things to his penis! He was masturbating! That was also a first! The lasting impression on all of us was "how big it was", or at least appeared to be! Several years later that experience led to a fantasy of seeing that guy with a white girl, morse specifically, see that black guy get into a white pussy! After I married that led to sharing that fantasy with my wife, initially with a near disastrous results, including being banned to the spare bedroom for a week, called a sex pervert and having to contend with near Artic temperatures in the middle of summer for several weeks. Eventually through careful friendly persuasion my wife began to tolerate my little fantasy, then accepted it, consequently anxiously partook of my fantasy, which after almost 9 years of marriage, led to her blackening. The pleasure of giving Pam her first ever, not only strange cock, but her first ever BBC, went to an old university friend and roommate of mine! I never dreamed that I would factually witness a white pussy get pounded by a well endowed black guy, lesser still that the black guy would be my friend from our university years, even more remotely would be the fact that the pussy I was watching gettin that pounded by a massively big black cock would belong to none other than my beloved wife!
I can unquestionably confirm that you're 100% correct! I can also unquestionably confirm that it was worth every second of the almost 9 years wait! I truly never ever thought that it had 1/1000th of a 1% chance of it happening! However watching Edwin guide that almost 11 inch black intruder to, and enter, Pam's white swollen wet horny pussy was worth every second of that almost 9 year wait!
You're right! It's simply the most beautiful and arousing thing to watch a huge black cock penetrating your wife's white pussy. It's OUTSTANDING!
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oliver509
Couple
Yeah, I know you're right. I actually posted a similar question on a different hotwife/cuckold site.
My question to the guys was: "Does this strange craving ever go away." I got lots of replies from both guys and women. About 95% said no. Some guys said that even if you never get to try it, the urge will never go away. I felt sad for some of the guys, because many have been trying to convince their wives for years, and in some cases, decades. Obviously some succeed and some fail. It's kind of like being hooked on a ******* that you've never had and never will have.
And for those who do succeed in convincing their wives to try it, some say their wives don't do it enough. I guess we always want more than we have.
That was very clever words!
AWittolBitWrong
Male
I suppose cuckolding can almost be thought of as a "sub-fetish" for me. Like gangbangs, bukkake, public sex and rimming, the thought of a woman having sex with men other than her husband is a turn on because it plays to my real fetish - women acting nasty. When I see and read stuff like this I always wonder what goes through the woman's mind while she's doing it; what she's feeling before, during and after.
Does anyone close to her know what she's doing? Is this her dirty little secret or is she loud and proud about it? Does she have trouble reconciling what she's done and will continue to do with how she lives the rest of her life? When she's with people in her normal, daily life (friends, family and coworkers) does she try to push thoughts of her perversion out of her head? If she doesn't want too or can't then does it make her feel good or bad, knowing that while everyone around around her is clueless she's in a small way brought them into her world? How would they react if they knew what she likes to do, and is that a question the woman herself ponders?
Thoughts like these swirl around in my head regardless of the genre, but cuckolding specifically brings up a whole new set of questions.
Does her husband know? Do any of her girlfriends know? If "no" to the former and "yes" to that latter, then do they talk about it? Joke and laugh about it? Regardless of the first question is there trash talk about the husband during sex? Does she trash talk him with her bull? Is the bull doing the trash talking? Is she only doing/allowing it because it makes her bull happy or is that just what she tells herself? Assuming that she loves him, as I always do because that's the only way I find cuckolding hot, and there's trash talk/jokes does it turn her on being with him, knowing what's been said? Does it make her feel guilty? Does she feel guilty because of how much it turns her on?
Sorry for rambling off a bunch of questions like this but it's in pondering the answers to these questions (and many more) that I derive sexual gratification.
Does anyone close to her know what she's doing? Is this her dirty little secret or is she loud and proud about it? Does she have trouble reconciling what she's done and will continue to do with how she lives the rest of her life? When she's with people in her normal, daily life (friends, family and coworkers) does she try to push thoughts of her perversion out of her head? If she doesn't want too or can't then does it make her feel good or bad, knowing that while everyone around around her is clueless she's in a small way brought them into her world? How would they react if they knew what she likes to do, and is that a question the woman herself ponders?
Thoughts like these swirl around in my head regardless of the genre, but cuckolding specifically brings up a whole new set of questions.
Does her husband know? Do any of her girlfriends know? If "no" to the former and "yes" to that latter, then do they talk about it? Joke and laugh about it? Regardless of the first question is there trash talk about the husband during sex? Does she trash talk him with her bull? Is the bull doing the trash talking? Is she only doing/allowing it because it makes her bull happy or is that just what she tells herself? Assuming that she loves him, as I always do because that's the only way I find cuckolding hot, and there's trash talk/jokes does it turn her on being with him, knowing what's been said? Does it make her feel guilty? Does she feel guilty because of how much it turns her on?
Sorry for rambling off a bunch of questions like this but it's in pondering the answers to these questions (and many more) that I derive sexual gratification.
Craig Rudd
Male
My girlfriend was my friend at first. She was so hot, and a super good friend. I fell in love with her. Since I met her she was really sexual. What she wore, who she dated and of course she would share that with me. I knew how she was and I still fell in love with her.
oliver509
Couple
That was a lot of questions, but they were all good questions. I do like your perspective on the fact that cuckolding is just a sub-fetish. It kind of helped me define my likes. I guess deep down, I just love and adore nasty sluts. There's many different directions that could take. So maybe the major umbrella for my fetish, is slut worship.
Hmm.... I'll have to think about it. So under my umbrella, women sucking and fucking other guys is just about the sluttiest thing they could do.
