Were you Raised to date white?
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No.
We did. My ******* would not have excepted anyone other then latins. Mentality has changed but, growing up never even associated with others..
I was a young through the late 70's & 80's and yes my family was that way. It wasn't till I was a grown woman that I started to the urge and curiosity than finally act on it when I was 35.
My wife was in college 5 yrs to get her Masters the last year and a half she tutored black athletes and wound up dating them since she lived of campus and dating in college usually meant sex. She said she never told her family or friends because they would of been upset and said her ******* would of been embarrassed. I know from her sharing this with me she did not regret dating them.
Both my parents wanted me to date and hang out with only white Christian men, so my entire young adult life that's all I dated I had one or two girlfriends that drifted and when I say drifted they dated a dark Puerto Rican my ******* was Furious he did not want me to stay with her anymore, it wasn't until years later on an all-girls trip that I had my first black experience
I don't know what it's like in other countries but here in America if you don't live in or around a city it's entirely possible that you couldn't date a black person even if you wanted to. There just weren't any around. I grew up in a small town in New Jersey where there weren't any non whites so I wasn't raised to date only white- it was my only option. I can't recall my parents ever saying anything to me about only dating whites.
I went to a small college in rural Pennsylvania and there were some black students but not in great numbers. So again, it wasn't a conscious decision to only date whites nor was I following any directive from my parents. Now that I'm married and live in an area where there are lots of black men it's now an option. I see lot's of white women with black men. I'm sure for some of them there's some push-back with their family but on a whole I think it's pretty common.
It's probably more common for people to be raised to believe that they need to stay within the same religion.
If I'm wrong I'm sure someone will let me know both here in this thread and through a personal message.
I went to a small college in rural Pennsylvania and there were some black students but not in great numbers. So again, it wasn't a conscious decision to only date whites nor was I following any directive from my parents. Now that I'm married and live in an area where there are lots of black men it's now an option. I see lot's of white women with black men. I'm sure for some of them there's some push-back with their family but on a whole I think it's pretty common.
It's probably more common for people to be raised to believe that they need to stay within the same religion.
If I'm wrong I'm sure someone will let me know both here in this thread and through a personal message.
How was it?
My dad had made it clear that he wanted my future husband to be white but didn't object when I dated black in high school. My mom was more relaxed about boyfriends as long as I stayed safe. Growing up I think both of them didn't think I would move to Kenya, marry a Kenyan man and have children with him.
LauraInterested
Female
My parents are conservative and sometimes racist. i think its really dumb, but i am not allowed to bring non-european guys at home, although i am 21yo now. i often argued with my parents but they have these stupid opinion.
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How much experience do you have dating outside of your demographic?
LauraInterested
Female
more than one experience, but i am young though
Gotta start somewhere. What was different about it to you
Parents had no preference.
I'd say acquired. I was the kind of suburban girl who had white boyband posters in my room but then started getting into hip hop. I had my first boyfriend with 14 and my first black boyfriend with 17.
Absolutely 100% yes Im ashamed to say my mom is not as enlightened as she claims to be.
I don't think you're wrong. Most ppl just know the environment they live in. Having lived in a few different countries the hardest thing to overcome wasn't my color it was being American. Living in America the hardest thing to overcome is my color. So is the standard (no black men) the same if he's affluent or rich?I don't know what it's like in other countries but here in America if you don't live in or around a city it's entirely possible that you couldn't date a black person even if you wanted to. There just weren't any around. I grew up in a small town in New Jersey where there weren't any non whites so I wasn't raised to date only white- it was my only option. I can't recall my parents ever saying anything to me about only dating whites.
I went to a small college in rural Pennsylvania and there were some black students but not in great numbers. So again, it wasn't a conscious decision to only date whites nor was I following any directive from my parents. Now that I'm married and live in an area where there are lots of black men it's now an option. I see lot's of white women with black men. I'm sure for some of them there's some push-back with their family but on a whole I think it's pretty common.
It's probably more common for people to be raised to believe that they need to stay within the same religion.
If I'm wrong I'm sure someone will let me know both here in this thread and through a personal message.
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