Trying to understand

[Bewilderedwife]

Hey all. Very new here. Well I'm currently separated from my husband. We had a good marriage up until about 3 years ago when he became obsessed with this cuckolding idea. At first he would drop hints about bringing someone else in to our sex life. It progressed to him sending me pictures of big black dicks and little white ones trying to convince me that big and black is better. I have no interest in sleeping with another man and I've told him this many times but he's like obsessed with this idea and I'm hoping seperating and he sees that he might loose me and his ******* might snap him out of this addiction.

He even spent like $75 on a huge black dildo that I refuse to use. It looks like it would hurt a horse

But mainly I'm here to try and see why this id such a turn on for him. The answer he gives is so vague "it's so hot to see white girls fuck black guys" isn't much of an answer.

 

[STIFFBBC]

Hey all. Very new here. Well I'm currently separated from my husband. We had a good marriage up until about 3 years ago when he became obsessed with this cuckolding idea. At first he would drop hints about bringing someone else in to our sex life. It progressed to him sending me pictures of big black dicks and little white ones trying to convince me that big and black is better. I have no interest in sleeping with another man and I've told him this many times but he's like obsessed with this idea and I'm hoping seperating and he sees that he might loose me and his ******* might snap him out of this addiction.

He even spent like $75 on a huge black dildo that I refuse to use. It looks like it would hurt a horse

But mainly I'm here to try and see why this id such a turn on for him. The answer he gives is so vague "it's so hot to see white girls fuck black guys" isn't much of an answer.

As a heterosexual Black male where I don't at all get excited sharing any women I happen to be with, their logic escapes me. But based on accounts of other wives that happened to concede to their husband's fetish they not only enjoy it but they tend not to look back to do things as they were before as the genie was let out of the bottle. On the link beneath I'm sharing another thread where the wife was so excited being with her Black male she divorced her husband because she felt she did not need him anymore and he literally gave his wife away to another man. What you do is your own business but you will see that your husband is not the only white male infected with this desire. Whether he feels he cannot satisfy you as well as another? Or if he is secretly gay? I don't know and you will have to sleuth that on your own.

https://www.blacktowhite.net/threads/please-help-me-i-am-desperate-and-need-advice.138699/

 

[Bewilderedwife]

Thank you

As a heterosexual Black male where I don't at all get excited sharing any women I happen to be with, their logic escapes me. But based on accounts of other wives that happened to concede to their husband's fetish they not only enjoy it but they don't look back. On the link beneath I'm sharing another thread where the wife was so excited being with her Black male she divorced her husband because she felt she did not need him anymore and he literally gave his wife away to another man. What you do is your own business but you will see that your husband is not the only white male infected with this desire. Whether he feels he cannot satisfy you as well as another? Or if he is secretly gay? I don't know and you will have to sleuth that on your own.

https://www.blacktowhite.net/threads/please-help-me-i-am-desperate-and-need-advice.138699/

Thank you for the reply. I will read this. He wasn't always like this. And I feel this will jeopardize our marriage and family. I'm willing to do whatever it takes to keep my family together but he's got to snap out of this.

 

[MagicMikeATX]

Hey all. Very new here. Well I'm currently separated from my husband. We had a good marriage up until about 3 years ago when he became obsessed with this cuckolding idea. At first he would drop hints about bringing someone else in to our sex life. It progressed to him sending me pictures of big black dicks and little white ones trying to convince me that big and black is better. I have no interest in sleeping with another man and I've told him this many times but he's like obsessed with this idea and I'm hoping seperating and he sees that he might loose me and his ******* might snap him out of this addiction.

He even spent like $75 on a huge black dildo that I refuse to use. It looks like it would hurt a horse

But mainly I'm here to try and see why this id such a turn on for him. The answer he gives is so vague "it's so hot to see white girls fuck black guys" isn't much of an answer.

White male self-cuckolding is a growing epidemic as much as the opiod crisis. I get contacted by hubbies and BFs on a regular basis, offering their women to me.
I cannot explain YOUR situation but I'll say enjoy yourself and find sexual pleasure, since he doesn't want to do the job anymore.
Find a better candidate.

 

[Jamspliff]

I can only speak from personal experience, but having a High School sweetheart who cheated on me probably set the stage for my interest. The near constant reinforcement of Black male superiority in the kind of porn I watched has definitely had an impact as well. My wife and I both embrace the whole BM/WF fantasy, and it's a significant component of our intimacy, but she is content to have it remain a fantasy only. She is too anxious that adding additional men to our relationship might damage it.
Again, speaking JUST for myself, Black men seem so different than white guys that I think I could "share" my wife with them without worrying about her leaving me for one. Social and family pressure would make it unlikely she would openly date or marry a Black Man if we ever split up. This is probably naive of me, but while I would feel jealous or insecure about her being with another white guy, Black Men seem taboo and exotic in a way that I feel totally fine with.

 

[MagicMikeATX]

Thank you

Thank you for the reply. I will read this. He wasn't always like this. And I feel this will jeopardize our marriage and family. I'm willing to do whatever it takes to keep my family together but he's got to snap out of this.

It doesn't have to jeapordize your marriage. You can have your cake and eat it too.
If anything this is Your chance to explore your sexuality in New exciting ways. A lot of women WISH they had your opportunity.

 

[EarthC137]

Hi there, I'm a verified hotwife here, I see this happen a lot honestly where the male in a couple is into "fill in the fetish" and the wife is not, I always tell them if they push their wife into it they will get divorced. An open marriage in this lifestyle is built around trust and communication, him not being able to verbalize his obsession can frustrate you because it doesn't give you any actual answers, he should have started off with a long non emotional talk to discuss this and see if you were even open to the idea first.

 

[Forcucksake]

Ask 100 different cucks and you’ll get 100 different answers, what you should understand is that for a lot of guys, me included, cuckolding is a very deep rooted, phsycological kink that is very hard to properly explain and he won’t be able to forget or move on from it.

It’s more than just seeing her with a black man, it’s the facial expressions, outfits, the words she’ll say, the growth of confidence in her, just having the mindset of wanting to fuck other guys puts women in a class of their own, I mean being someone who’s open minded enough to try it would be hot on its own, the knowledge that as a cuck, he can’t fuck you anywhere near as well as you deserve.

You sound similar to my girlfriend and I’ve sometimes thought about ending the relationship so I could be with someone who wants to do it or at least have an open enough mind to consider it, because the thought of spending the rest of my life unable to fill my biggest sexual fantasy genuinely terrifies me. I mean on the face of it, it’s literally just sex, you don’t have to leave your husband, your bull doesn’t have to move in and the earth won’t stop just because you’ve had sex with someone

 

[MagicMikeATX]

Hi there, I'm a verified hotwife here, I see this happen a lot honestly where the make in a couple is in "fill in the fetish" and the wife is not, I always tell them if they push their wife into it they will get divorced. An open marriage in this lifestyle is built around trust and communication, him not being able to verbalize his obsetion can frustrate you because it doesn't give you any actual answers, he should have started off with a long non emotional talk to discuss this and see if you were even open to the idea first.

Yep. She's on the other side of all the wannabe cucks on here talking bout "guys, help me convince my wife to go black!"

 

[Bewilderedwife]

White male self-cuckolding is a growing epidemic as much as the opiod crisis. I get contacted by hubbies and BFs on a regular basis, offering their women to me.
I cannot explain YOUR situation but I'll say enjoy yourself and find sexual pleasure, since he doesn't want to do the job anymore.
Find a better candidate.

Really? Funny thing is I never heard of the word cuckold until about a year and a half ago. It's just so weird

 

[STIFFBBC]

Thank you

Thank you for the reply. I will read this. He wasn't always like this. And I feel this will jeopardize our marriage and family. I'm willing to do whatever it takes to keep my family together but he's got to snap out of this.

Up until very recently I was a single male for several years and you are a magnificent woman desiring to keep him. The desire that these cucks have are quite strong and if you wish you have him change, what you could do is to scare him straight. Make it look as if you are going to divorce him as a test where you would take him to the cleaners if he doesn't shape up. If he straightens up you win and go back to normal where he sees a psychologist or you seek couple's counselling, if not you might opt to go through with the divorce to cut your losses and save yourself years of heartache as there are lots of other men out that that are not into cuckholding *******.

 

[STIFFBBC]

White male self-cuckolding is a growing epidemic as much as the opiod crisis. I get contacted by hubbies and BFs on a regular basis, offering their women to me.
I cannot explain YOUR situation but I'll say enjoy yourself and find sexual pleasure, since he doesn't want to do the job anymore.
Find a better candidate.

Yea bro what is in the water in America making all these white guys into cucks?

 

[EarthC137]

Yep. She's on the other side of all the wannabe cucks on here talking bout "guys, help me convince my wife to go black!"

It was actually my choice to do that, we started off playing with other white guys when we agreed after years of discussion that a polyamorous lifestyle would suite us, funny part is I didn't go black for the fetishization of it but because I've found black men to be more respectful of my boundaries and more concerned about my needs in the bedroom, the fact he's fetishizating it and pushing you into it shows he has a poor understanding of how it all actually works

 

[STIFFBBC]

Really? Funny thing is I never heard of the word cuckold until about a year and a half ago. It's just so weird

I never knew about cuckholding until I discovered this site a few years ago.

 

[Bewilderedwife]

I can only speak from personal experience, but having a High School sweetheart who cheated on me probably set the stage for my interest. The near constant reinforcement of Black male superiority in the kind of porn I watched has definitely had an impact as well. My wife and I both embrace the whole BM/WF fantasy, and it's a significant component of our intimacy, but she is content to have it remain a fantasy only. She is too anxious that adding additional men to our relationship might damage it.
Again, speaking JUST for myself, Black men seem so different than white guys that I think I could "share" my wife with them without worrying about her leaving me for one. Social and family pressure would make it unlikely she would openly date or marry a Black Man if we ever split up. This is probably naive of me, but while I would feel jealous or insecure about her being with another white guy, Black Men seem taboo and exotic in a way that I feel totally fine with.

Interesting take I guess. But love knows no color and she could very well fall in love if she had sex with another man.

 

[Bewilderedwife]

Hi there, I'm a verified hotwife here, I see this happen a lot honestly where the male in a couple is into "fill in the fetish" and the wife is not, I always tell them if they push their wife into it they will get divorced. An open marriage in this lifestyle is built around trust and communication, him not being able to verbalize his obsession can frustrate you because it doesn't give you any actual answers, he should have started off with a long non emotional talk to discuss this and see if you were even open to the idea first.

Thank you. I agree. I'm guessing he's to embarrassed to talk about it idk

 

[2luvbirds]

Interesting take I guess. But love knows no color and she could very well fall in love if she had sex with another man.

We play MFM, FMF, with couples and in groups (including BBC GB play). The Mrs loves the multiple-man experience and the relative anonymity of a party. It doesn't HAVE to be about finding ONE 'bull' and worrying about feelings--sometimes it can be about play

 

[Bewilderedwife]

Ask 100 different cucks and you’ll get 100 different answers, what you should understand is that for a lot of guys, me included, cuckolding is a very deep rooted, phsycological kink that is very hard to properly explain and he won’t be able to forget or move on from it.

It’s more than just seeing her with a black man, it’s the facial expressions, outfits, the words she’ll say, the growth of confidence in her, just having the mindset of wanting to fuck other guys puts women in a class of their own, I mean being someone who’s open minded enough to try it would be hot on its own, the knowledge that as a cuck, he can’t fuck you anywhere near as well as you deserve.

You sound similar to my girlfriend and I’ve sometimes thought about ending the relationship so I could be with someone who wants to do it or at least have an open enough mind to consider it, because the thought of spending the rest of my life unable to fill my biggest sexual fantasy genuinely terrifies me. I mean on the face of it, it’s literally just sex, you don’t have to leave your husband, your bull doesn’t have to move in and the earth won’t stop just because you’ve had sex with someone

your reasons sound kind of selfish in my opinion.

 

[Bewilderedwife]

Up until very recently I was a single male for several years and you are a magnificent woman desiring to keep him. The desire that these cucks have are quite strong and if you wish you have him change, what you could do is to scare him straight. Make it look as if you are going to divorce him as a test where you would take him to the cleaners if he doesn't shape up. If he straightens up you win and go back to normal where he sees a psychologist or you seek couple's counselling, if not you might opt to go through with the divorce to cut your losses and save yourself years of heartache as there are lots of other men out that that are not into cuckholding *******.

That's the reason I asked him to move out. Hopefully it will scare him

 

[Bewilderedwife]

We play MFM, FMF, with couples and in groups (including BBC GB play). The Mrs loves the multiple-man experience and the relative anonymity of a party. It doesn't HAVE to be about finding ONE 'bull' and worrying about feelings--sometimes it can be about play

I guess I have to open my eyes and see that not everybody is involved in a traditional marriage. If it makes y'all happy and it's mutually agreed upon then I guess it's fine. I'm just old fashioned I guess.