As a white female business executive, I have come to greatly appreciate the satisfaction of submission. What a wonderful release from the pressures of one's job! The higher one goes in her profession, the more responsibilities she faces -- decisions . . . decisions . . . decisions! People seeing promotions. People failing to perform in their roles. Budgets. Federal and state regulations. Meetings. Explaining to bosses when problems arise. On and on and on it goes!
When I am with a black man, however, all of those things recede into the background. I have one responsibility -- to please him. If I do well I am rewarded. If not I am punished. But even the punishment is something of a reward because it helps me learn to do better next time.
When I complete a session of service I am tired and dripping but I feel so good!