Taking it to the next level

[sophieh80]

Personally speaking as a woman I think your husband should leave your loveless marriage and seek support for the emotional abuse he has been getting from you. If this had been a man commenting about how he treats his wife there would be up roar !!!!

 

[Nccouple42burk]

I disagree, with one caveat... We haven't heard his input.

You list yourself as a stag, which means you're a cuckold who hates the title because you don't identify with what mainstream porn has attached to the term "cuckold". Stuff like humiliation, denial, chastity, sissy/bi/cross-dressing, etc. So to you, and maybe many others, it appears as abuse and manipulation.
To a cuckold who has an interest in those other branches of BDSM, it's not abuse or manipulation. Or, it is, but it has become a turn on, or part of the dynamic between husband and wife. There are plenty of couples on here who have those dynamics who still truly love each other.

But back to the point... if we could hear the husband's opinion, it might help shed some light on if he loves that she does that to him, or if he hates it deep down inside... or maybe both. A cuckold can feel jealousy, resentment, love and lust all at the same time. The love and lust are the ones that win out for successful cuckolds.

I've always understood that the three difference between a cuck versus a stag is that three cuck is basically submissive. And while some are into the abuse and humiliation part and some aren't they are all submissive as far as they might enjoy the wife fucking other men but they are ok with her doing it and understand she isn't doing it cuz he enjoys it. Where the stag is just a swinger who gets all he wants from his partner but is fine with her wanting more than he can give her so she's welcome to get it elsewhere. And he may enjoy get being with other men as well but he also expects she will want to give him what he needs as well. The cuck doesn't expect her to take care of his needs and knows they aren't what's important. The stag is fine with her taking care of someone else but he expects his turn at some point and she wants to take care of both the bull and the stag and make sure they are both satisfied.

 

[submission52]

I've always understood that the three difference between a cuck versus a stag is that three cuck is basically submissive. And while some are into the abuse and humiliation part and some aren't they are all submissive as far as they might enjoy the wife fucking other men but they are ok with her doing it and understand she isn't doing it cuz he enjoys it. Where the stag is just a swinger who gets all he wants from his partner but is fine with her wanting more than he can give her so she's welcome to get it elsewhere. And he may enjoy get being with other men as well but he also expects she will want to give him what he needs as well. The cuck doesn't expect her to take care of his needs and knows they aren't what's important. The stag is fine with her taking care of someone else but he expects his turn at some point and she wants to take care of both the bull and the stag and make sure they are both satisfied.

And that's the problem with mainstream porn. They took the word "cuckold" and attached all these other kinks to it... submissive, bi/gay, into cleaning up creampies, cross-dressing, sissy, chastity, humiliation, etc.
But the base definition of a cuckold is a man whose wife has sex with other men. That's it.
The term "stag" came around because mainstream porn made the word "cuckold" such an undesirable title.
So really, a "stag" is a cuckold, but not into the kinks that diminish the male.

 

[latincouple10]

Well progressing to a new level. About 15 years ago I cut off penetration sex with hubby. Just not feeling it and we both agreed, him reluctantly. About 7 years ago I denied him touching my upset and nipples. I still enjoy his massages of my feet, legs, butt, back, arms and legs (no nipples). During morning massages in bed, on occasion I would touch his small penis if he requested it. Pathetic and only a sympathetic touch and hand jod. As of two months ago that has cessed. Massaging me in the morning spooning me he ask for me to touch him. I said NO and left the bed. Two weeks later the same situation occurred and I just left the bed without saying a thing. He continues to massage me with no requests. Guess he figures rejection is now too tough.

think you don’t even love him any more , you’re just with him because he it’s agree with the life style , and ******* , I thing you have 2 options , or try to leave this life and get some couple help or leave the relation

 

[StanleyCush1]

What gets me is women thinking they are in control. They say " I cut him off from intercourse totally," I am not putting this situation down but it takes two not one to have a marriage arrive at the place were they stop intercourse. It takes two to hold a union together after a cuckold situation has entered that relationship. Cuckolding is thrilling for a very few couples to the majority of our world it is not normal. The way I see it is a cuckold is in control of his own life. Submission52 understands the best in my view. Most people stay in a relationship despite the situation not being perfect because they choose to. A husband may be happy and desires the abuse a wife puts him through or he is unhappy and maybe still loves his wife and simply allows the abuse to happen. He is still in control because he could stay of leave. The people on here that post they would not take the abuse, they are looking at the situation from the normal point of view, I think it is a great question for wiwife to ask herself, what if hubbie decided to find sex elsewhere?

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[V and K]

I think her husband is really lucky and that if he ever left her for a lack of sexual fulfillment (lol) he'd probably be unsuccessfully searching for a woman that awesome for the rest of his life.