Obviously more votes continue to trickle in, but some interesting trends emerging.
Top vote getters (“feeling it’s cheating even with husband’s approval” and “poor body image and don’t believe other men will want me sexually”) are probably the two top reasons, in that order, why my wife has been hesitant. I think the first one is the biggest challlenge to overcome.
Years of religious, parental and societal messaging, teaching, and shame inducement. Any ideas from cucks or wives who were able to overcome this hurdle? Was it just persistence in messaging/requests from husband/bf and opportunities presenting themselves, or was there some other fundamental shift in your attitudes and beliefs that preceded this? Feel free to chime in with thoughts and suggestions.
The body image thing I think, if you are willing to take some chances, is much easier to overcome for several reasons. Many times women are their own harshest critics when it comes to their bodies (trust me I know these feelings didn’t occur in a vacuum, men and Madison Avenue have fed if not created that beast), many (not all certainly) black men like women with extra padding, bigger asses, etc. and what they view as sexy is more robust and possibly nuanced than what many white guys view as sexy.
A while back I shared some photos of my wife from 6 years ago with a guy who’s somewhat local to us. Being transparent I told him that my wife is self conscious because she put some weight on around her stomach over the last couple years. His response? “Fantastic! I find that even sexier to be honest.” This is why I think this hesitation reason is more easily overcome. My wife believes that I, by the nature of our relationship etc., am obligated somehow to think or at least say she is sexy, but she doesn’t believe she is especially to other men. But if a nice looking black man, not only comes on to her, flirts with her etc. but truly finds her, all of her, really hot and sexy? How can she dispute that, how can she not feel sexy, desired, wanted? Unless she thinks I set it up or paid him.
The two most frequently mentioned reactions wives have when they have agreed to fuck a black guy later in life are:
1) The women’s confidence and body image sky rocket. Why wouldn’t that be an outcome? Some younger, hot black man who is in far better shape than her husband, with presumably a bigger cock, lusts after her, not what she COULD BE with work/diet etc. but as she just IS NOW. Again, I think this can easily be overcome if your wife/gf is in a situation (naturally occurring or something you help initiate…. Hopefully being honest with the guy and not implying it’s a sure thing, or putting her in an unsafe situation) where a black man shows real interest/attraction.
2) They wish they had started YEARS earlier, but, better late than never.
One other encouraging result? Only 1 person out of 31 (3%) said that the hesitation is because the woman is not attracted to black men.
Would love to get more feedback. Any different observations/reactions to the poll? Anyone believe I am too pollyannish with regard to overcoming a woman’s poor body image? I will say that there is a lot of amateur porn out there (even on this site) with clearly BBW females and studly black men who seem to have plenty of attraction/desire for those ladies . Don’t know about others but if I am not attracted to a woman the equipment is taking the night off.