My wife has said for quite some time that she considers it, even with my whole hearted support, “cheating” related to breaking her wedding vows but there are probably other factors as well. When I used the big toy on her, her first concern is if she feels too loose for me. I told her “hell no, getting sloppy seconds with her well used pussy is insanely hot.” I do wonder if she worries she may like it too much and it may diminish the sensation/feeling she has when we fuck. My counselor said that a handful of couples she counsels, the husband has the exact same fantasy as me. Small world! She went on to say that two of the wives in those relationships voiced concerns that they worried they would like the experience “too much” and they might cross a line that would “hurt their marriage.”
Question (& Poll) for or about Hesitant Wives
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Some of these it would be helpful to know if it is a cuck speculating why his wife is hesitant vs a wife really sharing her truth. For example the explanation about worried she will like it too much or will get stretched out and not like sex as much with her husband. I think the latter may be one of the concerns my wife might have but that’s partial conjecture based on something she said after we play with her toys.
My husband had tried for many years to get me to experience sex with black guy’s with much larger penis than his own.
Although I became inquisitive as to what it would be like to have sex with a black guy who’s penis would be so much bigger than my husbands, my conservative upbringing was always in the back of my mind stopping me from breaking my wedding vows.then totally unplanned I got seduce by an older black guy who took my black cock virginity. From that first experience I have become addicted to black cock and wish I had experienced bbc when my husband first brought the idea up ,
Although I became inquisitive as to what it would be like to have sex with a black guy who’s penis would be so much bigger than my husbands, my conservative upbringing was always in the back of my mind stopping me from breaking my wedding vows.then totally unplanned I got seduce by an older black guy who took my black cock virginity. From that first experience I have become addicted to black cock and wish I had experienced bbc when my husband first brought the idea up ,
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Was hoping for more voting but interesting results thus far. Leading vote getters are wives who still considering it cheating even with husband’s blessing, and poor body image.
Seems to me the easier one to overcome, if a black guy was to come on to our wives, would be the body image issue. My wife always takes my attraction and lust for her with a major grain of salt, since according to her, as her husband it’s a given or prerequisite that I find her attractive, she doesn’t feel that’s an accurate reflection of her attractiveness as a woman generally. One of the most universal things I have read on here is how women’s self confidence and body image soars when she fucks a black guy especially a younger, attractive one. Makes sense. That’s proof positive that other men find them attractive. In this situation, when a black guy hits on you does that majorly help alleviate concerns with body image, or does that only really take hold after there is nakedness and fucking?
I think the moral dilemma might still be overcome in the right situation as Happy Sussex can attest to, if there is a relaxed environment, away from home, adult beverage (hopefully not too many) on board and a motivated, turned on, hung black guy flirting with your wife. Obviously it probably helps when she is faced with a black gentleman who is trying to charm her panties off AND she knows her husband is super motivated for her to take the leap and is helping reassure her at the time.
Any thoughts?
Seems to me the easier one to overcome, if a black guy was to come on to our wives, would be the body image issue. My wife always takes my attraction and lust for her with a major grain of salt, since according to her, as her husband it’s a given or prerequisite that I find her attractive, she doesn’t feel that’s an accurate reflection of her attractiveness as a woman generally. One of the most universal things I have read on here is how women’s self confidence and body image soars when she fucks a black guy especially a younger, attractive one. Makes sense. That’s proof positive that other men find them attractive. In this situation, when a black guy hits on you does that majorly help alleviate concerns with body image, or does that only really take hold after there is nakedness and fucking?
I think the moral dilemma might still be overcome in the right situation as Happy Sussex can attest to, if there is a relaxed environment, away from home, adult beverage (hopefully not too many) on board and a motivated, turned on, hung black guy flirting with your wife. Obviously it probably helps when she is faced with a black gentleman who is trying to charm her panties off AND she knows her husband is super motivated for her to take the leap and is helping reassure her at the time.
Any thoughts?
It would be very nice to hear more wives vote and answer this pole. It so interesting to know what all of you think and maybe how things have changed for you. I am so proud of you women that have open your legs for a black man or that you’re thinking about it. It’s good to hear the good and bad of this lifestyle
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Before we actually did it ..yeah I fell into a good many of those poll categories
Obviously more votes continue to trickle in, but some interesting trends emerging.
Top vote getters (“feeling it’s cheating even with husband’s approval” and “poor body image and don’t believe other men will want me sexually”) are probably the two top reasons, in that order, why my wife has been hesitant. I think the first one is the biggest challlenge to overcome.
Years of religious, parental and societal messaging, teaching, and shame inducement. Any ideas from cucks or wives who were able to overcome this hurdle? Was it just persistence in messaging/requests from husband/bf and opportunities presenting themselves, or was there some other fundamental shift in your attitudes and beliefs that preceded this? Feel free to chime in with thoughts and suggestions.
The body image thing I think, if you are willing to take some chances, is much easier to overcome for several reasons. Many times women are their own harshest critics when it comes to their bodies (trust me I know these feelings didn’t occur in a vacuum, men and Madison Avenue have fed if not created that beast), many (not all certainly) black men like women with extra padding, bigger asses, etc. and what they view as sexy is more robust and possibly nuanced than what many white guys view as sexy.
A while back I shared some photos of my wife from 6 years ago with a guy who’s somewhat local to us. Being transparent I told him that my wife is self conscious because she put some weight on around her stomach over the last couple years. His response? “Fantastic! I find that even sexier to be honest.” This is why I think this hesitation reason is more easily overcome. My wife believes that I, by the nature of our relationship etc., am obligated somehow to think or at least say she is sexy, but she doesn’t believe she is especially to other men. But if a nice looking black man, not only comes on to her, flirts with her etc. but truly finds her, all of her, really hot and sexy? How can she dispute that, how can she not feel sexy, desired, wanted? Unless she thinks I set it up or paid him.
The two most frequently mentioned reactions wives have when they have agreed to fuck a black guy later in life are:
1) The women’s confidence and body image sky rocket. Why wouldn’t that be an outcome? Some younger, hot black man who is in far better shape than her husband, with presumably a bigger cock, lusts after her, not what she COULD BE with work/diet etc. but as she just IS NOW. Again, I think this can easily be overcome if your wife/gf is in a situation (naturally occurring or something you help initiate…. Hopefully being honest with the guy and not implying it’s a sure thing, or putting her in an unsafe situation) where a black man shows real interest/attraction.
2) They wish they had started YEARS earlier, but, better late than never.
One other encouraging result? Only 1 person out of 31 (3%) said that the hesitation is because the woman is not attracted to black men.
Would love to get more feedback. Any different observations/reactions to the poll? Anyone believe I am too pollyannish with regard to overcoming a woman’s poor body image? I will say that there is a lot of amateur porn out there (even on this site) with clearly BBW females and studly black men who seem to have plenty of attraction/desire for those ladies . Don’t know about others but if I am not attracted to a woman the equipment is taking the night off.
Top vote getters (“feeling it’s cheating even with husband’s approval” and “poor body image and don’t believe other men will want me sexually”) are probably the two top reasons, in that order, why my wife has been hesitant. I think the first one is the biggest challlenge to overcome.
Years of religious, parental and societal messaging, teaching, and shame inducement. Any ideas from cucks or wives who were able to overcome this hurdle? Was it just persistence in messaging/requests from husband/bf and opportunities presenting themselves, or was there some other fundamental shift in your attitudes and beliefs that preceded this? Feel free to chime in with thoughts and suggestions.
The body image thing I think, if you are willing to take some chances, is much easier to overcome for several reasons. Many times women are their own harshest critics when it comes to their bodies (trust me I know these feelings didn’t occur in a vacuum, men and Madison Avenue have fed if not created that beast), many (not all certainly) black men like women with extra padding, bigger asses, etc. and what they view as sexy is more robust and possibly nuanced than what many white guys view as sexy.
A while back I shared some photos of my wife from 6 years ago with a guy who’s somewhat local to us. Being transparent I told him that my wife is self conscious because she put some weight on around her stomach over the last couple years. His response? “Fantastic! I find that even sexier to be honest.” This is why I think this hesitation reason is more easily overcome. My wife believes that I, by the nature of our relationship etc., am obligated somehow to think or at least say she is sexy, but she doesn’t believe she is especially to other men. But if a nice looking black man, not only comes on to her, flirts with her etc. but truly finds her, all of her, really hot and sexy? How can she dispute that, how can she not feel sexy, desired, wanted? Unless she thinks I set it up or paid him.
The two most frequently mentioned reactions wives have when they have agreed to fuck a black guy later in life are:
1) The women’s confidence and body image sky rocket. Why wouldn’t that be an outcome? Some younger, hot black man who is in far better shape than her husband, with presumably a bigger cock, lusts after her, not what she COULD BE with work/diet etc. but as she just IS NOW. Again, I think this can easily be overcome if your wife/gf is in a situation (naturally occurring or something you help initiate…. Hopefully being honest with the guy and not implying it’s a sure thing, or putting her in an unsafe situation) where a black man shows real interest/attraction.
2) They wish they had started YEARS earlier, but, better late than never.
One other encouraging result? Only 1 person out of 31 (3%) said that the hesitation is because the woman is not attracted to black men.
Would love to get more feedback. Any different observations/reactions to the poll? Anyone believe I am too pollyannish with regard to overcoming a woman’s poor body image? I will say that there is a lot of amateur porn out there (even on this site) with clearly BBW females and studly black men who seem to have plenty of attraction/desire for those ladies . Don’t know about others but if I am not attracted to a woman the equipment is taking the night off.
40 have taken the poll. Who missed it?
None of the above 
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