What's happened to your sex life with the wives since you first became involved? My wife first started around 5 years ago and for a long time (year or two) the whole thing greatly improved our sex life (with each other). She seemed always horney and acted much "sluttier" in bed. The I guess the novelty wore off and it just became a part of our sex lives but in the past year or so things have really slowed down. She now has a couple of guys she plays with alone and generally after she just goes to sleep. We still have group activity every few months but this is becoming when I get the most sex. Should I be worried? Should I disallow the alone activity?