Absolutely not!
First of all, if my Wife is cuckolding me it is for her pleasure, not mine. If she wishes to bring her lover home to enjoy him, that is her decision to make. If she chooses to go to his place or a hotel, again, that's her choice.
If I am to be present or not is up to her, just as if I am to serve her and/or her lover and in what manner I am to serve.
The list of things that I must have out of my relationship with my Wife have nothing to do with being cuckolded.
The list of things that I must have regarding her cuckolding me is simple: she must take every precaution to ensure her/our physical safety and our mutual well being regarding safe sex practices so that we don't end up with any illness that we really don't need.
Beyond that, she is free to do as she chooses and I am hers to command.
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Couldn't agree more, a true cuck