I deal with it fine. It took an adjustment but after a while I grew into it and accepted “my” version of sex. My wife will usually teases my shrimp dick while licking my nipples and jerking me off. That’s how we reconnect after she gets off on her bbc dildo or bbc bull. That’s our way of having sex and emotionally reconnecting. She’s had what she needs physically and then helps me meets my needs. This is how we share intimacy now. On special occasions, if I’ve been a really good boy, she will finger my prostate till I explode all over the place