I never was a premature ejaculator until we became a part of this lifestyle. When it was just me and the wife originally in the beginning. I could last forever and was able to make her orgasm. As we started to incorporate bbc dildos and roleplay some. I started to get faster on the draw. It started to happen more and once she started getting real bbc forget about it. There are times I’m barely able to get inside of her before spilling a load load all over. Most times I can get inside her but usually cum in less than 1 minute of penetration. It sucks but she now has her bull or more often her bbc dildo when he isn’t around to keep her happy. It really has become a psychological issue for me. I still get pussy but I’ve been caged at times or just watch and that only seems to make me quicker From what I’ve read from other cucks it’s the same thing and a very common occurrence. It’s a rabbit hole I’ve gone down and not sure I can ever come back from and be a longer lasting lover again. Some serious doubts about that
Premature ejaculation is a part of this lifestyle
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So is erectile dysfunction
I don’t really have that issue yet myself. But the prematureness has definitely accompanied this lifestyle for me. It’s crazy how just a short few years ago I go on and on in bed, and now if I last 2-3 minutes that’s a real accomplishment for me. One time after a real long session of the wife using her bbc dildo I took it out after she came multiple times. She was extremely creamy and soaking wet. She was talking dirty to me and I went to put it in her and I literally got a 1/2 a stroke and came really hard. That was the worst toppled that she couldn’t even feel me after being stretched out badly. Biggest mind fuck ever
I've heard it's a biological response to others having sex with your women. In terms of natural competition, the faster you can inseminate your mate, the better chances that she will have your offspring.
There may some real truth to it. I can’t ever seem to hold back anymore. It’s gotten so bad, We just seem to go with it now and however long I am it doesn’t matter. Maybe part of it is in the back of my head I know she’s sexually satisfied and i don’t have any expectations anymore so I blow it fast for my own satisfaction. She usually just cheers me on to make my little dick cum as fast as possible. She’s even made it a game sometimes to see how fast I can blow it. It’s kinda humiliating but hot at the same time
I have the same problem. Once whe start our Femdom relation and my wife started to dominate me an I worship her like a Godess I can't last for more then a few minutes. When she ride her big dildo I just can't touch my dick our I cum. My wife find it very ennoying and blame me. Then she often threath me with finding her sexual pleasure with other man who can last longer. It even make it worser because I'm getting even more excited.
Yeah it kinda feeds into itself. And it gets worse and worse the longer the cuckold stuff goes on
I don't see it as a problem. It also feels verry exciting at the same time and it feeds my submissive feelings. I even think the day my wife cuck me I will even cum without touching myself. Otherwise this may be the reason my wife will finaly step into the lifestyle and actualy fuck another man who last longer.
Since coming on here and fantasize about wife getting pleased by BBC I have become a premature ejaculator. Literally 30s currently. I think it's because I'm daily getting my fix and fantasising but only get her pussy once every couple of weeks.
She knows and likes to tease me I think. She sleeps nude and I always try and get a grab or look at her sexy ass or pussy.
She takes as normal I'm a quick cummer now. But can't help think she's frustrated
She knows and likes to tease me I think. She sleeps nude and I always try and get a grab or look at her sexy ass or pussy.
She takes as normal I'm a quick cummer now. But can't help think she's frustrated
Than you can use your premature ejaculation problem to your mutual advantage in encouraging her to cuckold you. She realizes that you cannot cheat on her with another woman.
Your story mimics mine. Since I started going down the rabbit hole and started looking at the bbc cuckold stuff I would get quicker as I started imagining her with bbc. Then I talked her into getting a bbc dildo. That really accelerated things. I got really fast and the sex got less. It fed into itself and because I was getting it less, and the dildo was getting used a lot more, the premature ejaculation became much prevalent. And then she started giving it to me less which made it worse when I did actually get into her warm soaked pussy. Eventually I could tell she would get frustrated with me and even made a comment once in a while about how fast I was. Eventually it got so bad I asked her if she would want real bbc and that they would be big and much longer lasting. She agreed and ever since I have been a very premature guy. I still get it but if I go after the bbc, I don’t get many stokes in her before blowing my load everywhere
Yes I agree that’s how it worked out for us
A long, long, long, long time ago when my
husband was able to get an erection, if you
could actually call it that, he would enter me,
I think he would any way because I couldn't
feel it, he would pump away like the energized
bunny. He was a real Patriot, a real minute
man, if you know what I mean
Thank
goodness I don't have to put up with his
nonsense any more as all his mushroom is
good for now is running water through it
husband was able to get an erection, if you
could actually call it that, he would enter me,
I think he would any way because I couldn't
feel it, he would pump away like the energized
bunny. He was a real Patriot, a real minute
man, if you know what I mean
Thankgoodness I don't have to put up with his
nonsense any more as all his mushroom is
good for now is running water through it
The real question is: Does it make any of you frustrated or not?
If it doesn't, noone has lost. Both your wife and you are feeling excitement and have orgasms. For your marriage it is not important anymore that you take the role of the sexual provider - at least not directly. If both of you like your sexual lifestyle, i think it's all good. There's no need to overthink it.
But i don't think it is necessarily part of the lifestyle. There are husbands who have an increased performance once their wives are having other men on the side. It seems to be part of a competition where the husbands are in the process of defending their place, or, like others have put it, of "reclaiming what's theirs".
The change in performance, if any, greatly depends on the mindset, i think.
If it doesn't, noone has lost. Both your wife and you are feeling excitement and have orgasms. For your marriage it is not important anymore that you take the role of the sexual provider - at least not directly. If both of you like your sexual lifestyle, i think it's all good. There's no need to overthink it.
But i don't think it is necessarily part of the lifestyle. There are husbands who have an increased performance once their wives are having other men on the side. It seems to be part of a competition where the husbands are in the process of defending their place, or, like others have put it, of "reclaiming what's theirs".
The change in performance, if any, greatly depends on the mindset, i think.
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I’ve never been able to last in bed and it actually ruined many relationships before they ever started in uni.
My wife Karen was sympathetic about it but after 10 years of crap sex she just needed better and hence now I am a pussy free cuck.
I’ve also noticed over the past year or so I’m struggling to get fully hard when I am allowed to masturbate.
My wife Karen was sympathetic about it but after 10 years of crap sex she just needed better and hence now I am a pussy free cuck.
I’ve also noticed over the past year or so I’m struggling to get fully hard when I am allowed to masturbate.
Premature ejaculation is something i've lived with for 25+ years, and for me being a psychological issue (I have seen specialists over the years) that once I started being cuckolded in my mid 20's, there seems to be this primal need to hurriedly ejaculate to minimise the chances of the other mans sperm fertilising your wife, as mentioned above, and i've found it impossible to reverse.
I have used condoms 95% of the time I have had sex in the last 25 years as well, not so much to slow my orgasm, as for me that doesn't work, but to minimise my 'mess' for my wife or ex's, when 30-60 seconds was and still is pretty standard for me. I can't even have my wife stroke my cock if i'm sucking her tits as i'll usually cum, I can stroke my own cock, but if she touches it or attempts to stroke it i'll cum, so we don't do it so I can play for longer.
For me though, I have not only absolutely no control over it, but also no warning. I could enter my wife, slowly fuck and feel i'm minutes away from cumming, and on the next stroke in and out, just ejaculate, no warning, no crescendo, no build up, not even the slightest hint i'm close until its too late.
My ex fiance loved seeing me cum so quickly, and she would tell me I have 30 seconds to hurry up and cum even with a condom on, or I have to pull out, so I would make certain i'd cum in that time . But sometimes, just to make sure, she'd push her finger up my ass to make certain of it. But after a while, all she'd have to do, is lick her finger, so lube it up, and i'd cum, just from the visual image and the thought she'll stick it up my ass. So I got into this situation, of the pshycological side over ruling the physical.
My current wife of 13 years, has no real issue with it, its how its always been with us. But she has said she loves knowing i'll never have an affair, because women aren't chasing 'premmy's' as she calls it, for casual sex or illicit
I have used condoms 95% of the time I have had sex in the last 25 years as well, not so much to slow my orgasm, as for me that doesn't work, but to minimise my 'mess' for my wife or ex's, when 30-60 seconds was and still is pretty standard for me. I can't even have my wife stroke my cock if i'm sucking her tits as i'll usually cum, I can stroke my own cock, but if she touches it or attempts to stroke it i'll cum, so we don't do it so I can play for longer.
For me though, I have not only absolutely no control over it, but also no warning. I could enter my wife, slowly fuck and feel i'm minutes away from cumming, and on the next stroke in and out, just ejaculate, no warning, no crescendo, no build up, not even the slightest hint i'm close until its too late.
My ex fiance loved seeing me cum so quickly, and she would tell me I have 30 seconds to hurry up and cum even with a condom on, or I have to pull out, so I would make certain i'd cum in that time . But sometimes, just to make sure, she'd push her finger up my ass to make certain of it. But after a while, all she'd have to do, is lick her finger, so lube it up, and i'd cum, just from the visual image and the thought she'll stick it up my ass. So I got into this situation, of the pshycological side over ruling the physical.
My current wife of 13 years, has no real issue with it, its how its always been with us. But she has said she loves knowing i'll never have an affair, because women aren't chasing 'premmy's' as she calls it, for casual sex or illicit
I’m exactly the same as you. If I jerk off i can last a while but the minute my wife starts stroking me I cum fast. And if she really wants me to blow it really fast and hard she will either stick a Finger in my ass to rub my prostate or she will start licking my nipples while she lightly gives me a two finger job. I erupt rather quickly and intensely. Those two finger jobs have become a regular part of our sex life. Of course this is after she’s had her bbc dildo satisfy her. She is taken care of first and I’m secondPremature ejaculation is something i've lived with for 25+ years, and for me being a psychological issue (I have seen specialists over the years) that once I started being cuckolded in my mid 20's, there seems to be this primal need to hurriedly ejaculate to minimise the chances of the other mans sperm fertilising your wife, as mentioned above, and i've found it impossible to reverse.
I have used condoms 95% of the time I have had sex in the last 25 years as well, not so much to slow my orgasm, as for me that doesn't work, but to minimise my 'mess' for my wife or ex's, when 30-60 seconds was and still is pretty standard for me. I can't even have my wife stroke my cock if i'm sucking her tits as i'll usually cum, I can stroke my own cock, but if she touches it or attempts to stroke it i'll cum, so we don't do it so I can play for longer.
For me though, I have not only absolutely no control over it, but also no warning. I could enter my wife, slowly fuck and feel i'm minutes away from cumming, and on the next stroke in and out, just ejaculate, no warning, no crescendo, no build up, not even the slightest hint i'm close until its too late.
My ex fiance loved seeing me cum so quickly, and she would tell me I have 30 seconds to hurry up and cum even with a condom on, or I have to pull out, so I would make certain i'd cum in that time . But sometimes, just to make sure, she'd push her finger up my ass to make certain of it. But after a while, all she'd have to do, is lick her finger, so lube it up, and i'd cum, just from the visual image and the thought she'll stick it up my ass. So I got into this situation, of the pshycological side over ruling the physical.
My current wife of 13 years, has no real issue with it, its how its always been with us. But she has said she loves knowing i'll never have an affair, because women aren't chasing 'premmy's' as she calls it, for casual sex or illicit
l used to take forever to cum, my wife would get pissed at me for taking so long to cum. Now since my wife started being a BBC whore I cum in 3-5 minutes jerking off. I am a pussy free cuck, so I can only say how long I last when jerking now.
