My new husband of 11 months was consistently encouraging me to have sex with a black man. This was something I had never thought of prior to him bringing it up. To please him, I finally relented. We met a very nice, goodlooking, black man from Craigslist I will call "John" and the three of us struck up a friendship which soon led to a physical relationship between me and "John". the dynamics of our marriage have changed for the worse. My husband would not touch me physically and would always encourage me to call "John".To complicate matters, I have recently discovered I am pregnant. it is without any question, "John's" baby. Very confusing since I have been on birth control pills for nearly 2 years with no issue. I am at a loss as to what to do. My husband is now telling me he want's a divorce. Why am I being blamed for something he encouraged me to do? I don't know if I should have this baby, but I also don't think I could have an abortion. I did tell "John" and he wants me to have the baby and has told me he is in love with me and wants to pursue a future. Please, can you all give me some advice? I don't really have anyone to talk to about this.