Overcoming the worrisome obstacles. Real questions

[Feelitout]

So the wife has decided she’s finally ready to take on an alpha boyfriend in the relationship. How about sharing tips on what helped you the first meeting to overcome the worry, stress, concern?

There’s the concern of you’ve been married to the same man so long, so what if bringing in another man feels awkward?

What about small communities, where up till 10-15 years ago you never saw black and white dating. What about the nervousness of being seen on a date with a black bull?
What if a family member sees you.

What if you’re worried it comes down to sex but you are not sure you can go through with it?

All hotwives have gone through many feelings, concerns, worry, etc. what were some of the things and what helped you ease through them?
Real questions so please be respectful in answering because women new to the lifestyle do go through these things. Things like this are where many say it’s easier to just not do it, even though they desire to.

 

[OleMissQoScple]

Just go for it, we understand the small community thing, we live in Mississippi now and it's literally the bible belt. We're originally from Iowa where people mind their own but talk to everyone....
Set ground rules for each other and do what makes you happy and fuck what everyone else thinks.
Variety is the spice of life, and if they talk ******* it's because they are scared to enjoy it

 

[SanteFeRR]

Guidelines are important but more importantly is keeping in open, honest communication at all times (just like any other successful relationship). Make sure your relationship is rock solid. Many couples think this lifestyle will "help their marriage". Wrong! It's another layer to a successful relationship not a replacement.
Small towns have become more accepting of IR relationships over the years from our experience. At the end of the day, however, it's your relationship so you need to do what's right for you individually and as a couple. Enjoy!

 

[funcouple52661]

If you have to be discreet then be discreet

 

[shycplinokc]

Also, may sure you guys have VERY clear understanding of what is expected. communication is KEY.

 

[BetaJames]

You two have the opportunity to live your truest self. You’ve got so much more to gain from this than risk losing.

Yes, you’ll both be nervous and anxious. You’ll also both be very excited and feel very close to each other. It’s all part of it.

You’ll feel insecure and inadequate possibly. Don’t let it stop you from moving forward. Let yourself feel all these emotions. It’s part of the journey.