One more future cuckold or just a fantasy? Help me...... please

[Ilmiocornuto]

Hello, good everyone, my name is Mark and I'm 48 years old, I've been married for 12 years and ever since I met my wife I've been into cuckolding.

My fantasies range from seeing her on all fours sucking a black cock to being her blowjobber and cleaning the remains of my cuckold's cum off her pussy or her tits or ass, waiting behind a door, or acting as a chair while he fucks her on top of me.

When I met her at the height of the chatroom boom I pretended to be someone else and got her to show me her breasts while I talked to her on the cell phone because it was me and she didn't know it. That night I masturbated 5 times in a row within 2 hours.

Thinking I was a virtual cuckold.

I've told her a few times that I wouldn't mind being her consensual cuckold while we fuck but once I ejaculate the idea doesn't appeal to me enough and we don't talk about it again.

Still when I go several days without masturbating the idea of being a cuckold takes over my head and I would like to be one. Still I don't have enough balls to say it and think he won't let me.

I'm her breadwinner, I don't work and she earns the money, we fuck once a year at most and I can't hold out long enough to give her more than one orgasm if I give it to her.

Currently my penis measures 12 cm (4.6 inches) and it's not very thick, not much for a multiorgasmic like her; what I don't understand is how she doesn't masturbate or already fucks someone else because I masturbate daily and she says she doesn't do it.

I like interracial porn, dildos, humiliation ,SPH and female domination, I want to have a chastity belt without her knowing at the moment. A few months ago I bought a 20 cm penis that I like to compare with my penis to realize what she needs. By the way I like to suck it and I wouldn't mind cleaning her lovers cock if they want to and so does she. The idea of sissy cuckold also appeals to me.

I remember once in a pool how a foreigner tried to pick her up and she told him she was married showing him the ring, but seeing her there I had a ******* erection then I told her about it but she said nothing, laughed and little else.

I recently told her that my dick was getting smaller and smaller from not fucking and she laughed making the gesture with 2 fingers of small dick and that turns me on.

Does this evidence mean I want to be a cuckold? Should I keep it as a fantasy and not risk losing my relationship, should I show her the dildo and tell her I want to buy a chastity belt?

Sex with her doesn't appeal to me unless she asks me to, I enjoy masturbating and fantasizing about being her cuckold. in fact I masturbate with her high heels in private and with a thong and a small buttplug in my ass while I look at a collage I made with a picture of her and an ex of hers.

Is my story normal, are there other people like this? Am I a future cuckold or is it just a fantasy?

 

[425oldsmar]

Let her find the chastity cage and take it from there.
When my wife found it she was like WTF is this and told her. She said HELL YES

 

[Ilmiocornuto]

Let her find the chastity cage and take it from there.
When my wife found it she was like WTF is this and told her. She said HELL YES

it could be a good idea, she knows that I masturbate daily, the fact that she could control my handjobs would give her power over me, the problem is that with 3 days without ejaculating I go cuckold crazy.

 

[425oldsmar]

it could be a good idea, she knows that I masturbate daily, the fact that she could control my handjobs would give her power over me, the problem is that with 3 days without ejaculating I go cuckold crazy.

Thatsbthe whole idea she will now be control of your orgasms.

 

[nancyscuck]

Hello, good everyone, my name is Mark and I'm 48 years old, I've been married for 12 years and ever since I met my wife I've been into cuckolding.

My fantasies range from seeing her on all fours sucking a black cock to being her blowjobber and cleaning the remains of my cuckold's cum off her pussy or her tits or ass, waiting behind a door, or acting as a chair while he fucks her on top of me.

When I met her at the height of the chatroom boom I pretended to be someone else and got her to show me her breasts while I talked to her on the cell phone because it was me and she didn't know it. That night I masturbated 5 times in a row within 2 hours.

Thinking I was a virtual cuckold.

I've told her a few times that I wouldn't mind being her consensual cuckold while we fuck but once I ejaculate the idea doesn't appeal to me enough and we don't talk about it again.

Still when I go several days without masturbating the idea of being a cuckold takes over my head and I would like to be one. Still I don't have enough balls to say it and think he won't let me.

I'm her breadwinner, I don't work and she earns the money, we fuck once a year at most and I can't hold out long enough to give her more than one orgasm if I give it to her.

Currently my penis measures 12 cm (4.6 inches) and it's not very thick, not much for a multiorgasmic like her; what I don't understand is how she doesn't masturbate or already fucks someone else because I masturbate daily and she says she doesn't do it.

I like interracial porn, dildos, humiliation ,SPH and female domination, I want to have a chastity belt without her knowing at the moment. A few months ago I bought a 20 cm penis that I like to compare with my penis to realize what she needs. By the way I like to suck it and I wouldn't mind cleaning her lovers cock if they want to and so does she. The idea of sissy cuckold also appeals to me.

I remember once in a pool how a foreigner tried to pick her up and she told him she was married showing him the ring, but seeing her there I had a ******* erection then I told her about it but she said nothing, laughed and little else.

I recently told her that my dick was getting smaller and smaller from not fucking and she laughed making the gesture with 2 fingers of small dick and that turns me on.

Does this evidence mean I want to be a cuckold? Should I keep it as a fantasy and not risk losing my relationship, should I show her the dildo and tell her I want to buy a chastity belt?

Sex with her doesn't appeal to me unless she asks me to, I enjoy masturbating and fantasizing about being her cuckold. in fact I masturbate with her high heels in private and with a thong and a small buttplug in my ass while I look at a collage I made with a picture of her and an ex of hers.

Is my story normal, are there other people like this? Am I a future cuckold or is it just a fantasy?

You sounds a lot like me and I consider myself a future cuckold. I feel your thoughts and actions are very normal. The next part is moving this from just your fantasy to open communication with your wife.

 

[Ilmiocornuto]

In fact, knowing that I have a small and not very thick dick and that I can't hold it very long, it excites me and it's a strange feeling at the same time.

 

[Ilmiocornuto]

the fact that you are excited to know that you have a small penis is a sign that you like the humiliation of the small penis SPH?

 

[Sogliano]

I have literary no field experience. But if what you’re saying it’s true and you’ve been with her for 10+ years without acting out on this fetish is insane!

Grab the bull by the horns (pun intended) and have some serious conversations about this fantasy of yours, I bet she would enjoy the sexual freedom. If you fuck her once a year I can’t imagine it would be so hard to convince her to try. And when she does, you might win your sexual life back.

Got nothing to lose!

 

[hungteacher]

I have literary no field experience. But if what you’re saying it’s true and you’ve been with her for 10+ years without acting out on this fetish is insane!

Grab the bull by the horns (pun intended) and have some serious conversations about this fantasy of yours, I bet she would enjoy the sexual freedom. If you fuck her once a year I can’t imagine it would be so hard to convince her to try. And when she does, you might win your sexual life back.

Got nothing to lose!

this is great advice, but I really dont get the sense from the OP that he wants any of this in reality. I think he just loves the fantasy, but this will NEVER happen. The fact that he said he loses the desire to be a cuckold once he cums MEANS. a lot. And if you dont know what it says, let me explain. This guy isn't a cuckold. He doesnt care about his wife's sexual pleasure at all. It sounds like his wife doesnt care about sex either. Because women usually say something after 6-9 months of no sex if they are horny beyond belief. I think this guy sounds like a typical guy. He gets turned on, its his fantasy, not his wife and its all about his orgasm, not hers.

Not once did he talk about his wife in the post. The post was all about HIM!! Sound like a cuckold to you? Not really. cuckolds are selfless people. They care more about their wives sexual pleasure than their own. They want their wife to be happy, even at the expense of themselves. This guy isn't sacrificing anything for his wife. If he isn't happy, he doesnt care what his wife thinks.

 

[zohascuck]

this is great advice, but I really dont get the sense from the OP that he wants any of this in reality. I think he just loves the fantasy, but this will NEVER happen. The fact that he said he loses the desire to be a cuckold once he cums MEANS. a lot. And if you dont know what it says, let me explain. This guy isn't a cuckold. He doesnt care about his wife's sexual pleasure at all. It sounds like his wife doesnt care about sex either. Because women usually say something after 6-9 months of no sex if they are horny beyond belief. I think this guy sounds like a typical guy. He gets turned on, its his fantasy, not his wife and its all about his orgasm, not hers.

Not once did he talk about his wife in the post. The post was all about HIM!! Sound like a cuckold to you? Not really. cuckolds are selfless people. They care more about their wives sexual pleasure than their own. They want their wife to be happy, even at the expense of themselves. This guy isn't sacrificing anything for his wife. If he isn't happy, he doesnt care what his wife thinks.

completely agree with this. cuckolding is not simply a fantasy to jerk off to, it's an entire lifestyle where you have to navigate complex emotions and be completely and utterly submissive to your wife. HER pleasure takes precedence over yours and as a cuckold, it is your responsibility to help her achieve that level of pleasure. simply being passive and putting all of that responsibility on your wife while you just jerk off is a recipe for disaster.

however, i won't be entirely dismissive of OP here. these fantasies are completely normal and it's okay to feel shame or even disgust during post nut clarity. being sexually submissive (let alone being a cuckold) is looked down upon to say the least in this patriarchal world, which leads to men internalizing toxic masculinity. your fantasies and kinks are completely valid regardless of how emasculating or "taboo" they might be. hence invalidating OP as a cuckold is is not very productive.

my advice to OP would be to take it slow. discuss it with your wife and if she's similarly enthusiastic about this fetish, then progress from there. there are multiple guides on this forum and elsewhere on the internet on how to practice cuckolding responsibly and participate in ethical non monogamy, which OP can look at. and always remember that if at any point either of you wants to back out, there is always an exit.

 

[hungteacher]

completely agree with this. cuckolding is not simply a fantasy to jerk off to, it's an entire lifestyle where you have to navigate complex emotions and be completely and utterly submissive to your wife. HER pleasure takes precedence over yours and as a cuckold, it is your responsibility to help her achieve that level of pleasure. simply being passive and putting all of that responsibility on your wife while you just jerk off is a recipe for disaster.

however, i won't be entirely dismissive of OP here. these fantasies are completely normal and it's okay to feel shame or even disgust during post nut clarity. being sexually submissive (let alone being a cuckold) is looked down upon to say the least in this patriarchal world, which leads to men internalizing toxic masculinity. your fantasies and kinks are completely valid regardless of how emasculating or "taboo" they might be. hence invalidating OP as a cuckold is is not very productive.

my advice to OP would be to take it slow. discuss it with your wife and if she's similarly enthusiastic about this fetish, then progress from there. there are multiple guides on this forum and elsewhere on the internet on how to practice cuckolding responsibly and participate in ethical non monogamy, which OP can look at. and always remember that if at any point either of you wants to back out, there is always an exit.

I didnt want to be invalidating, but I have talked to thousands of men. The OP sounds like 99% of them who have no interest in being submissive or being subordinate to their wife. The OP did not indicate anywhere in his post that he cared about his wife's pleasure. So I will give benefit of the doubt and wait for the OP to reply and see what he has to say.

I dont want to prejudge him, but its pretty clear this was not an issue of post-nut clarity. This is an issue of "Im horny" now ive cum so "what's next?"

If I was training the OP with his wife, I would first recommend the OP wear a cage and that he could only orgasm once per week. At least to begin with. I would stretch that time to once every two weeks and eventually once a month. I think the problem the OP is really having is that he is allowing his libido to control him, instead of the other way around. And good cuckolds have full control over their sex drives.

 

[zohascuck]

I didnt want to be invalidating, but I have talked to thousands of men. The OP sounds like 99% of them who have no interest in being submissive or being subordinate to their wife. The OP did not indicate anywhere in his post that he cared about his wife's pleasure. So I will give benefit of the doubt and wait for the OP to reply and see what he has to say.

I dont want to prejudge him, but its pretty clear this was not an issue of post-nut clarity. This is an issue of "Im horny" now ive cum so "what's next?"

If I was training the OP with his wife, I would first recommend the OP wear a cage and that he could only orgasm once per week. At least to begin with. I would stretch that time to once every two weeks and eventually once a month. I think the problem the OP is really having is that he is allowing his libido to control him, instead of the other way around. And good cuckolds have full control over their sex drives.

that's a very valid point. men who are genuinely enthusiastic about cuckolding are already very attentive to their wife's needs. the lack of sex and/or the lack of effort on part of OP to give his wife pleasure using dildo, extra cunnilingus etc. is definitely a bit sus. also fully agree with your point that cuckolds should be in control of their libidos, and treat their wives' libidos as priority. if you're only enthusiastic about cuckolding when horny, then you'll probably end up regretting it if you engage in it.

 

[hungteacher]

that's a very valid point. men who are genuinely enthusiastic about cuckolding are already very attentive to their wife's needs. the lack of sex and/or the lack of effort on part of OP to give his wife pleasure using dildo, extra cunnilingus etc. is definitely a bit sus. also fully agree with your point that cuckolds should be in control of their libidos, and treat their wives' libidos as priority. if you're only enthusiastic about cuckolding when horny, then you'll probably end up regretting it if you engage in it.

Exactly. I think you hit the nail on the head. I cant fully explain how a cuckold would feel, since I have never been one, but I do know that men that fantasize about this who are not submissive or cuckolds usually get very angry or depressed if it does turn into a reality. Its the biggest regret of their life and unfortunately you can NEVER turn back.

 

[zohascuck]

Exactly. I think you hit the nail on the head. I cant fully explain how a cuckold would feel, since I have never been one, but I do know that men that fantasize about this who are not submissive or cuckolds usually get very angry or depressed if it does turn into a reality. Its the biggest regret of their life and unfortunately you can NEVER turn back.

very true, i remember when i first brought up cuckolding with my wife, her first words to me were "i'm afraid you're thinking with your dick". it was not until i showed her that i was enthusiastic OUTSIDE of the bedroom too, did she reciprocate my fantasies IN the bedroom.

 

[hungteacher]

very true, i remember when i first brought up cuckolding with my wife, her first words to me were "i'm afraid you're thinking with your dick". it was not until i showed her that i was enthusiastic OUTSIDE of the bedroom too, did she reciprocate my fantasies IN the bedroom.

I have been friends with many cuckolds. If you havent talked to my B2W friend @Neilson I recommend checking out his posts.
He is an experienced cuckold like you from the UK.
We need more cuckolds to help the younger guys who want this lifestyle to understand what it takes.

 

[Ilmiocornuto]

I have literary no field experience. But if what you’re saying it’s true and you’ve been with her for 10+ years without acting out on this fetish is insane!

Grab the bull by the horns (pun intended) and have some serious conversations about this fantasy of yours, I bet she would enjoy the sexual freedom. If you fuck her once a year I can’t imagine it would be so hard to convince her to try. And when she does, you might win your sexual life back.

Got nothing to lose!

The truth is that I started dating her in 2001, we have been together for 20 years and what has always caught my attention is that she doesn't even masturbate that I know of and she doesn't have sex toys either, although if I show her the 20 cm dildo I wouldn't be surprised if she uses it at least when I'm not there.

 

[Ilmiocornuto]

From what I have read here, many conclusions can be drawn, a fact that I forgot to mention is that before the idea of cuckolding was gone and until 2 or 3 days I did not remember again, now it is less and less time and practically if I masturbate and ejaculate within the hour I can start to remember.

The idea of the chastity belt would be to maintain that sexual tension for longer and of course not to cum while he cuckolds me, then let me masturbate telling me the details if I am not present.

And of course I would like her to be a hot wife with a steady lover if she wants or to resort to sex toys and tell me that I am no good to her in bed. I would like her to enjoy sex without limits of course but as long as my relationship does not suffer.

 

[Ilmiocornuto]

This is the collage I masturbate with, she is my wife with an ex from long ago, on the right are pictures of me and on the left what the bull represents to me.

To make it more humiliating I usually do it with the red mini thong and her sandals, while wearing a buttplug in my ass.

The fantasy has gone too far? It is related to the idea of female domination, she has a lot of character.

 

[zohascuck]

The truth is that I started dating her in 2001, we have been together for 20 years and what has always caught my attention is that she doesn't even masturbate that I know of and she doesn't have sex toys either, although if I show her the 20 cm dildo I wouldn't be surprised if she uses it at least when I'm not there.

if she already has such a low libido, i doubt she'll be interested in doing such an intense sexual activity. although no harm in asking. on average, how often do you guys have sex in one year?

 

[zohascuck]

From what I have read here, many conclusions can be drawn, a fact that I forgot to mention is that before the idea of cuckolding was gone and until 2 or 3 days I did not remember again, now it is less and less time and practically if I masturbate and ejaculate within the hour I can start to remember.

The idea of the chastity belt would be to maintain that sexual tension for longer and of course not to cum while he cuckolds me, then let me masturbate telling me the details if I am not present.

And of course I would like her to be a hot wife with a steady lover if she wants or to resort to sex toys and tell me that I am no good to her in bed. I would like her to enjoy sex without limits of course but as long as my relationship does not suffer.

mate nobody thinks about cuckolding 24/7, and nobody is saying that you need to be literally obsessed with it to be a cuckold. all we're saying is that you need to prioritize her pleasure above yours. this isn't just about you jerking off to another man fucking your wife. this is about your wife experiencing incredible amounts of pleasure and being sexually satisfied. your wife isn't a kink dispenser, she is her own person and you're responsible for her emotional wellbeing. these are all responsibilities that you should be aware of and ready to undertake if you want to do cuckolding.