If you're on Kasidie checkout the group NorthBay Meet & Greet. Full disclosure we've never attended one of the events just due to timing/logistics, but they seem to have regular non-play meetups and by the description may be what you're looking for:
Northbay Meet & Greet - TeamOreo Events is a community for Hotwife and Lifestyle enthusiasts! All Hotwifes/Vixens, Cucks/Stags, Lifestyle Couples and Unicorns/Singles are welcome! TeamOreo your new hosts are a committed Interacial lifestyle Couple. We will be hosting pop up monthly to bimonthly Lifestyle Meet & Greets in Marin & Sonoma Counties as well as future TeamOreo events/ house parties at Teamoreo Cottage in Santa Rosa, California.