So two years ago I googled the words 'interracial dating' and BTW was one of the top results. (Now it doesn't even show up at all).
I've been Interracial dating my entire life and thought I'd share my experience on this site so far and
RATE IT compared to all of my hook-up options. This is my Personal Experience and I based my ratings on:
Intent (the intention, or purpose of being there)
Usage (how easy or enjoyable it is to use and make a connection)
Success rate (how often I hooked up)
#1 Plenty of Fish
- Surprising, but of all the dating sites I’ve ever used, this
‘vanilla’ site actually netted me the most sexual encounters. POF, as it is known, attracts a younger (19-40) tech-savvy crowd and has a very dynamic interface. A lot of its users will also post their Snapchat, Facebook, Tinder and Instagram profile name to ‘inter-connect’ across different media. The two best things about POF - Search options and verification. POF requires every new member to fill out a long questionnaire (which takes about 30 minutes) to even
OPEN an account. That alone deters fakes, making POF
virtually spam-free.
I never got one Catfish from POF. (Lucky me!)
It also has a wide range of search options to find potential hook-ups. It is very easy to strike up a casual conversation. I rank POF at the Top Spot mainly because
INTENT and USAGE are both very high - there are dozens of search filters - Marriage/ Serious relationship/ Casual Hookup/ Just Friends - to choose from. This eliminates so much guesswork, whether looking for an ACTUAL relationship or just a quick fuck.
Intent - Very high (5 out of 5) - If you are on POF it's because you
really want to be there. The initial setup has something like
200 questions and takes about 30min to complete.
Usage - Also Very high (5/5) - It's just a fun place to hang out and strike up casual conversations. Or just look at photos of women
.
Success Rate - Very high (4.5/5) - Without sounding too much like a man-whore lol, In a 1-year period being active on POF I went on about 12 dates, and hooked up with at least 9 of them. That is a VERY high success rate for a single guy on a vanilla site. One of the women became my permanent GF (at the time). Not bad for a free site.
#2 Craigslist
- When it comes to hooking up, does anything beat good ole’ CL?
There is a definite love/ hate about CL, but is it any different than Vegas odds? - most times you are going to crap out. but sometimes you can win
BIG. The main upside to CL is the
immediacy of a posting an ad. Most CL ads are looking for something NOW, as in RIGHT NOW - or at least that same day. If it works out? Congratulations,
you’re about to get laid within the next few hours! Otherwise, just keep searching.
With CL, one can post and be as specific as needs be, setting the parameters for who should (and should
NOT) contact you. Then, sit back and wait for the magic to happen ... You can 'filter' results by simply deleting unwanted emails.
I only rank CL so high based on my personal success. It is possible that I got EXTREMELY lucky - but I did post some very well-written ads and got great responses. The irony of CL is that, for the huge proliferation of weirdos lurking about, I've met quite a number of very normal and professional people - not to mention extremely attractive women - who simply wanted to get laid,
Fast! No strings attached (NSA).
The
MAIN downside to CL is
Buyer Beware - sometimes you don't know what you're really going to get! But, just like Vegas, playing is the excitement! lol -
The other downside to CL is, in the past year or two, most Casual Couple listings are 90% gay/bi-sexual men using their women to feed their own gay lust. Smh....
Intent - Very high (5 out of 5). You're only on Craigslist Casual for ONE thing - to hook up and fuck ASAP. No frills and no ambiguity.
Usage - Decent (3.5/5) - It's easy to post and it's FREE, but you need to be very specific about what you're looking for. Even then, you have to filter all the bullshit. But since it's emails just delete the bad ones. Still...there's no surefire way to vet or verify. High chance of being catfish!
Success Rate - Low, but... (2/5) - CL is like winning a scratch-off lol. You can WIN BIG. Most of the times I searched I came up empty.
HOWEVER....I've met some
insanely hot women on CL who were looking for a NSA good time. This includes three of my former BDSM Submissive sluts and one FWB Lover I had for 2 years. Again, like Vegas...the winning keeps you going back
#3 KIK
- You're probably rolling your eyes at this one
, but I got the HIGHEST concentration of PUSSY in a shortest length of time using KIK - more than any other platform!
When used to its full potential - this simple chat app is incredibly effective for meeting people and networking. As the saying goes, it isn’t so much the tool, but who is using it, and how.
In this case, Kik has two great features which sets it apart from other hook-up apps:
Live verification and Group chats.
With Kik Groups you can form a niche Group (ex: Austin BBC Gangbangs) and only allow those people who are there explicitly for that purpose. Admins can set parameters, assign moderators, send out invites and build a great network of like-minded people. Hell, you can even kick people out of groups and BAN them.
In 2015, I moderated a BBC Kik Group which grew so successful it
folded into an even LARGER Kik Lifestyle Group. My group connected me to a larger BBC/hotwife network here in Austin/San Antonio area. I met more women in the span of that summer than I had at any other time (other than being in college).
Our group(s) held monthly meet-and-greets and threw some
epic adult parties.
Kik's Live verification (camera and video)
virtually eliminates Fakes. If you cannot submit a Live ‘welcome’ video, you simply cannot join the party.
The reason I rate Kik #3 is because the main
‘downside’ to Kik is you have to CONSTANTLY and ACTIVELY CHAT. The group dynamic is painfully addictive and you can spend
hours in a chat session. And, as a group Moderator I spent waaaay too much personal time planning adult activities. The phrase ‘
Too much of a good thing’ applied here.
(
@AlphaRyder, would you agree?)
Intent - Very high (4.5 out of 5). With
Kik Group,
‘If you build it, they will come’. Finding
BBC Bulls was never a problem, but I've had Kik Groups
FULL of sexy women looking to get fucked by BBC
. Every so often a straggler came along and had to be removed.
Usage - Extremely High (5/5) - It's super easy to use: It's a chat App! Also, photos and videos upload very quickly and now Kik allows live video chat. Pretty awesome. This eliminates catfish and fakes by 100%.
Success Rate - Higher than expected(4/5) - Kik is all about chatting and networking. While it's not a guarantee to get laid, a great group will introduce you to a LOT of cool local people - who in turn may bring in MORE cool people. I've
literally had Group females introduce me to their female friends for hooking up. Threesomes and Gangbangs were commonplace. Sometimes it was almost TOO easy.
#4, Adult Friend Finder
- Because it is advertised exclusively as an Adult Lifestyle website the Intent factors at 5 out of 5. If you’re on AFF, you are there to FUCK, plain and simple
.
I also add in the great interface - chat, live videos, contests, blogging, point system, multi-tiered premium package, live video streaming, etc... It
is a full fledged adult playground with all the bells and whistles.
I actually started out my Lifestyle on AFF (a female friend introduced me to it). Hooking up is hooking up, usually no strings attached. The best feature about AFF is the Testimonials. A great testimony will probably get you laid. The more active you are as a member, the better your chances. I filled out my my AFF profile to nearly 100% and that boosted my page rating to show up higher in searches. Also, a
Gold Member will be displayed on the Front Page.
For me, AFF ranked slightly below CL simply because Craigslist has the straightforward immediacy factored in. Also, AFF lacked the defining niche aspect of a Kik Group. I met some very
hot women on AFF, but more importantly I also made a few new friends.
Intent - Extremely high (5 out of 5). It is a website explicitly for Adult Lifestyle so safe to assume that everyone is there to hook up and have sex
.
Usage - Good (3/5) - Besides simply opening an account and posting a photo (or video), there is a lot to explore on AFF. It has a
LOT of content, plus bells and whistles. It takes a while to get used to everything. I found myself chatting and blogging just to meet chicks lol.
Success Rate -Depends (3/5) - Surprisingly, even though this is explicitly a Sex Site, it wasn't as easy as I thought. Cool thing: AFF actually has a
Money Back Guarantee for guys to get laid!
While this is good to know, I simply chatted with a LOT of women. Once I hooked up with a few, it got a bit easier. A
Testimonial can make or break success!
#5, Real Life
- LOL! For the Purist, nothing beats real life connections- except options! I think it's funny that I ranked Real Life at #5 below a chat app lmao. I mean, Real life obvious perks, mainly SEEING and KNOWING what you get in real time. But since we do live in the Internet/social media age,
Convenience and ease of use trumps real life.
Granted, I am 'old school' - I was young, single, and dating BEFORE the internet and social media were a thing, so 100% of my earlier conquests were Real Life. But since the advent of online dating, I can say that real life has fallen off a bit. Real life takes a lot more energy, time, and commitment (three things I lack anymore) to make a connection.
since I started online dating, I can honestly say that I've met more attractive women from a broader spectrum. In fact, my last three girlfriends (one white, one black, one Mexican mixed) I met on dating websites. For that reason alone is why I rank Real Life this low.
Intent - Decent (3/ 5). You can never be too sure, so it takes plenty of conversation and skill to gauge a woman's interest level and seduce her. Depending on the venue one can ASSUME intent, but even then....
Usage - Decent (3/5) - Real life requires the 3 Ps - Preparation, Planning, and Process. A lot of my experience related to when I was younger. Meeting someone in person can be daunting, especially in this social media world. Now, with internet dating a great profile can do all the work
Success Rate - Fair (2.5/5) - So much can go right or wrong in Real Life. Dealing with In- your-face emotions and real-time situations! Real life is a grind and a hustle. But the more I went out, it became easier and I got more successful. It is seriously a numbers game.
#6 Black To White
- As much as I like hanging out here, this site actually ranks comparatively low since it’s more a lifestyle
discussion forum and not an actual dating/hooking up site.
The best part is that people new to the Lifestyle can find a WEALTH of information on here. There is a ton of material to read about, and photos to look at. Overall, It lacks a lot of options, bells and whistles that a full-service dating site offers. Hooking up IS possible (as one member said, ‘
adequate’ lol) but compared to other social technology, making a good connection on BTW is very hit or miss. and a bit antiquated.
There is no search or algorithm to filter potential connections, Signing up is simply creating a username so the possibility of dealing with fakes/flakes is extremely high.
In fact, Fakes is a problem on here. More than I've encountered on other sites. Other than that, I always say that life is what you make it', so I fully engage in chats and conversations with other members. 95% of the time it doesn't translate into sex, but its cool.
Intent - very low (2/5) - Since this isn't an actual dating site, the forum slants heavily towards fetish fantasy and discussions. Most people are simply out of curiosity - window shoppers. The amount of fakes and bots is STAGGERING.
Usage - Good (3/5) - I mean, it's straight to the point: it's a discussion forum with a lot of good information. Profiles can be viewed and messages can be sent. There isn't much else to do, really. You create a username and hop right in
Success Rate - Super low, but... (1.5/5) - I've had
hundreds of messages and yet (contrary to popular belief) only had
3 actual hookups in 2 years! BUT (here comes the but), as My luck would have it, I met my sexy Hotwife Girlfriend and that makes it all worth it
*** The rest of these hookups below didn't get me much, so I'll keep them short
#7, Tinder - From what I understand the early days of Tinder were awesome! It was known as the
sex app. It has since morphed into something trying to be a legitimate dating app, but it is
rife with spam and bots. There is NO verification process so it is really hit or miss. Just make a Facebook account and sign up. But that can faked as well. Some of my Guy friends tell me they hook up off of Tinder. Maybe I joined too late in the game?
I dunno. but like every other guy on Tinder, I probably right-swiped over
1,000 women yet had ONE encounter! Pitiful! lmao
.
[UPDATE] - a buddy of mine told me that
Tinder is now the de-facto place for Back Page hoes!
#8, FetLife
- A pure Fetish site, so
intent is extremely high (5/5).
Usage (Content and interface) are also high (4 out of 5 for both). Downside for me is because it’s SO niche, if you don’t have a very particular kink (like knot-tying), it is kinda hard to make a suitable match. I chatted with some very hot ladies on Fet, but no sexual meet-ups.
#9, Match
- The granddaddy of online dating! Match has been around forever and I was on there back in the late 1990s. At that time it was the most 'vanilla' site and I got NO action lol! Social media has made this all but obsolete. IMO, Match is like the Myspace of dating lol.
#10, Bumble
- I tried Bumble for 1 week. It was POINTLESS. Bumble netted me ZERO hook-ups.
Intent/Success were extremely low (1/5) since all you can do is create a profile. Unlike the infamous
Tinder, on Bumble, guys cannot initiate first contact so really you just right swipe a bunch of chicks and twiddle your fingers, waiting and hoping that a chick will contact you. Bumble is the blue balls of hookup apps
.
*So there is my hook-up history
. I would like to hear from other members and tell me some of Your best places to meet people!
-
Mike
